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Tulsa Sam 52

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This is a tough one if you love animals, but I need your opinions. My companion of thirty plus years was kidnapped by a nursing home (oh, yes it happens read my other blogs . . . I will update), leaving her cat in my care.

I am very much a cat (and dog) person, and have had and rescued dozens and dozens of cats and dogs over my 60+ years. Diane's cat "Twizzler" is HIGHLY SENSITIVE! With her "family," suddenly gone (Fred, Diane, Sparkle - it's a long story) she went into deep mourning and confusion.

Of course I tried to fill their place, and I gave her the kind of loving that cats especially appreciate, but even with my decades of knowing what cats like, it took me months to gain her real trust, and she has known me for her entire life.

Even though I fed her what she liked to eat, and the most gentle and loving attention, she grieved for them constantly, would stare at their empty chairs, lost most of her fur, and was reduced to skin and bones. I truly didn't see how she could continue much longer. She looked like a walking skeleton with most of her fur gone.

However with my continued loving attention I slowly gained her confidence and she has returned to better health and weight, though she still looks awful.

HERE IS MY IMPOSSIBLE TO ANSWER QUESTION: Due to Pennsylvania's third world legal system and corrupt courts, I will be homeless in a couple of weeks. At 73 I will NOT be homeless; my plans to CTB are well set and I will cross over because I have no choice. BUT, WHAT DO I DO WITH TWIZZLER the cat? I have tried to re-home her, but no one wants her. She is almost 15 so is nearing the end of her life. The local shelter might take her, but I cannot imagine anyone adopting her. AND if she went into such an anxiety spiral with someone she has known and trusted her entire life, and while still living in the same house she has lived in for the last ten years, what might it do to her to be stuck in a cage in a place she doesn't know, surrounded by strange people and animals? I think it would be a living hell for her. A final torment in her last years.

Twizzler wants to be with me all the time. She sleeps on my shoulder all night, and is stretched out beside me as I write this. She is miserable whenever she is not with me.

I have read a great deal about life after death and there is a strong consensus out pets cross over just as humans do. But what is more humane? Do I abandon her when I CTB, or is it more humane to have her put to sleep and meet her in the next world?

The hardest thing I have had to do is to have a pet put to sleep to end its suffering, but that was always at the advice of a vet. Twizzler is very old but what is more humane? To abandon her here knowing her life will almost certainly be frightening and lonely in a cage until she dies, or let her cross peacefully in the hope we will meet in the next world within a few days? What would you do?
 
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TBONTB

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This is a tough one if you love animals, but I need your opinions. My companion of thirty plus years was kidnapped by a nursing home (oh, yes it happens read my other blogs . . . I will update), leaving her cat in my care.

I am very much a cat (and dog) person, and have had and rescued dozens and dozens of cats and dogs over my 60+ years. Diane's cat "Twizzler" is HIGHLY SENSITIVE! With her "family," suddenly gone (Fred, Diane, Sparkle - it's a long story) she went into deep mourning and confusion.

Of course I tried to fill their place, and I gave her the kind of loving that cats especially appreciate, but even with my decades of knowing what cats like, it took me months to gain her real trust, and she has known me for her entire life.

Even though I fed her what she liked to eat, and the most gentle and loving attention, she grieved for them constantly, would stare at their empty chairs, lost most of her fur, and was reduced to skin and bones. I truly didn't see how she could continue much longer. She looked like a walking skeleton with most of her fur gone.

However with my continued loving attention I slowly gained her confidence and she has returned to better health and weight, though she still looks awful.

HERE IS MY IMPOSSIBLE TO ANSWER QUESTION: Due to Pennsylvania's third world legal system and corrupt courts, I will be homeless in a couple of weeks. At 73 I will NOT be homeless; my plans to CTB are well set and I will cross over because I have no choice. BUT, WHAT DO I DO WITH TWIZZLER the cat? I have tried to re-home her, but no one wants her. She is almost 15 so is nearing the end of her life. The local shelter might take her, but I cannot imagine anyone adopting her. AND if she went into such an anxiety spiral with someone she has known and trusted her entire life, and while still living in the same house she has lived in for the last ten years, what might it do to her to be stuck in a cage in a place she doesn't know, surrounded by strange people and animals? I think it would be a living hell for her. A final torment in her last years.

Twizzler wants to be with me all the time. She sleeps on my shoulder all night, and is stretched out beside me as I write this. She is miserable whenever she is not with me.

I have read a great deal about life after death and there is a strong consensus out pets cross over just as humans do. But what is more humane? Do I abandon her when I CTB, or is it more humane to have her put to sleep and meet her in the next world?

The hardest thing I have had to do is to have a pet put to sleep to end its suffering, but that was always at the advice of a vet. Twizzler is very old but what is more humane? To abandon her here knowing her life will almost certainly be frightening and lonely in a cage until she dies, or let her cross peacefully in the hope we will meet in the next world within a few days? What would you do?
I am very old (63) So my ideas are sort of out of sync with the world. But given her advanced age I would be comfortable putting her down. Just me, I know others would disagree...and hopefully some will! (Although then you still won't know what to do!)
 
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whywere

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If it was me, I would:

1st Ask around to friends and neighbors if they would love to have a loving pet.

2nd If not, then I would take the pet to a humane shelter.

3rd If there is no 100% viable option, then I would have a vet put the pet to sleep.

I grew up on a dairy farm in the middle of now where and every once in a while, almost always a dog, would be on the gravel road. I would take them in and feed, house and love them.

For me, dumping a pet in the wild, is horrible beyond words and what I saw growing up with abandoned pets that I would take in broke my heart. Dirty, completely scared, out of their mind and so very hungry always.

Also, I am 69, and I care about you VERY much, as we are family here and I will say a prayer for you when I retire this evening.

Walter
 
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Hollowman

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Letting her cross peacefully would be the best thing in my opinion. Sorry you're in this situation. I've had to have two pets put down recently. It's awful.
 
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As much as I hate saying this, I think you should find a humane way to put her down with you. You'll have to be careful, though, because some of that could arouse suspicion (depending on your history, I know if I started giving things away I'd have an immediate eye kept on me)
 

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