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mrtime87
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- Jul 9, 2024
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We all will die, and that is comforting, but not all of our deaths will be the same.
Knowing outside of some kind of miracle, deep down I know I'm going to die a painful death, probably during the winter.
My whole adult life, going back to the 9th grade, I avoided going to dentists and doctors because I thought I would be fine.
Yes, I was that stupid. I'm now 38 years old and have a boatload of health problems, and it's apparent my quality of life has reached 0.
I lay down and have no future, and have to live the embarrassment of knowing I can't even get into a local homeless shelter because of my health deteriorating. I've stayed there before and I know they won't let me stay because of these health problems.
The moral is to listen to your teachers and see the dentist twice a year and the doctor for a yearly physical, but for me, I now have to face the prospect of dying a horrific death because I didn't take care of myself.
Deep down it's a maturity issue, and yes, it's too late to fix these character flaws.
I always stupidly thought I could just kill myself if things got bad, but the more realistic my situation becomes, the more I know that suicide isn't just something you can do to get out of a bad situation.
That's why I get frustrated when I read about people who have suicidal ideation despite good health and responsibility they take for their own life. If they knew what I was going thru, I honestly believe they would see their situation probably isn't that hard or bad.
Yes, their emotions are real, but they still have things to look forward to and have probably built a life where they can take care of themselves despite their depression or difficulties they find themselves going thru.
My situation is the opposite. I'm not depressed and thinking of ending my life. I'm literally looking down a barrel of a lifetime of bad decisions and serious character flaws. I don't know why, but my thought processes aren't normal. I honestly believe I have narcissistic personality disorder, and the more I try to be a normal person, the more apparent it becomes that I'm simply the problem.
I tried throughout my 20s and 30s to downplay my bad behavior, but the older I get the worst it's gotten, and now I can't even end my life to get out of the hole that I've dug myself into.
For anyone truly wanting to CTB, hopefully their situation isn't so dire that they have nothing left.
It's honestly the worst feeling in the world, knowing I want to end my life but realistically can't, and as much as I want to, can't improve the situation. It's literally to the point I can't change what I'm going thru, even in I had a gun.
I imagine I would be to intimidated to shoot myself, having never owned a gun or ever shot one. On paper, it's worse. Just make respond ble choices and work hard.
I was the student who got good grades but had no integrity or work ethic. I thought good grades alone would land me a stellar career and slowly succumbed to the reality that it takes hard work and ethics to do well in life. As I got older, i did get better at my jobs, but because of mental health issues still couldn't hold one down.
Someone recently posted about resetting their life, and that's honestly how I feel. I look back and know where I've made mistskes, but to truly fix the problem I would have to fundamentally change who I am as a human being.
I don't think that's possible and honestly it's too late.
I've tried therapy and medication, but the only response I get is if you want to change who you are then do it.
I can't, even when I think I'm trying.
I thought religion would save me, or that God would take care of me, but the more I look back at this erroneous thought process, the more fundamentally flawed it becomes. God gave us free will according to many Christians, and that means we must take care of ourselves. We can turn to a higher power for comfort and discipline, even guidance, but to think so arrogantly that God will just fix our problems while we do nothing to better ourselves is ultimately a flaw.
For me, the tragedy is that at 21 years old I could have gotten medical help to fix my problem, and simply thought nothing bad would happen to me. It's gross and irresponsible, and now at 38 cannot be avoided.
Everyone can see that I'm not well and the only thing I can say is that I was that arrogant and foolish as to not get help.
I hate myself for how I think and act, and look now at having no where to go in a few months.
My belief d was built around the selfish idea that I was special enough that God slone would take care of me, if all I did is as say that he would.
Human suffering is real, and the closer I get to this, the more I see my character flaws being exposed.
If there is an afterlife, maybe the reset button would be good, almost like a movie I could watch where I could see the ideal version of my life where I made the right choices and acted responsibily.
But deep down I know I'm not this person, and honestly, if I was, I'm not sure who I currently am would even exist.
