Venting Why do people cheat?

[joyfulegirl999]

Just got cheated on idk how to feel someone help?

 

[zekeyaeger]

People can be horrible. I am sorry you went through this.

 

[DarkRange55]

I'm very sorry. Don't take it personally. People cheat for different reasons but it's never justified. It's natural and normal to feel like you did something wrong or there's something wrong with you. But do not take it that way. take some time to process it and move on. You deserve better. Best of luck

 

[joyfulegirl999]

I'm very sorry. Don't take it personally. People cheat for different reasons but it's never justified. It's natural and normal to feel like you did something wrong or there's something wrong with you. But do not take it that way. take some time to process it and move on. You deserve better. Best of luck

<3 tysm

People can be horrible. I am sorry you went through this.

<3333 I hope i'll be okay

 

[derpyderpins]

No good reason. Could be they just don't care about others. Could be they do care, but they are unhappy with themselves. It doesn't make any sense - if they have someone, why would they need something else? But I think it's feeling shitty about yourself and going for a thrill of some sort.

No one deserves to be cheated on. I'm so sorry.

 

[Transient]

I am sorry you went through this.

I got cheated on a while back, ending a 4 year relationship.
Theres no excuse for it, they could have just told me beforehand that they didnt want to be together anymore, yet they chose to end it this way.

I wasted almost a year of my life trying to find the answer to it. Its pointless, there is no answer except that some people are shitty, and do shitty things.
As impossible as it may sound right now, try to move on. Trust me when I say you will regret every second you waste on trying to find some reasoning in this mess.

I wish you the best.

 

[KillingPain267]

Because they are evil sinners. Ancient societies used to have the death penalty for it because it obviously causes those cheated on a lot of distress. But we modern people think we are so enlightened and don't punish it anymore, but then wonder why people are psychologically messed up.

 

[qw3rty259]

Because they're ignorant. Instead of telling their partner that the relationship is getting worse and they don't feel like they want to work on it, they just hide it from them for some reason. I guess they hope to sit on both chairs(?)

As to why do people even consider cheating - It's due to our biology. Its main goal is to reproduce. Except some people have a developed enough frontal lobe of the brain to control these impulses and some apparently don't

 

[joyfulegirl999]

Because they're ignorant. Instead of telling their partner that the relationship is getting worse and they don't feel like they want to work on it, they just hide it from them for some reason. I guess they hope to sit on both chairs(?)

As to why do people even consider cheating - It's due to our biology. Its main goal is to reproduce. Except some people have a developed enough frontal lobe of the brain to control these impulses and some apparently don't

Yes, I can't believe he already moved on. Thank you so much though.

 

[Ashu]

Il cuore non si comanda. If you need exclusive mutual possession, then this is not a person for you.

 

[joyfulegirl999]

Because they are evil sinners. Ancient societies used to have the death penalty for it because it obviously causes those cheated on a lot of distress. But we modern people think we are so enlightened and don't punish it anymore, but then wonder why people are psychologically messed up.

This is such amazing information I don't think I ever would have knew. Cheating is so normalized it pains me.

I am sorry you went through this.

I got cheated on a while back, ending a 4 year relationship.
Theres no excuse for it, they could have just told me beforehand that they didnt want to be together anymore, yet they chose to end it this way.

I wasted almost a year of my life trying to find the answer to it. Its pointless, there is no answer except that some people are shitty, and do shitty things.
As impossible as it may sound right now, try to move on. Trust me when I say you will regret every second you waste on trying to find some reasoning in this mess.

I wish you the best.

<3 I really appreciate this, and I am so very sorry you also went through the struggles of a cheater (they suck).

Because they're ignorant. Instead of telling their partner that the relationship is getting worse and they don't feel like they want to work on it, they just hide it from them for some reason. I guess they hope to sit on both chairs(?)

As to why do people even consider cheating - It's due to our biology. Its main goal is to reproduce. Except some people have a developed enough frontal lobe of the brain to control these impulses and some apparently don't

The frontal lobe part made me giggle, thank you! It's been one day, I haven't been able to leave my room, only for the bathroom and a drink I really don't know what to do.

 

[DarkRange55]

Some are insecure about themselves and need validation, some are sex addicts, some just have strong carnal desires (is your love stronger than your lust), some are unhappy, some are afraid to be alone, some don't care, some want variety, etc. whatever it might be, its bullshit because you don't deserve that type of treatment/betrayal.

 

[lionetta12]

Just got cheated on idk how to feel someone help?

People cheat for a wide possible variety of reasons. People can cheat due to feeling bored in a relationship, due to the excitement of an affair, an impulsive person might due it just due to pure impulsitivity, some want an adrenaline rush, others want to try something new without leaving or losing the relationship, maybe someone want to test the «waters», maybe someone else cheated because they didn't like their partner anymore, others might struggle to commit to one person, low confidence and not feeling wanted can be a reason, lack of intimacy and different intimate needs, and lastly, one might cheat out of anger and resentment. Every situation and person is unique and different.

The number 1 reason behind why people have cheated on me was due to them having severe commitment issues. It was pretty devastating to me when I was younger, now I don't really care that much anymore. I don't feel angry at them any longer and I don't resent them for it. I feel bad for them now since they have this problem. It made me feel better once I understood and accepted that it's not my fault that it happened and that they have been this way to everyone they've known so I was not alone.

 

[gnarly]

Just got cheated on idk how to feel someone help?

Shit happens. It's how the world is now I guess. People just rather prefer lust than love. Sorry this happened to you. You'll learn to move on from that kind of shit tho. At first it'll bug you. Then you realize it's not just one person. Evil walks the earth. I pray you find someone who does truly love you

 

[N7_Alliance_Marine]

It goes back to primitive caveman days. Men cheat to spread their seed as far and wide as possible, while women cheat to get the best seed possible while maintaining a relationship with their betamale provider.

 

[nattys5thtoenail]

First of all I'm so sorry that happened! It wasn't your fault and cheating is 100% the fault of the offender and not what the victim "could've done to make them stay" or other bullshit of that sort.

Its mainly a low self esteem and insecurity issue, they don't fully love themselves which makes it hard to commit to people and the cheating brings them dopamine and excitement and makes them feel a greater sense of self worth which they lack to find within themselves.