Venting anyone just feel like a failure ?

[mittymittens]

like have you felt behind your peers irl / nonss members or like that they have willpower that you don't ?

i've been thinking of ctb but i don't really know life has just been continuously bad and bad and i know life isn't meant to be easy but not all of us are cut out for this.

 

[ScholarOfDespair]

Yes, I am 28 and all of my peers are way ahead of me. I wasted the best opportunity that was granted to me when I was 25 but I blew it and now I am stuck as a shut in NEET for the past 3 years in a third world country.

 

[claracatchingthebus]

Yes

 

[butimstillsoblue]

Absolutely. I have failed at life.

 

[ChildrensITV]

No, I don't feel like a failure. I am a failure.

And that makes me feel like one.

 

[itsgone2]

Yes. Completely.

 

[FadingSnowFake]

I feel like a failure, but don't see it so much as behind everyone, even though I am in terms of "achievements" (relationships, career, family). I just think I failed at my life personally, like I could've done better and failed myself, and those that matter.

But life is so random that we can't compare, and it made me think of the old $100 race video on social inequalities.

 

[Spite]

Yes, all the time. I'm 27 and I feel like I have the mentality and accomplishments of someone who is 17 years old. That is to say, there are people in their late teens who are far more successful in life than I am. I just spend every day wasting away and feeling sorry for myself.

 

[Dark Moon]

I am a failure yeah especially compared to people my age.

 

[Freedombus'25]

Definitely and its not really like defined by anyones standards just mine.

 

[niki wonoto]

me here, & it does hurt

- from Indonesia -

 

[Hollowman]

Yeah but everyone eventually loses everything.

 

[Terrible_Life_99]

like have you felt behind your peers irl / nonss members or like that they have willpower that you don't ?

i've been thinking of ctb but i don't really know life has just been continuously bad and bad and i know life isn't meant to be easy but not all of us are cut out for this.

We should consider this one thing: the up bringing of a child influences his life course so extremely! A lot of members here on sasu mention how they see themselves as failures but to all of you please consider these aspects: genetics, parents-aggressive, toxic, causing stress, wrong up bringing either by beating you or otherwise hurting you or by massively spoiling you and overprotecting you (which also will have fatal consequences like for example no discipline, no frustration tolerance, emotional dependence, Difficulties in social interaction etc.

What I want to say is that a Person who right from the beginning was handicapped so extremely, who had all this struggle burdened at him when he was a little child by his family and ofc as a child he couldn't stop the family from doing that is definitely NOT a "failure" . The person simply had bad luck and yes its true there are people who fight themselves back to life and I'm happy for all of them but then there are also people who are way too damaged by this circumstances which they never could control. And therefore these people are no failure and have every right to end their life. No one can force a human to stay here especially when he was handicapped right from the beginning and still tried his best but unfortunately couldn't succeed in his attempt to fit in.

 

[torturedmind]

I feel like a failure. I'm 28, still living with my parent, no degree, working a job that a high schooler can do for the last six years. I have no talents or even hobbies. I used to exercise but I don't even do that anymore. My diet is horrible. I spend basically all of my free time in bed. I don't know how I will ever be able to support myself or be independent.

 

[thefinalfavour]

Yes, I am 28 and all of my peers are way ahead of me. I wasted the best opportunity that was granted to me when I was 25 but I blew it and now I am stuck as a shut in NEET for the past 3 years in a third world country.

Same story...Had the best opportunity at 22 but blew it and now 25, living as a NEET for 3 years in a third world country.

 

[Cauliflour]

I had everything possible handed to me and I still fucked up life. It's not just pessimism when you're a financially stable white girl with a good upbringing and you turned into a regular on the suicide forum. If that's not failure, I don't know what is. Either way my parents still have hope in me and that hurts my soul. 500 posts in the span of 7 months, don't know what that says about me exactly but it's certainly saying something! About a fifth of them have doodles on them too. If I had a child and after all these years of raising them to the best of my ability ended up suicidal for no fucking reason then I would be pissed, thank god my parents don't know about this.

A lot of people here are suicidal cause something happened to them or like they had a terrible start to life. They're not failures, they just got screwed over by God, that's not their fault. I've had nothing wrong with me and yet here I am, imposter syndrome and all. Although I probably shouldn't fling that term around in reference to me cause I'm not like diagnosed by a professional and I'm probably just actually out of place instead of just assuming I'm out of place. It's different if you're self aware.

 

[kitkat9234]

Im a piece of shit loser failure who not only ruined my life but the life of my daughter. I ruined everything. I fucking hate myself.

 

[kunikuzushi]

There's nothing to fail. If someone is "successful" or not, we all end up dead. None of it matters.

 

[softtodie]

I don't just feel like a failure, I am a failure. My life hasn't been easy and I was disadvantaged in many ways but I had an opportunity that I blew, use mental health as an excuse and now what do I do? I just sit and wallow in self pity. I sometimes try and be critical of myself now, call myself names, trying to get myself to get up and do something but alas here I still am, the same mood, the same place, the same actions. No changes ever come. Not that I can say much though when I stopped putting in any effort to make said changes.