It's weird to think that I accept my limitations, because I accept who I am. What I cannot accept is what I've done, and now I simply wait for the worst, with no one to turn to and look for guidance.
I see normal people who can function in society and simply get depressed knowing I'm not one of them, nor will I ever be.
It's truly a hopeless situation that hopefully others will learn from. As for me, I simply can vent and look to this site for support, but honestly can't find hope because I feel like the majority of people who post here don't realize how good they have it. I wish I could say the same, but there is literally nothing to look forward to but bad health that won't improve.
Hell is for real, and yes, I feel like I'm living thru it, slowly counting down the he days to it's all over. If there is such a thing as a fate worse than death, I'm experiencing it.
Please take your health seriously, and if you have hope or can start doing so, see the light that suicide really won't solve anything. Yes, like in my case, it could get someone out of a bad situation, but unless there is a miracle, would be painful, even if the pain was brief.
Suicide hurts everyone involved, and not many people support countries like Switzerland or Canada that do provide these limited services.
Know that even if you've made bad decisions, you hopefully took your h wlth serious and can still get help.
It's a wonderful life, and people love a comeback story of someone turning theres around.
I have friends who have changed their situation, knowing they were bad people and doing somethings mg about it.
Change is real, but don't let arrogance blind you from getting help.
Sometimes it's too late to fix a problem, and telling yourself you will just kill yourself to get out of it will only make it worse. The odds of actually CTB are very low, and most people who do die a horrific death full of pain and misery.
Shooting yourself, even if it's supposedly instantaneous, you will still feel the pain, oif only for a brief moment. Unless your delusional and in a mental state where you're not in control, say like how curt kobain was on heroin.
The same for hanging yourself.
Even the gold standard like nembutal, you will feel anxiety before hand, and unless are in a position of wealth, won't be able to die comfortably.
Get help while youre still able to and don't be foolish like I was because even if accepted suicide really isn't just something you can do.
I don't know if there is even a game way for someone to pass except for in old age, but you would have to be wise and live a good life, hopefully dying in the comfort of your own home.
For many people, this simply isn't possible, and as rare as it is, many do die in the worst situations.
Knowing outside of some kind of miracle, deep down I know I'm going to die a painful death, probably during the winter.
My whole adult life, going back to the 9th grade, I avoided going to dentists and doctors because I thought I would be fine.
Yes, I was that stupid. I'm now 38 years old and have a boatload of health problems, and it's apparent my quality of life has reached 0.
I lay down and have no future, and have to live the embarrassment of knowing I can't even get into a local homeless shelter because of my health deteriorating. I've stayed there before and I know they won't let me stay because of these health problems.
The moral is to listen to your teachers and see the dentist twice a year and the doctor for a yearly physical, but for me, I now have to face the prospect of dying a horrific death because I didn't take care of myself.
Deep down it's a maturity issue, and yes, it's too late to fix these character flaws.
I always stupidly thought I could just kill myself if things got bad, but the more realistic my situation becomes, the more I know that suicide isn't just something you can do to get out of a bad situation.
That's why I get frustrated when I read about people who have suicidal ideation despite good health and responsibility they take for their own life. If they knew what I was going thru, I honestly believe they would see their situation probably isn't that hard or bad.
Yes, their emotions are real, but they still have things to look forward to and have probably built a life where they can take care of themselves despite their depression or difficulties they find themselves going thru.
My situation is the opposite. I'm not depressed and thinking of ending my life. I'm literally looking down a barrel of a lifetime of bad decisions and serious character flaws. I don't know why, but my thought processes aren't normal. I honestly believe I have narcissistic personality disorder, and the more I try to be a normal person, the more apparent it becomes that I'm simply the problem.
I tried throughout my 20s and 30s to downplay my bad behavior, but the older I get the worst it's gotten, and now I can't even end my life to get out of the hole that I've dug myself into.
For anyone truly wanting to CTB, hopefully their situation isn't so dire that they have nothing left.
It's honestly the worst feeling in the world, knowing I want to end my life but realistically can't, and as much as I want to, can't improve the situation. It's literally to the point I can't change what I'm going thru, even in I had a gun.
