Discussion will you make it a big last Christmas for your loved ones?

[TheHolySword]

For those of you planning to stick around for the holidays and have the funds/means to do so: do you plan on giving your family (or other loved ones) one last big christmas? As in, are you gonna spend a ton on gifts and such? Or do you plan to keep it lowkey so you won't arouse suspicion? If you do have anything planned, I'd love to hear about it!

I plan on surprising my family with a bunch of different things. I'm not so worried about them thinking much of it because I always tend to go overboard with spending around the holidays. I just want to give them one big last happy memory of a Christmas together and hopefully it will make the subsequent years a bit less sad - wishful thinking, I know.

 

[four_walls_girl]

I really want to! I don't have as much money as I'd like to have but I managed to save £900! Christmas is really only the three of us so rn I got my nana a new heated blanket, purse and rabanne olympea and got my mum Marc Jacobs Daisy, bose earphones and I'm still looking at designer handbags. Only problem is obviously a lot of the good ones are like £2k+ and £200-600 take up half the budget T_T

 

[TheHolySword]

I really want to! I don't have as much money as I'd like to have but I managed to save £900! Christmas is really only the three of us so rn I got my nana a new heated blanket, purse and rabanne olympea and got my mum Marc Jacobs Daisy, bose earphones and I'm still looking at designer handbags. Only problem is obviously a lot of the good ones are like £2k+ and £200-600 take up half the budget T_T

I think that's so sweet!! It may not seem like a lot saved but I think it's more than enough to give them a lovely Christmas! You're putting time and effort and care into them and I think that's just as valuable. I hope you're able to find a nice handbag for your mom! I also hope you're all able to have a blessed season together

 

[yearofluigi]

I hope not. Sorry to be a downer but I don't like Christmas. I'm able to stay in touch with my family throughout the year, so it's not really a special family gathering for me. Instead it just feels like mindless consumerism. It's made especially tedious when everyone's already bought everything they want during the year so we all just get each other gift cards or stuff we don't want.

 

[MercenariesofMidgar]

I'm buying my friends a ton of gifts for this Christmas because I'm sure this will be my last. My only stipulation is that it must be physical item, I don't have a ton of money though. I can't dwell on it for too long because it makes feel an emotion I don't know how to describe, other than its unpleasant.

 

[Valhala]

I hate Christmas and all other holidays, my soul will be more peaceful when it no longer has to endure the hell of those holidays.

 

[dimgobaith]

I've tried to buy presents etc and done them up. I thought I'd be gone but I'm still here.
I'm torn now whether to go before or after

 

[divinemistress36]

I hate Christmas and all other holidays, my soul will be more peaceful when it no longer has to endure the hell of those holidays.

Holidays increase my depression

 

[AnonymousTomato]

I can't take Christmas seriously/give it any effort. It seems so absurd to celebrate and do normal holiday things and pretend everything is ok. (My reason for being here is political - I'm trans in the US, so this very much feels like people singing Jingle Bells while there's a raging wildfire outside my house and I'm the only one worried about it).

I am a little sad I won't be spending Christmas with my family. But mostly I'm so tired and I'm glad I won't have to pretend to be ok around them.

My mom didn't want me traveling because she was worried about my health, and basically twisted my arm into NOT coming, even though she usually throws a massive fit if I don't go every year (she is emotionally unstable). Then she called me out of the blue the other day and insisted she'd fly to see me in my state. I told her no. She's already visited 3x this year, I hosted her and missed work and drove myself into the ground energy-wise keeping her entertained and keeping her mood in check. I can't do it another time, and she always stays in my small apartment rather than a hotel. She threw a fit when I told her no. So now instead of it being the right wings fault that I can't travel, it's MY fault for ruining Christmas.

She keeps calling me and crying about how worried she is about me and needing me to comfort her. It's so selfish. I'm the one in danger here. I'm the one who ordered SN because I'm worried the upcoming legislation will be so bad I have to kill myself. But it's just take, take, take. Everyone needs me. Everyone wants me to stick around for them. I fucking hate it.

So idk I wish I could have a normal Christmas with family but no, that's a whole mess.

 

[Sm0k3]

I hope to be able to live till Christmas to enjoy the things my parents actually got me, I mean, dying now would of mean they wasted money!!!
Actually for me though, Holidays always make me feel better about myself for a little bit and excited to be able to talk to people I know, since my anxiety doesnt let me do like anything lol

 

[ShatteredSerenity]

I would have splurged on my daughters, but I blew all of my money during my manic episode. I'll never forgive myself for that. I can still get them something smaller, and I already gave them some of my personal belongings on Thanksgiving which they appreciated.

My darker side is angry at my wife for kicking me out of the family and abandoning me in my greatest moment of need, so I want to give her a cremation and funeral to deal with for her present. It would be cruel to everyone and I know it's wrong, but I'm suffering every minute of every day and I'm getting tired of living for other people, especially her.

 

[AuroraB]

I hope not. Sorry to be a downer but I don't like Christmas. I'm able to stay in touch with my family throughout the year, so it's not really a special family gathering for me. Instead it just feels like mindless consumerism. It's made especially tedious when everyone's already bought everything they want during the year so we all just get each other gift cards or stuff we don't want.

agree with you on all of it.