Anarchy
Invisible anarchist
- Jul 9, 2018
- 383
I hate when people turn all of your distress into an opportunity for them be a 'good' person and do their 'job' of 'helping' you. They just make it all about them. They see you suffering, and instead of being concerned and treating you with compassion and respect, they just see a problem that needs to be fixed. That THEY need to fix. And then, if you continue being distressed, they get angry and frustrated with you. It's not even their fucking business - they obviously don't care how you feel, otherwise they wouldn't make you feel even worse by disrespecting you. But, they turn it into their business. And suddenly it isn't even about the distressed person: it's all about the other person and how they need to do what THEY think is right, just to get some personal satisfaction from it.
By making it into their problem, they give themselves a free pass to insult and offend the other person. Distressed person feels bad about being shamed? Doesn't matter, because that wasn't the other person's intention. Besides, the other person knows what's best for them, right? So, even though shaming and blaming the distressed person makes them feel bad, putting them at a higher risk of killing themselves, which is the exactly what people claim to want to avoid, it's okay, because the other person thinks what they're saying is right. And being right is obviously more important than the actual proclaimed aim of these verbal attacks - suicide prevention. Why make someone want to live when you have the chance to be right?
And then, these idiots are entitled enough to claim that arguing with the person for not 'getting better' and the like, is actually what will prevent suicide. Well, I would like somebody to explain just how in the hell insulting and belittling people will prevent suicide. Oh, right, I forgot, it will because other people think it will, and whatever they think must be right because they're morally infallible angels.
Thye think that it's more important to follow their morals and do what they think is right rather than make the distressed person feel better. Even though making the distressed person feel better is exactly the thing that will help. But if you bring this up, they'll go on about how they are helping because they're doing as much as they can, and they'll make the distressed person feel even worse for 'rejecting help'. They have an attitude of "I'm trying my best here, so you have no right to be offended by me".
All of these suicide hotlines, and psychriatic hospitals, and mental health professionals... they make people lose sight of the real goal. Sure, they can help some people, but... I think that it's just a bit odd. It's odd that people see a distressed person and immeditately they think of those things, and they barely even think about making the other person feel better. People forget, or ignore the fact that the only thing that will make someone better is something that makes them feel better, not what others think will make them feel better.
There are a lot of suicidal people who wouldn't even feel suicidal if they had someone who talked them calmly and were compassionate and respectful towards them. But if they say that that's what they want, people make out that they're unreasonable because apparently such an approach is seemingly too simple to make someone want to live.
So, these people use other people's suffering to give them their daily fix of moral satisfaction, and then they have the audacity to make them feel bad for not wanting their 'help'. They resort to lines such as "I'm only frustrated with you because I love you", and, "You say you don't like me shouting but you were shouting at me".
They think that whatever they do is acceptable because 'their heart is in the right place'. But really, they are just as bad, or maybe even worse, than people who want suicidal people to suffer. At least the latter group have no discrepancies between what they say and do.
By making it into their problem, they give themselves a free pass to insult and offend the other person. Distressed person feels bad about being shamed? Doesn't matter, because that wasn't the other person's intention. Besides, the other person knows what's best for them, right? So, even though shaming and blaming the distressed person makes them feel bad, putting them at a higher risk of killing themselves, which is the exactly what people claim to want to avoid, it's okay, because the other person thinks what they're saying is right. And being right is obviously more important than the actual proclaimed aim of these verbal attacks - suicide prevention. Why make someone want to live when you have the chance to be right?
And then, these idiots are entitled enough to claim that arguing with the person for not 'getting better' and the like, is actually what will prevent suicide. Well, I would like somebody to explain just how in the hell insulting and belittling people will prevent suicide. Oh, right, I forgot, it will because other people think it will, and whatever they think must be right because they're morally infallible angels.
Thye think that it's more important to follow their morals and do what they think is right rather than make the distressed person feel better. Even though making the distressed person feel better is exactly the thing that will help. But if you bring this up, they'll go on about how they are helping because they're doing as much as they can, and they'll make the distressed person feel even worse for 'rejecting help'. They have an attitude of "I'm trying my best here, so you have no right to be offended by me".
All of these suicide hotlines, and psychriatic hospitals, and mental health professionals... they make people lose sight of the real goal. Sure, they can help some people, but... I think that it's just a bit odd. It's odd that people see a distressed person and immeditately they think of those things, and they barely even think about making the other person feel better. People forget, or ignore the fact that the only thing that will make someone better is something that makes them feel better, not what others think will make them feel better.
There are a lot of suicidal people who wouldn't even feel suicidal if they had someone who talked them calmly and were compassionate and respectful towards them. But if they say that that's what they want, people make out that they're unreasonable because apparently such an approach is seemingly too simple to make someone want to live.
So, these people use other people's suffering to give them their daily fix of moral satisfaction, and then they have the audacity to make them feel bad for not wanting their 'help'. They resort to lines such as "I'm only frustrated with you because I love you", and, "You say you don't like me shouting but you were shouting at me".
They think that whatever they do is acceptable because 'their heart is in the right place'. But really, they are just as bad, or maybe even worse, than people who want suicidal people to suffer. At least the latter group have no discrepancies between what they say and do.