I imagine I would be to intimidated to shoot myself, having never owned a gun or ever shot one. On paper, it's worse. Just make respond ble choices and work hard.
I was the student who got good grades but had no integrity or work ethic. I thought good grades alone would land me a stellar career and slowly succumbed to the reality that it takes hard work and ethics to do well in life. As I got older, i did get better at my jobs, but because of mental health issues still couldn't hold one down.
Someone recently posted about resetting their life, and that's honestly how I feel. I look back and know where I've made mistskes, but to truly fix the problem I would have to fundamentally change who I am as a human being.
I don't think that's possible and honestly it's too late.
I've tried therapy and medication, but the only response I get is if you want to change who you are then do it.
I can't, even when I think I'm trying.
I thought religion would save me, or that God would take care of me, but the more I look back at this erroneous thought process, the more fundamentally flawed it becomes. God gave us free will according to many Christians, and that means we must take care of ourselves. We can turn to a higher power for comfort and discipline, even guidance, but to think so arrogantly that God will just fix our problems while we do nothing to better ourselves is ultimately a flaw.
For me, the tragedy is that at 21 years old I could have gotten medical help to fix my problem, and simply thought nothing bad would happen to me. It's gross and irresponsible, and now at 38 cannot be avoided.
Everyone can see that I'm not well and the only thing I can say is that I was that arrogant and foolish as to not get help.
I hate myself for how I think and act, and look now at having no where to go in a few months.
My belief d was built around the selfish idea that I was special enough that God slone would take care of me, if all I did is as say that he would.
Human suffering is real, and the closer I get to this, the more I see my character flaws being exposed.
If there is an afterlife, maybe the reset button would be good, almost like a movie I could watch where I could see the ideal version of my life where I made the right choices and acted responsibily.
But deep down I know I'm not this person, and honestly, if I was, I'm not sure who I currently am would even exist.
It's weird to think that I accept my limitations, because I accept who I am. What I cannot accept is what I've done, and now I simply wait for the worst, with no one to turn to and look for guidance.
I see normal people who can function in society and simply get depressed knowing I'm not one of them, nor will I ever be.
It's truly a hopeless situation that hopefully others will learn from. As for me, I simply can vent and look to this site for support, but honestly can't find hope because I feel like the majority of people who post here don't realize how good they have it. I wish I could say the same, but there is literally nothing to look forward to but bad health that won't improve.
Hell is for real, and yes, I feel like I'm living thru it, slowly counting down the he days to it's all over. If there is such a thing as a fate worse than death, I'm experiencing it.
Please take your health seriously, and if you have hope or can start doing so, see the light that suicide really won't solve anything. Yes, like in my case, it could get someone out of a bad situation, but unless there is a miracle, would be painful, even if the pain was brief.
Suicide hurts everyone involved, and not many people support countries like Switzerland or Canada that do provide these limited services.
Know that even if you've made bad decisions, you hopefully took your h wlth serious and can still get help.
It's a wonderful life, and people love a comeback story of someone turning theres around.
I have friends who have changed their situation, knowing they were bad people and doing somethings mg about it.
Change is real, but don't let arrogance blind you from getting help.
Sometimes it's too late to fix a problem, and telling yourself you will just kill yourself to get out of it will only make it worse. The odds of actually CTB are very low, and most people who do die a horrific death full of pain and misery.
Shooting yourself, even if it's supposedly instantaneous, you will still feel the pain, oif only for a brief moment. Unless your delusional and in a mental state where you're not in control, say like how curt kobain was on heroin.
The same for hanging yourself.
Even the gold standard like nembutal, you will feel anxiety before hand, and unless are in a position of wealth, won't be able to die comfortably.
Get help while youre still able to and don't be foolish like I was because even if accepted suicide really isn't just something you can do.
I don't know if there is even a game way for someone to pass except for in old age, but you would have to be wise and live a good life, hopefully dying in the comfort of your own home.
For many people, this simply isn't possible, and as rare as it is, many do die in the worst situations.
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