Cyber4ngel!
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- Aug 24, 2024
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Honestly, I need a place to vent and talk to people about this. I need opinions, advice, help, or whatever it may be.
My brother has always been a terrible person to me for as long as I can remember. However, there were also very isolated nice moments when we would have tea together and hang out.
About five months ago, we escaped from our abusive father's house and were able to live together after he was called out on Twitter and received over $8,000 in donations. Up to that point, everything was fine.
The issue is that he mentioned me many times in those posts to garner more sympathy, yet I never saw a single dollar from all of that. At least I had a room and my things. We never ate well even before moving out because my father wouldn't allow us to eat, and after we moved, my brother complained that money was tight.
We were paying $350 a month, and he said there wasn't enough money for food, yet he constantly made ridiculous purchases, like spending $40 on a miniature circus tent he insisted on having, giving $1,000 to his ex-boyfriend, spending over $450 on tattoo machines he only used three times for practice, $60 on yarn he never used, and about $1,000 on a trip to see a married man he couldn't get over who never paid him any attention. I could go on listing things.
I never had any of that; I only had my bed, my clothes, and I ate whatever I could get, which was mostly just plain noodles and similar things.
On top of that, he always forced me to do all the household chores. I would go out to buy groceries, clean, and take care of practically everything while he would only cook and leave me all the dirty dishes, which would grow mold and worms because he refused to clean up when it was his turn.
He always treated me poorly, and if I said no to something, he would get aggressive and yell at me, sometimes even leaving me without food.
So I never really had the option to refuse.
He would also take my things without asking and wouldn't take care of them. Many times he returned them broken or didn't return them at all, which is why I stopped lending him my stuff.
A few days ago, he returned from his trip, and I had cleaned the entire house to perfection except for his room because I didn't know where to put his things, and frankly, it wasn't my responsibility. I was already taking care of his two cats.
He came back in a great mood until he saw that I hadn't cleaned his room. He literally ran off, threw himself on the floor, and started hitting it and crying (we're talking about a 22-year-old man).
He then began treating me horribly, so I went to my room to do my own things and ignored him. He got even angrier and tried to take my charger, saying,"I lost my charger, so I'm going to use yours. Make sure your phone is charged because I'm going to use the charger now."I clearly told him no, and he didn't respond and just left.
I told my partner about it over a call because I found it both funny and infuriating. My brother must have been eavesdropping because he sent me a huge hateful message saying I was trash and that he was going to leave the house to live with our dad and leave me stuck with the rent alone (he's the one with the money, by the way).
I didn't respond because he had threatened to hurt himself and me multiple times and with a lot of other things, but he never goes through with it, so I thought this would be another one of his tantrums.
The next day, he came with my father (who he badmouthed to get all that money, our abuser) because they became friends as soon as we moved out, and they were talking every day (surprisingly).
From the very beginning, I completely cut off contact with that part of my family.Now I find out that the only reason he went back to my father and practically left me homeless was that he had spent all the money on his trip and on his foolish purchases.
He went and filled my father and all my relatives (even those I got along with) with lies about me being trash, that I hit him, that I verbally abused him, that I refuse to work, and that I don't help around the house at all. He even invented that I forced my partner to move into our house without asking and that I stole all the money and ate all the food, leaving him without anything to eat.
He also posted all of this on Twitter, asking for donations while spreading those lies, and he's getting a lot of money in dollars (we're from Argentina, so one dollar is quite a bit of Argentine money; 100 = more than 100,000.) (I survive a month eating meat, which is the most expensive, every day with 50,000).
He claims that all that money is going to be for me (a lie), and he didn't want to give it to me until I threatened to expose him. Even then, he didn't give me everything that was mine; he only gave me enough to survive for a few months and not enough to pay rent. So, I had to leave my house with just my things, and luckily my partner offered me a place to stay, but for now, I can only stay here as long as I have money for food.
It's worth mentioning that I haven't laid a hand on him since I was seven years old. I've never physically or verbally abused him, and I never brought my partner to live with us; at most, he would stay for three or four days, which he paid for with his own money. Not only that, but he also spent his money to feed my brother since he hardly ever bought food, opting instead to buy useless things.
I have been looking for a job for a long time and actively going out to find work and handing out my resumes everywhere, but I still haven't found anything because it's difficult to find a job here. My brother knows very well that I look for work daily.
I've never touched anything that belonged to him, and I ate less than he did so that he could eat, even going without food myself for him. And as I mentioned, I took care of 99% of the chores.
Right now, I don't know what to do because he is making money by spreading lies about me and receiving large donations based on that, while I am left homeless. Luckily, I can stay at my partner's house, but it's a temporary and unstable situation due to not having any income and me being ultimately a burden to him and his family also bc of my mental health and not having anybody to talk to, bc I blocked all my family members and i stopped talking to all my friends (bc of something unrelated) i am alone and i need him but i know that burdens him and i annoy him bc im clingy
I continue trying to take commissions, but it doesn't get very far because the algorithm doesn't help. I had to block all my relatives, so I have no one, not a single family member to help me.
I can't bring myself to ask for donations, and even if I did, I don't know if I would receive anything. I keep looking for work as always, but I still have nothing. I don't know what else to do
I would appreciate any help.
