Venting [TW] I hate my fetish so much

[LifeIsASadist]

I wished I could have a normal fetish like a normal man, even I am disgusted by my own fetish that I can't even open up a about it to my family nor a gf (if I even ever get one in my miserable single life) unless I somehow get very very lucky to get the girl I always wanted. I hate life so much.

 

[DevonBostick'sAss]

I wished I could have a normal fetish like a normal man, even I am disgusted by my own fetish that I can't even open up a about it to my family nor a gf (if I even ever get one in my miserable single life) unless I somehow get very very lucky to get the girl I always wanted. I hate life so much.

What is your fetish if its not too rude to ask?

 

[Jadeith]

normal fetish

One might say that's kinda oxymoron as fetishes in general are considered being outside of accepted norms.
As for yours - dunno what makes you tick but as long as you do not hurt others without consent (because some people actually like the pain), i don't think you have anything to be ashamed of.

 

[Aergia]

If it helps, preferences on their own don't have moral status. You can't control your desires. I'm sorry that you're disgusted by your fetish but know that whatever it is, it can't make you a bad person.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I've sometimes thought fetishes were a bit like phobias. They don't always make sense but, we still feel them. Unless you're tempted to act on something that may end up hurting another being or, yourself, I think you should forgive yourself and just see it as one of those weird quirks we likely all have.

 

[bieatmania]

I don't ever feel bad about my fetish, I think it's just japanese way of cooming to drawing of 2D girls but I feel very detached when it comes to choosing the material.
Japanese 2D enthusiast would masturbate to most weird thing ever while having very normal and functioning social life and job.

 

[SVEN]

I can't even imagine what a "normal" fetish would be.

 

[BrazilianShyGuy]

can we talk about it? dm me

 

[RegretedFeeling]

I'm not trying to judge but it's coming on strong with this post, why can't anybody know?

Like as long as your not hurting kids or animals. Who cares. But if it is kids or animals,

 

[KuriGohan&Kamehameha]

I don't ever feel bad about my fetish, I think it's just japanese way of cooming to drawing of 2D girls but I feel very detached when it comes to choosing the material.
Japanese 2D enthusiast would masturbate to most weird thing ever while having very normal and functioning social life and job.

There's hardly any people in the west who have the same fetishes I did, but for some reason there are several I came across in the Japanese internet community.

I didn't really feel comfortable talking about these topics with my Japanese friends who would discuss these things openly though, because I feel like a woman who develops fetishes or types due to traumatic experiences further get thrown into the crazy, メンヘラ stereotype and treated worse.

OP, I don't think you being a sadist is too uncommon. That's something a lot of people are into, depending on how far you go with it. The women who share your interests just likely won't be very open about it at first until they feel they can trust you.

 

[Rymrgand]

I'm not trying to judge but it's coming on strong with this post, why can't anybody know?

Like as long as your not hurting kids or animals. Who cares. But if it is kids or animals,

An important distinction to do is that having a paraphilia is not the same as fulfilling it, and therefore there are good people who have that kind of paraphilias and they don't hurt anyone.

Assuming you understand it's wrong and you are able to control yourself and look for the necessary help (and even if you are ready to CTB, if nothing else works), it shouldn't be a problem. This applies to pedophilia, zoophilia, extreme sadism and more.

 

[invokat222]

Assuming you understand it's wrong and you are able to control yourself and look for the necessary help (and even if you are ready to CTB, if nothing else works),

Off topic question
Would you ctb only because you are a paraphile? A thing that comes to my mind is an extremely low quality of life that will come from such attractions. A thing you have to hide the whole time and the feeling of extreme stigma even if nobody knows, it would destroy me

 

[Rymrgand]

Off topic question
Would you ctb only because you are a paraphile? A thing that comes to my mind is an extremely low quality of life that will come from such attractions. A thing you have to hide the whole time and the feeling of extreme stigma even if nobody knows, it would destroy me

It depends. If you have paraphilic thoughts but you can mostly ignore them, then you don't necessarily have to live a extremely low quality life. You wouldn't need to feel especially bad about it either. Some people think that some thoughts are horrible and you are an horrible person even if you don't do nothing, just for having these thoughts. But if I'm honest, if you are a generally good person, you are still better than most people despite having that kind of thoughts. Of course, you would probably need to hide them to everyone, except maybe your closest loved ones, but that's not too bad. It's not like people usually talk about their sex lives with their coworkers, even if they are healthy.

If you can't control yourself, tho, and you are going to hurt someone, then you need to do something about it. You can try something else before CTB. Meds, therapy, going to a psych ward so you can't hurt someone, whatever. But if nothing else works (or if you prefer it to another solution), then yes, you should CTB.

So, would I do it if I was in this second situation? I mean, I'm not and I want to CTB anyway, so if I was, I would have another reason. And I don't know what I would do if paraphilia was the only reason. Trauma is an essential part of my personality, I have no idea what I would I think or how I would behave.

 

[33-vertebrae]

A lot of people have fucked up thoughts, desires, and secret titillations.

Who knows what the cause is: spiritual parasites? Childhood trauma?

If you hate your fetish, then maybe you could work within yourself to reject it; do some shadow work and dissect what the root cause of it could be.

 

[TheLastGreySky]

Since no one else shared their fetishes, I'll just share some of mine. But first and foremost sex is a natural part of life and you should not feel ashamed by gets you hot.

I love giving creampies and talking dirty.
A lot of women are into spanking, choking, etc and it really enhances things.

I love filming. I ask with most my partners fairly early on, and they're usually okay with it.

I've met a lot of people in the bdsm community that are Littles and while totally okay with some of that, there are certainly things involving that stuff that I would never try. You just have to find people who meet your particular interests. I mean...
There are furries pretty much everywhere now,
Whatever floats your boat.
Whatever flicks your Fox.
Whatever bakes your beans.