Discussion Why aren't people sincere that they'd rather see someone dead than a failure bum sitting at home?.

[fkyou]

Why aren't people sincere that they'd rather see someone dead than a failure bum sitting at home?..all this drama about how suicide is tragic and family members crying that he killed himself hurt them and gave them grief.but isn't that the reason people kill themselves in the first place? Because what's waiting for them from family isn't sunshine? What's this bipolar attitude. How many people cry that he/she killed himself?But did he have a choice? Isn't that the results of failure?

 

[real human being]

Why aren't people sincere that they'd rather see someone dead than a failure bum sitting at home?..all this drama about how suicide is tragic and family members crying that he killed himself hurt them and gave them grief.but isn't that the reason people kill themselves in the first place? Because what's waiting for them from family isn't sunshine? What's this bipolar attitude. How many people cry that he/she killed himself?But did he have a choice? Isn't that the results of failure?

There's a lot of hypocrisy. Perpetuating cultural and societal structures that degrade and harm vulnerable people, and then turning around and talking about how sad it is that those same people kill themselves.

The world is cruel towards people who don't fit into the system. There's a lot of abuse, and for a lot of people it's very difficult just to survive. But nobody talks about fixing the system, only implementing measures to make it harder to ctb. It's fucked up.

 

[Jealous Blackheart]

Everyone wants to save face. My father would be quite relieved if I died but he'd do a good job hiding it.

My father told me I was evil for mentioning that I was suicidal and has also told me the most important thing, or more specifically, the only important thing I can do with my life, to him and my mother, is make money. If I'm going to kill myself I should be respectful and do it quietly instead of burdening them with the knowledge of it or shaming them with my reasons. Because ignorance is a great defense.

It's so much easier for them to say they didn't know and never saw it coming.

 

[Foolishness]

Losing people to suicide is hard, you often think about if you caused it, the signs of distress you may have missed, all the times you should've reached out, if you could've prevented it. I understand the pain of loss. I hope to lessen it for those around me when I'm gone.

 

[gothbird]

There's a lot of hypocrisy in how people talk about suicide. Society punishes failure, isolates people who are struggling, calls them lazy, selfish, weak and then when those same people die, suddenly it's "tragic" and "unimaginable." But it was imaginable. It was obvious. People just didn't want to look while it was happening.

They want you to be alive, but only if you're functioning. If you're not producing, not smiling, not "trying harder," then yeah—there's this unspoken judgment that maybe you don't deserve space. It's not said out loud, but it's felt. Every time someone sighs at you. Every time someone says "get over it" instead of "are you okay?"

So when someone finally checks out, they get the tears they never got in life. That's the real tragedy. Not the death itself—but how predictable and preventable it was, and how quickly people rewrite the story to make themselves feel better.
And yeah—sometimes suicide is the result of failure. But not personal failure. Systemic failure. Familial failure. Compassion failure.

No one chooses to suffer like that.
They just run out of road.

 

[fkyou]

Losing people to suicide is hard, you often think about if you caused it, the signs of distress you may have missed, all the times you should've reached out, if you could've prevented it. I understand the pain of loss. I hope to lessen it for those around me when I'm gone.

You missed the perspective this post is discussing..

 

[Foolishness]

You missed the perspective this post is discussing..

Oh, did I? Sorry for that, I'm autistic.