Discussion Blame yourself or others?

[Empty Smile]

"You're just coasting along," people always told me. "You need to put out more effort."

I should have listened. I was one of two National Merit Semifinalists at my high school. But wait, why didn't I take the smart kid classes with the other smart kids? Why did I always do the minimum?

Why did I study bullshit liberal arts majors in college--and still slack off so hard I couldn't come up with a senior thesis and graduate, preferring to have a mental breakdown instead?

Why did I quit the sport I loved and excelled at after two years of college? Didn't I know what a rare and fleeting opportunity this was?

Why did I watch so much porn and smoke so much weed?

Why did I work a menial job my whole 20s after the breakdown?

Why didn't I notice my mind getting even worse?

(I got into fringe political ideas better not discussed here for years before descending into religious fantasy and a full-on hobo-level schizo freakout back in the fall).

Old friends (and girls I dated) are now doctors, professors, lawyers, journalists, etc. I am a bus-riding menial laborer with roommates and no savings. And my fellow grunts despise me. There is no farther for me to fall.

Doors were open to me. People recognized potential in me. And I took a pass on all of it.

Some people got it, and some people don't.

I guess you and I fall into the people don't category.

 

[Weems]

Some people got it, and some people don't.

I guess you and I fall into the people don't category.

Yeah. I often tell myself I almost got it, or was close to getting it, but the more I look back the more I realize this was always me.

 

[JadedGray]

I used to blame people/society but I no longer see the point and I don't know how much free will and control people have over themselves. It's more blaming human nature more than anything, but I don't do that anymore either. I used to blame myself, but the way I turned out wasn't entirely up to me and many factors (like my health) were beyond my control. I don't blame anyone or anything. I just wasn't made for this world or life itself, so I guess it was a force of nature.

 

[fister]

My wife regularly gets furious that I'm sick, destroys property and hits me. She drove her last husband to suicide. I'm not sweating anything laying some of the blame on her, but of course it was my dumb ass who got involved with someone who has that history.

 

[Karma]

I blame my parents,

I also blame my environment.

Mainly my environment, cause now i'm too mentally ill in every way to go back to normal life.

 

[Rold]

I blame my parents, especially my dad bacause he is alcoholic, and myslef, because I think I'm so emotionally weak.

 

[alizee]

You cannot realistically in reality blame yourself or others because free will is an illusion.
The thread in more detail about it: https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/free-will-is-an-illusion-choice-doesnt-exist.15961/

Attempting to blame yourself or others is a fallacy.