The difference between male and female autists

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I might be on the spectrum. I have two friends on the spectrum. We are all men. Last year I dated a woman and she acted so weird. I am pretty sure she had autism but I never told her that because beforehand she told me to stop "analyzing her" Lol. I might actually have that pathology not sure which illness is responsible for that. She took walks in the nature almost all the time. She had 3 weeks vacation and it was the sole thing she did. She did it all alone and emphasized it is better that way.

Here a summary of 10 difference:
Autism spectrum disorder (ASD) manifests differently in males and females, influenced by biological, social, and diagnostic factors. Below is a list of 10 differences, based on research and clinical observations, while acknowledging that individual experiences vary widely:

1. Diagnostic Rates
   • Males are diagnosed with autism at a higher rate (approximately 4:1 ratio) than females, partly due to diagnostic criteria historically based on male presentations.
2. Social Presentation
   • Females often excel at "masking" or camouflaging autistic traits, mimicking social behaviors to blend in, while males may display more overt social difficulties.
3. Special Interests
   • Female autists tend to have interests that align with societal norms (e.g., animals, literature, or pop culture), which may seem less "unusual," while male interests (e.g., trains, computers) may stand out as more stereotypically autistic.
4. Communication Style
   • Females may appear more verbally fluent and socially engaged, even if internally struggling, whereas males may show more direct or limited verbal communication.
5. Sensory Sensitivities
   • Both genders experience sensory issues, but females may internalize or express discomfort less visibly (e.g., avoiding certain textures privately) compared to males, who might react more outwardly.
6. Emotional Regulation
   • Females often experience higher rates of co-occurring anxiety or depression, channeling emotional challenges inward, while males may externalize through behaviors like aggression or meltdowns.
7. Social Relationships
   • Females are more likely to desire and pursue social connections, even if they struggle, while males may be more comfortable with solitude or have fewer social expectations placed on them.
8. Behavioral Expression
   • Males may exhibit more repetitive or stereotyped behaviors (e.g., hand-flapping, lining up objects), which are more readily identified as autistic, while females' behaviors may be subtler or socially acceptable.
9. Co-occurring Conditions
   • Females are more likely to be diagnosed with conditions like eating disorders or borderline personality disorder alongside autism, while males may have higher rates of ADHD or conduct disorders.
10. Age of Diagnosis

• Females are often diagnosed later, sometimes in adolescence or adulthood, due to masking and less obvious symptoms, while males are typically identified earlier in childhood.

These differences reflect trends, not absolutes, and are shaped by a mix of biology (e.g., brain structure differences, hormonal influences) and socialization (e.g., gender expectations). The web highlights ongoing discussions, like posts on X noting how female autists are underdiagnosed due to their ability to "pass" as neurotypical, but no single source fully encapsulates the complexity. Always consider individual variation when applying these generalizations.

From the societal perspective women seem to be handle autism better. They are more adapted and skilled in hiding it. I think the society would be better if female traits would have a higher value. For example care work is often done by women. It is ironic that I am the one who points that out because I am a nursing case. Lmao. It is interesting that women seem to tend to internalize her struggle with autism. It might also mean they suffer more? Or maybe because they have a better social network they struggle less? Or it keeps the balance?

Men tend to more violence. At the same time the justice system is not fully fair. If women become abusive and violent they often get labeled with borderline personality disorder and don't end up in prison for that. While violent and abusive men tend to go to prison getting an antisocial disorder. (borderline often comes with that in males)

I am not fully convinced of female foreign policies (value related approach). But I think it would be better if more women were in higher positions simply because too homogeneous teams on the top of politics/companies is not a good idea. Otherwise they tend to an herd mentality and confirmation bias.

What do you think?