I'll talk to you. Very similar situation, been living it for a long time. I can probably give advice on what not to do based on my experiences. If you think that'd be helpful, feel free to message me.
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tpboy
No Karma Cafe
- Aug 4, 2023
- 483
after us talking. i don't agree with that. you are a smart person. did not mean to hijack op post. op if you want to talk just dm me. i used to have a lot going on and now have nothing.
thereisnoneed
Student
- Jan 23, 2020
- 132
Hey katara, if you want you can hit me up. I'd love to talk to you
I can't express in words how much I resonate with you. If you don't mind me asking. Do you feel you missed out on life ? Expériences etc ?@StupidCat
It's alright but its that I just get comments a lot by ppl who don't seem to understand my situation and they exaggerate their stuff, meanwhile I don't. I'm just saying what I have gone through, so many ppl on here, I would actually say most ppl are pretty normal. Like recently I messaged with someone i met on here on discord, and she asked me my career and field of study because she wants to try something new. Like how do I reply to that? Why the fuck is everyone on here so active? I wish I had a chance at normal life
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katara
tired all the time
- Mar 17, 2022
- 239
Exactly, ppl make accounts on here when they get a little sad during winter and get all the attention, replies, endless messages, people who want to watch movies with them and invite them into group chats, meanwhile ppl who legit suffer and just want anything, get nothing. Even from people who know us irl. I've said something like this before and it always pisses off somebody. They have the entire internet for them, like bitch please just let me have ONE place where I can vent geeeeeez
they think everyone has to stop and cater to them and use kid gloves when speaking to them bc it's always been that way.
NumbItAll
expendable
- May 20, 2018
- 1,119
I've been a NEET my entire adult life and went years without having anything to do or any friends. I've gradually been able to do things to improve my situation though not to the point where I'm self sufficient or feel optimistic about the future at all. You can feel free to message me if you want to talk about it although I'm not sure if I would be helpful. Also I agree about the NEET websites -- I'm not sure what being a NEET has to do with hating women and LGBT or how they think that's productive at all...
katara
tired all the time
- Mar 17, 2022
- 239
@NumbItAll hey I'm sorry to hear that man. My optimism is pretty dead too. Like I try and have tried time after time. Even when it comes to making friends it's literally impossible. Most recently I had someone on here randomly unfriend me on discord and I was like hmm that's weird so then I went to TikTok and realized she didn't even follow me back, like I don't get it. People expect so much from me. I'm already upfront about my situation but I guess everyone just sees me as a loser yknow? I can't tell what else it could be. Thanks for what you said. Also I just realized your account is from 2018 omg you have one of oldest account on here. Did you know the creators of this site or something?
Btw sorry if this message is written bad it's pretty late right now for me.
Btw sorry if this message is written bad it's pretty late right now for me.
LeavingEarly
Specialist
- Mar 19, 2022
- 376
Unbearable Mr. Bear
Sometimes, all you need is a hug...
- May 9, 2025
- 701
Physically, I'm a man, but mama as a persona, is a woman. I like to see mama as a man with a very motherly attitude though.
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lwoass
Last words of a shooting star
- Jun 20, 2025
- 2
Im exactly in the same position as you are right now. Genuinely just feel like a loser, especially when people around me keep asking me about what my plans are for the future or what not. It's so frustrating :(
NumbItAll
expendable
- May 20, 2018
- 1,119
Nah I didn't know the creators beyond their public presence. I just came over early on from the SS subreddit after it was banned. I think you are a cool/nice person though from what I have seen. Sometimes it's just hard to find that right connection with someone who gets you but that doesn't mean it's impossible. Also I don't see why any potential friend should care if you are a "loser." It's not like you are asking them for money or anything haha. I've always had a lot of trouble making connections but I think just being genuine can help attract the right kind of person even if it takes a while.
Unbearable Mr. Bear
Sometimes, all you need is a hug...
- May 9, 2025
- 701
adoptedpain
Member
- Jun 7, 2025
- 33
Trying to connect with you as I relate in all regards, especially with needing judgement free discussions around thoughts instead of blanket statements, hotlines and careful language with certain people. I'm looking to be understood as someone deeply struggling inside while most seem to have a lot of pieces of life together which is great for them - however having relatable scenario to express without judgement means the world, especially right now. Trying to message you and others who feel this way and can't for some reason
timorousTruant
Azoidant
- Nov 18, 2022
- 98
I'm in a similar situation. I didn't finish highschool, never went to college, burnt out of my job, have zero friends, have lost interest in all my hobbies, and find pleasure in nothing but booze. Not much to say other than you're not alone.
you need to post a bunch of stuff to unlock pm perms. it was like 7 replies in my case
katara
tired all the time
- Mar 17, 2022
- 239
Oh wow that's so interesting, ya Reddit kind of sucks though. They allow really disgusting things like recently I learned there's a huge subreddit promoting incest apparently, and that's just, allowed. Gross
Well it's hard to make friends when you don't really have anything going on or anyway to travel, buy stuff, go out. Most people are normal so I guess that's why they don't like me. I just wish they'd stop pretending. So many people especially on Reddit will say they want a friend but they really don't.
piger
Every waking moment I spiral further into insanity
- Dec 11, 2021
- 75
I'm not active active anymore but i'd like to talk to you. I'm in a semi similar situation where despite having a degree, i feel very stuck and useless.
its similar to me , we can talk , even be friends virtually .. you have the choice !
katara
tired all the time
- Mar 17, 2022
- 239
@timorousTruant
thanks I appreciate you at least saying something here. It's really scary when u don't even have a hobby or anything that really interests you. Also making friends feels like a challenge bc everyone has a state of the art gaming system and expensive stuff and I'm just oh wow I guess I'm alone AND POOR. Cool, so basically I'm on my own. Every person I've spoken to has constant activities they are doing weekly or monthly. They don't know what it is like, it's really scary. And at this point I'd never be able to get a job bc I have no experience so even if I somehow found an angelic person who could help me I can't go far.
thanks I appreciate you at least saying something here. It's really scary when u don't even have a hobby or anything that really interests you. Also making friends feels like a challenge bc everyone has a state of the art gaming system and expensive stuff and I'm just oh wow I guess I'm alone AND POOR. Cool, so basically I'm on my own. Every person I've spoken to has constant activities they are doing weekly or monthly. They don't know what it is like, it's really scary. And at this point I'd never be able to get a job bc I have no experience so even if I somehow found an angelic person who could help me I can't go far.
honorando
Member
- Jun 26, 2025
- 16
I get it, perhaps you feel almost inferior to people who achieved what you coul not. But there are a lot of people, including my parents, that have no degres but still made a lot of money with a business idea. But it also requires study and think. Its not over yet
PerfectNothing.
Member
- Jun 21, 2025
- 11
adoptedpain
Member
- Jun 7, 2025
- 33
Thank you
I don't have permissions to reach out but wish I could speak with a lot of the people who have posted on here
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