Discussion Anyone else have literally no friends?

[onlyeverexisting]

I've come to realize recently that I actually don't. I thought I did for awhile, but it was because I never talked about what was going on with me because I was afraid of being a burden on others. Now that I've stopped trying to hide it, no one wants to be around me anymore. I guess I don't blame them, since from the outside it looks like I've become a pretty bitter person, but damn. No one's ever really known me. I've isolated myself from pretty much everyone (which I of course did to myself), but apparently no one has cared enough to notice and check on me. I guess that's too much to ask. I hate that that's something I still care about.

 

[I_love_to_bake]

Definitely me. Still trying to figure out what it is about that people don't like!

How do I deal with the impending sanity slip? Well, striking up small talk with strangers is a good way to stay grounded. As is keeping a consistent journal. But it is hard!! I can't pretend I know how to prevent the insanity. My loneliness has admittedly taken a huge toll on my mental health.

@Pixiep
Aww... that is so sad. Im so sorry for you and your kitty. I've lost a lot of kitties. It kind of traumatized me and I can't really have a good emotional connection with cats anymore. Thanks for sharing those lyrics, beautiful!

Best wishes

 

[After The End]

I have no friends. I used to have some online friends, but not anymore. The only member of my family I have any association with is my sister and we're very clearly just flat-mates at this point. She used to want to spend time with me and do things but now she has a partner weeks can go by without us speaking to each other.

There are people I kind of 'know,' online. I probably could be friends with one of them, but to be completely honest the last person I got close to only got as far as they did by literally pry-barring their way into my life because even then I deeply mistrusted people, and I would have been better off if she'd just fucking left me alone.

That's what people do though.

It's not even a question of being deceptive. They are probably sincere when they butter you up and tell you how wonderful you are when it suits them, and you're fulfilling some need of theirs, but if they don't need your help anymore or get a chance to trade-up that's exactly what they'll do.

And for the record I don't buy any of that platitudinous nonsense about the people on this site being a family.

 

[ArtsyDrawer]

Not friends.
I have co-workers, yes, but talking about anything other than work is an absurd idea.
There's the occasional "hey, Bob, this thing needs to go there, gimme a hand!"
I prefer it that way, though. While I sometimes lament about being unable to go out with somebody, I also quickly remember why, and it's my reason to CTB - epilepsy.
Alcohol, when mixed with my meds, triggers seizures. There's also the danger of seizures just coming out of nowhere at random.
There are, of course, a secondary and a... thirdary..?
Is "thirdary" a thing?
Fuck it, it is now!
I'm not exactly good looking, though some people say I look good when I go to get my head shaved entirely in preparation for yet another neurology or neurosurgery related thing.
And thirdary, I'm boring as fuck. The last fourteen or fifteen years went sleep>wake up>shower>work>internet>shower>sleep.
An occasional break from this mundanity came on the weekend, where instead of going to my work place, "work" meant rolling a shitload of cigarettes, and there is more time for the internet.
This still continues.

 

[mopeyD]

I had a friend on this site @WillOxyWork and he ctb. I miss him. I miss him so much and I wish we could still talk together.

I'm sorry for your loss. I hope this isn't insensitive to ask but do you know how he did it?

 

[pickajack]

And for the record I don't buy any of that platitudinous nonsense about the people on this site being a family.

I get that you feel mistrustful, or even that you feel the term "family" is an overstatement, but I think they say it because they are deriving support and comfort from others here. I hope you can too.

I'm sorry for your loss. I hope this isn't insensitive to ask but do you know how he did it?

SN, seems a popular choice on this site.

 

[Alonelylife]

I have none. No family, no friends, not even online. Severe social anxiety and other problems.

 

[deadgirlahsatan]

Damn...2 people mentioned cats...mine passed away just before a year old from a disease .. I raised him since he was 2 weeks old ...bottle fed him. He became so attached to my bf and i as his parents that he slept in our arms baby style every night from thd day we got him until our last night with him. We tried everything but 3 thousand dollars later and we still couldnt save him. I dont think my heart has ever recovered. He was like our baby. It happened a little over a year ago and i still shed tears for him.often. the loneliness has been a constant since.

He was orange and his name was Oliver, like the orange kitty from Oliver and Company. We called him Oli usually. When I named him I hadnt actually seen the movie since a child. I knew the kitty , but i couldnt have told you the plot line or any of the songs anymore.

I looked up songs from it the next day..and found the one "Good company" ....and tbh my heart will never fucking recover.
I wanted to attach the video but having trouble, so heres the lyrics..

And it doesnt say it but at the end she tucks him into bed and says "goodnight oliver"
...Oli had been put down in my arms.. I had said the same thing.

Hold ur kitties close please :(View attachment 42380
Damn...2 people mentioned cats...mine passed away just before a year old from a disease .. I raised him since he was 2 weeks old ...bottle fed him. He became so attached to my bf and i as his parents that he slept in our arms baby style every night from thd day we got him until our last night with him. We tried everything but 3 thousand dollars later and we still couldnt save him. I dont think my heart has ever recovered. He was like our baby. It happened a little over a year ago and i still shed tears for him.often. the loneliness has been a constant since.

He was orange and his name was Oliver, like the orange kitty from Oliver and Company. We called him Oli usually. When I named him I hadnt actually seen the movie since a child. I knew the kitty , but i couldnt have told you the plot line or any of the songs anymore.

I looked up songs from it the next day..and found the one "Good company" ....and tbh my heart will never fucking recover.
I wanted to attach the video but having trouble, so heres the lyrics..

And it doesnt say it but at the end she tucks him into bed and says "goodnight oliver"
...Oli had been put down in my arms.. I had said the same thing.

Hold ur kitties close please :(View attachment 42380

Sorry about ur kitty. Right now i have one so yea he is my only friend irl. I hate when animals get sick and pass. I had cats over the years and a dog. I miss them everyday.

I love that song ! Oliver and Company is so good!

I had a friend on this site @WillOxyWork and he ctb. I miss him. I miss him so much and I wish we could still talk together.

So sorry. I had a friend on a forum that ctb. I miss him everyday.

 

[InTheAirTonight]

I have none. I also ignored my old friend from university when they messaged me on Facebook. It's pretty sad.

 

[muffin222]

I have none. I also ignored my old friend from university when they messaged me on Facebook. It's pretty sad.

I ignore people when they message me on Facebook as well, though I rarely, rarely receive messages. I'm not 100% why, but I think it's because I know I won't be able to maintain the conversation, so I just don't bother :( It is sad

 

[AprilsBlessings]

I don't have any friends.

 

[mathieu]

No friends either. I don't think I'm likeable. I guess my dog is my friend lol.

 

[mapletree]

I technically have a friend left, but the poor dude is going through his own stuff and I'm not going to take him down with me because I'm miserable and extra insufferable to be around. Otherwise, no, I can work pleasantly with people but I have always had trouble forming relationships because I am terrified of people lol

 

[deadgirlahsatan]

No friends either. I don't think I'm likeable. I guess my dog is my friend lol.

Ur dog counts for sure!

 

[Throwawaysoul]

Zero friends and at 40 it's next to impossible to make friends.

 

[mapletree]

Every night when the sun starts to go down and I stop studying for the day it hits me hard how alone I am. The thought of decades of this, having absolutely nobody to call or reach out to, just relationships that faded or where people got sick of me, it feels like I'm lost in the woods or out at sea or something and there's nobody around and never will be. All I have are sad memories