I chose option 2, but it wasn't necessarily after my life went downhill, one can also say it hasn't gone downhill yet either, just my mentality, but I adopted this view after taking a philosophy class which introduced me to the idea of antinatalism. Previously I hadn't really thought about the morality of having children and thought it must be morally acceptable due to being a necessity to continue biologically. But I realized that just because something is necessary for life doesn't make it morally right.
After I started questioning this I thought what right does someone else have to drag me into existence, I mean it sucks, It's tiring and painful and just waiting for it to end. And I think the answer was that they had no right to do so. I think if someone believes in right and wrong, then being born is one of the worst things you can submit someone to, you don't know what will come of their life and how it'll go no matter how much material wealth you have or emotional maturity or anything, my parents have done everything they can and I'm still here wanting to be relieved of existence. It's practically impossible to be certain that you will give birth to someone who will always enjoy or at least believe that their life is worth living. And the alternative is non existence, which is not a bad thing, it's good, I mean it's whatever "you" were before you were born, just not even here, and there's no you to feel pain. Idk those are most of the motivating ideas behind my antinatalism.
I'm okay with people having kids, I don't necessarily believe in morality, like go ahead and do what you like I guess. But I think it's ironic for people to believe in right and wrong and still feel morally empowered or joyed when creating life on a whim.
Existence is pain
And also since we're on this topic I think adoption is a great thing if you want to be a parent, I mean many of these children at least to my knowledge will be put in foster care? Or something of the sort if they're not adopted? I belive it's not a very ideal life compared to having a standard family i guess, not saying it's necessarily bad, but i think its not as endowed, anyway i believe that when you adopt a child you're trying to do your best to improve their life from what it would have been, I think it's beautiful
Sorry for the rambling, would love to hear anyone's responses