My brother has always been a terrible person to me for as long as I can remember. However, there were also very isolated nice moments when we would have tea together and hang out.
About five months ago, we escaped from our abusive father's house and were able to live together after he was called out on Twitter and received over $8,000 in donations. Up to that point, everything was fine.
The issue is that he mentioned me many times in those posts to garner more sympathy, yet I never saw a single dollar from all of that. At least I had a room and my things. We never ate well even before moving out because my father wouldn't allow us to eat, and after we moved, my brother complained that money was tight.
We were paying $350 a month, and he said there wasn't enough money for food, yet he constantly made ridiculous purchases, like spending $40 on a miniature circus tent he insisted on having, giving $1,000 to his ex-boyfriend, spending over $450 on tattoo machines he only used three times for practice, $60 on yarn he never used, and about $1,000 on a trip to see a married man he couldn't get over who never paid him any attention. I could go on listing things.
I never had any of that; I only had my bed, my clothes, and I ate whatever I could get, which was mostly just plain noodles and similar things.
On top of that, he always forced me to do all the household chores. I would go out to buy groceries, clean, and take care of practically everything while he would only cook and leave me all the dirty dishes, which would grow mold and worms because he refused to clean up when it was his turn.
He always treated me poorly, and if I said no to something, he would get aggressive and yell at me, sometimes even leaving me without food.
So I never really had the option to refuse.
He would also take my things without asking and wouldn't take care of them. Many times he returned them broken or didn't return them at all, which is why I stopped lending him my stuff.
A few days ago, he returned from his trip, and I had cleaned the entire house to perfection except for his room because I didn't know where to put his things, and frankly, it wasn't my responsibility. I was already taking care of his two cats.
He came back in a great mood until he saw that I hadn't cleaned his room. He literally ran off, threw himself on the floor, and started hitting it and crying (we're talking about a 22-year-old man).
He then began treating me horribly, so I went to my room to do my own things and ignored him. He got even angrier and tried to take my charger, saying,"I lost my charger, so I'm going to use yours. Make sure your phone is charged because I'm going to use the charger now."I clearly told him no, and he didn't respond and just left.
I told my partner about it over a call because I found it both funny and infuriating. My brother must have been eavesdropping because he sent me a huge hateful message saying I was trash and that he was going to leave the house to live with our dad and leave me stuck with the rent alone (he's the one with the money, by the way).
I didn't respond because he had threatened to hurt himself and me multiple times and with a lot of other things, but he never goes through with it, so I thought this would be another one of his tantrums.
The next day, he came with my father (who he badmouthed to get all that money, our abuser) because they became friends as soon as we moved out, and they were talking every day (surprisingly).
From the very beginning, I completely cut off contact with that part of my family.Now I find out that the only reason he went back to my father and practically left me homeless was that he had spent all the money on his trip and on his foolish purchases.
He went and filled my father and all my relatives (even those I got along with) with lies about me being trash, that I hit him, that I verbally abused him, that I refuse to work, and that I don't help around the house at all. He even invented that I forced my partner to move into our house without asking and that I stole all the money and ate all the food, leaving him without anything to eat.
He also posted all of this on Twitter, asking for donations while spreading those lies, and he's getting a lot of money in dollars (we're from Argentina, so one dollar is quite a bit of Argentine money; 100 = more than 100,000.) (I survive a month eating meat, which is the most expensive, every day with 50,000).
He claims that all that money is going to be for me (a lie), and he didn't want to give it to me until I threatened to expose him. Even then, he didn't give me everything that was mine; he only gave me enough to survive for a few months and not enough to pay rent. So, I had to leave my house with just my things, and luckily my partner offered me a place to stay, but for now, I can only stay here as long as I have money for food.
It's worth mentioning that I haven't laid a hand on him since I was seven years old. I've never physically or verbally abused him, and I never brought my partner to live with us; at most, he would stay for three or four days, which he paid for with his own money. Not only that, but he also spent his money to feed my brother since he hardly ever bought food, opting instead to buy useless things.
I have been looking for a job for a long time and actively going out to find work and handing out my resumes everywhere, but I still haven't found anything because it's difficult to find a job here. My brother knows very well that I look for work daily.
I've never touched anything that belonged to him, and I ate less than he did so that he could eat, even going without food myself for him. And as I mentioned, I took care of 99% of the chores.
Right now, I don't know what to do because he is making money by spreading lies about me and receiving large donations based on that, while I am left homeless. Luckily, I can stay at my partner's house, but it's a temporary and unstable situation due to not having any income and me being ultimately a burden to him and his family also bc of my mental health and not having anybody to talk to, bc I blocked all my family members and i stopped talking to all my friends (bc of something unrelated) i am alone and i need him but i know that burdens him and i annoy him bc im clingy
I continue trying to take commissions, but it doesn't get very far because the algorithm doesn't help. I had to block all my relatives, so I have no one, not a single family member to help me.
I can't bring myself to ask for donations, and even if I did, I don't know if I would receive anything. I keep looking for work as always, but I still have nothing. I don't know what else to do
I would appreciate any help.
