attachment is the root cause of suffering

[Darkover]

Power doesn't corrupt. What I believe is always true about power is that power always reveals. When you have enough power to do what you always wanted to do, then you see what the guy always wanted to do

 

[SilentSadness]

Humans can unfortunately suffer from physical pain as well, which is unrelated to attachment.

 

[ijustwishtodie]

I mean, I do have attachments but not as much as most people. For example, I never did and never will have an attachment to working or making friends. For me, my main cause of suffering isn't attachment but rather that I'm forced to participate in this existence that I really loathe and I can't easily leave this world because I'm too incompetent to

 

[NoAIarmsNoSurprises]

The people who run the show are worried about declining birth rates for a reason. Attachments and obligations are what hold many of us here. It is what keeps us in check. I'm just grateful that I at least have the foresight to not bring another potential victim into this cruel world.

 

[Ernest1964]

Buddhism:

Three Universal Truths

• Everything in life is impermanent and always changing.
• Because nothing is permanent, a life based on possessing things or persons doesn't make you happy.
• There is no eternal, unchanging soul and "self" is just a collection of changing characteristics or attributes.

 

[Unattainable666]

attachment is the root cause of suffering, and to understand this we must first understand what attachment really means. when you do something expecting a particular outcome or result that means you are attached to that work because the result of it matters to you. however, the intensity of attachment may vary and accordingly we suffer if the outcome and results are not what we wanted. we are attached to different things to varying degrees. And if more intense is the craving for a certain outcome, more intensely we suffer if we do not achieve it.

It is because you are attached to the idea that you belong in a romantic relationship. You are attached to the idea that, even if you are content, having a partner would elevate your happiness. You are attached to the idea that without a partner your life isn't as good as it can be. Those things might be true sometimes, but not all the time.

expect nothing and you will never be disappointed
It means if you learn not to expect things from others, and just do for yourself then you will not be disappointed when the other person does not follow through

Never get too attached to anyone unless they also feel the same towards you, because one sided expectations can mentally destroy you

wish someone had told me this 40 years ago. too much disappointment, rejection, loneliness - ready to ctb

 

[Darkover]

bump

 

[brain-fog]

expect nothing and you will never be disappointed

I guess it's easier done than said. Just speaking for myself here, but I constantly feel like I can't get more disappointed anymore and then it still happens. I fully agree with your post, but having expectations seems rather human to me.