Discussion What best describes your state of mind when you found this forum? Poll

[Forever Sleep]

I'm curious. How would describe your state of mind when you discovered this place? Were you actively looking for methods? Why were you looking for it in the first place? I'm guessing the majority of people are actively suicidal when they type in enough of a specific search to find a forum such as this but, perhaps I'm wrong. Perhaps, since the increase in media publicity, non suicidal people find it too.

Do you suppose pro-lifers truly believe that people just stumble on it and get lured in and coaxed to kill themselves? I suppose my other hope is to dispell that myth (if it even exists.) I imagine most people are already sucidal to some degree before looking for this place. They don't just find themselves here after all! They searched for it and likely had to wade through the top most results containing help lines.

 

[rozeske]

This is what I never understand too. How someone accidently finds this place and is lured in to leaving a life they were otherwise content with. It's the same argument they make when a young user commits and the same one when it's older ones. It just doesn't make sense to me how a forum tricks you in to killing yourself.

 

[Namelesa]

I first found this place cus I was curious how it actually was (first learned about it from a video on YouTube) but mostly to know more effective ways to ctb if life gets too much for me. I now also like being here cus I don't feel alone in my views of suicide.

Most people are going to find this website cus they are already wanting to potentially commit suicide or want a place to interact with that thinks suicide is a valid option or they are really curious what the website is like from the bad publicity. No one that isn't already suicidal before interacting with this website is going to kill themselves.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I was actively suicidal when I first found this forum as I was sick and tired of all of the suicide method censorship that occurred within the media and I was hoping that perhaps there would be that one method that people haven't took into account and that I could easily access. There is SN but it isn't something that I can easily access.

 

[Forever Sleep]

This is what I never understand too. How someone accidently finds this place and is lured in to leaving a life they were otherwise content with. It's the same argument they make when a young user commits and the same one when it's older ones. It just doesn't make sense to me how a forum tricks you in to killing yourself.

It's because they see us as a cult I suppose. Plus, some have this weird idea that the longer term members here ( that would be me now too) are some sort of bad actors getting a thrill out of coaching others to die. Which is so sick. I've actually gotten to a point where I'm not all that comfortable on goodbye threads. Mostly because I have no idea what to say that doesn't sound like encouragement but doesn't sound pro-life either. 'I hope you find peace' is sounding so tired to me now but I've no idea what else to put.

Maybe they think people find the forum in what would/ should be a temporary depression but then, they just get dragged down further. I don't think that's impossible. I would agree that it can be an echo-chamber. Still- I think that assumes we are totally non self aware.

I've known plenty of members leave the forum, move over into recovery, take a break, because they recognised that they weren't quite gelling with the negative vibes here so much. That they wanted to give recovery a uninhibited shot. Which is good and people as far as I've seen have always wished them the best. I find it insulting personally to be considered vulnerable or gullible to that extent but, I suppose it's possible.

Really though, I think it's maybe that it's less painful for the relatives of those who have taken their own lives to believe it was outside influencers that pushed them to do it. (It probably was- just- not from here. It's our problematic lives that pushed us this far.) Rather than it being something the person took time to think through and do- even though they realised it would hurt those left behind.

I think that's the crux of it though. They don't want to blame the person they loved for (knowingly) leaving them with this pain. They'd rather blame someone else who 'made them do it'. Even if it's more abstract than that. Depression 'made them do it. That wasn't them.'

That could be true to an extent but, did it have such a hold on them that they could no longer reason at all? I actually doubt it. More that they absolutely hated the fact it would hurt their loved ones but, they just hoped they would forgive them because of the amount of pain they were in themselves. And more- that they'd probably already fought like mad to stop the pain but couldn't, so suicide became their only way out.

 

[Yume Nikki]

A bit of relief that I can actually vent/express my feelings about being suicidal without the fear of getting banned or censored like other social media platforms do. Also don't have to worry about the police showing up on my doorstep and locking me up in a mental hospital for talking about why I want to ctb.

 

[outrider567]

Actively, it had been over two months by then, when I finally found this priceless site