For me life is not worth living anymore being single at 27

[FireFox]

Most women tell me my "time is coming" it doesn't feel that way anymore all I have ever known is guys rejecting me. I make all the effort to put myself out there, talk to guys and remember and care about every detail they tell me about themselves but no guy ever does that for me. It's always another woman they want while ignoring me the woman infront of them that really wanted them. All I ever wanted was a boyfriend and to be loved. I really am the unluckiest woman in the world never having a boyfriend at 27 and still a virgin.

As a teenager I thought the girls at school were special being picked by the boys at school and I wanted to be special like them.The boys I liked at school humiliated me infront of their friends and others even allowed their friends to be humilate me. In adulthood guys just see me as a friend, university classmate, work collegue but never anyone special to be their partner. It NEVER me who gets picked its always someone else who gets picked.

At university everyone has a relationship except me. I even know multiple classmates who are in long distance relationships or have partners that work or attend different universities. I am never going to meet anyone at university. At my age it's hard to meet people nowadays and I don't want to be single at 30. I have read on reddit numerous stories from women in their 30s struggling to find a man and watch similar video testimonies on YouTube.

I don't want to live like that and this fear is coming true everyday.I am going to be single forever for me that is not a life worth living. There is nobody for me other men see something special in other women but me never ever me. I don't want to be me anymore. Everyday I am crying because of all the years of being rejected and never picked. I am tired of going places by myself while everyone else is doing fun stuff with their partners.

For me suicide is the only option I have and now inevitable. I can't cope anymore.

 

[Mirrory Me]

That's a shame... Have you tried any dating aps or websites where you might be able to arrange dates? Perhaps someone is available during New Years eve (or latter). Don't give up just yet..!

 

[FireFox]

That's a shame... Have you tried any dating aps or websites where you might be able to arrange dates? Perhaps someone is available during New Years eve (or latter). Don't give up just yet..!

@Mirrory Me I read the success rate for black women on dating apps is extremely low which is why I don't use dating apps.

There is numerous research into it:

●https://www.essence.com/news/black-women-have-less-success-in-online/

● https://www.self.com/story/dating-online-as-a-woman-of-color

 

[tiredash]

Im in the same boat since i was 15 and im not 35... THe loneliness is killing me...

I tried everything in the internet, all apps and everything I could... Women just dont want someone like me...

 

[Mirrory Me]

@Mirrory Me I read the success rate for black women on dating apps is extremely low which is why I don't use dating apps.

There is numerous research into it:

●https://www.essence.com/news/black-women-have-less-success-in-online/

● https://www.self.com/story/dating-online-as-a-woman-of-color

Wdym? They don't like black people or something? That's not true....

 

[depressedinsomniac]

what method have you chosen to ctb?

 

[Zaphkiel]

Idk, where i live black women THRIVES.
Try the app first instead of blindly trusting those site.
Although, dont get your hope up because they sucks (for both men and women) but you'll probably at least have some refreshing discussion (i mean those that doesn't have some dick pic involved)

 

[FireFox]

Im in the same boat since i was 15 and im not 35... THe loneliness is killing me...

I tried everything in the internet, all apps and everything I could... Women just dont want someone like me...

@tiredash Most people just don't know how lucky they are to have someone really want you and choose you. Couples take so much for granted. I wish I had someone give me a rose or cheap chocolates on Valatines day, I wish had those petty arguments couple have and all those boring things couples experience I wish I got to experience.

I cry everyday that all my life I have never been picked by guys while other women get chosen. 6.00am I am crying my eyes out that's how bad it's has progressed. I never used to cry but now I am crying everyday so much.

Never having a boyfriend all I see is everything i have missed out on whenever I go outside seeing couples doing fun stuff.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

@Mirrory Me I read the success rate for black women on dating apps is extremely low which is why I don't use dating apps.

There is numerous research into it:

●https://www.essence.com/news/black-women-have-less-success-in-online/

● https://www.self.com/story/dating-online-as-a-woman-of-color

These sites got their sources from blog sites or from one 2014 OKCupid study. It would probably better to get your info from different primary sources instead.

I would personally say that it wouldn't hurt to give dating apps a try.

 

[FireFox]

Idk, where i live black women THRIVES.
Try the app first instead of blindly trusting those site.
Although, dont get your hope up because they sucks (for both men and women) but you'll probably at least have some refreshing discussion (i mean those that doesn't have some dick pic involved)

@Zaphkiel I live in the UK. Black men here prefer to be with White women and interracial dating is more higher with black men and white women. This even happens in cities.

Growing up I saw it all the time black men with white women . Asians date to date each other, Jewish people tend to date each other similar with Muslims.

Growing up in a multicultural city i noticed people stick with thier own ethnic groups.

These sites got their sources from blog sites or from one 2014 OKCupid study. It would probably better to get your info from different primary sources instead.

I would personally say that it wouldn't hurt to give dating apps a try.

@EvisceratedJester If I was 10 I would have no problem with dating apps but because my looks are in the middle I don't want to risk more rejection.

I have the worst of both worlds not ugly but not pretty either. When men look at me the opinions vary

what method have you chosen to ctb?

@depressedinsomniac My methods are either

● Carbon monoxide posionong in a tent

● Opoid overdose using my grandmothers pain medication

●SN poisoning if I can find acess.

 

[Ozzyno]

@Zaphkiel I live in the UK. Black men here prefer to be with White women and interracial dating is more higher with black men and white women. This even happens in cities.

Growing up I saw it all the time black men with white women . Asians date to date each other, Jewish people tend to date each other similar with Muslims.

Growing up in a multicultural city i noticed people stick with thier own ethnic groups.

@EvisceratedJester If I was 10 I would have no problem with dating apps but because my looks are in the middle I don't want to risk more rejection.

I have the worst of both worlds not ugly but not pretty either. When men look at me the opinions vary

Even though I think you are right when you say black women have generally lower chances I also believe you can still absolutely find someone! With the new year coming you could go to the gym and meet new people! There will be a lot of people wanting to start the year like that. Attend some useless course. You can find a man there

 

[depressedinsomniac]

i am attempting to procure sn sounds like you are serious because you have more methods than i do planned...i am in the states...have you considered relocating for love? i mean it's worth a try no? or is that just not an option?

 

[FireFox]

Even though I think you are right when you say black women have generally lower chances I also believe you can still absolutely find someone! With the new year coming you could go to the gym and meet new people! There will be a lot of people wanting to start the year like that. Attend some useless course. You can find a man there

@Ozzyno I am just tired of the long line of rejections and always hoping things will be different. Mentally it has completely broken me as a person. No matter how much effort I make men always reject me.

The human mind was never built to cope with enormous rejection.

I can never be normal because I went through so much rejection all throughout my life.

i am attempting to procure sn sounds like you are serious because you have more methods than i do planned...i am in the states...have you considered relocating for love? i mean it's worth a try no? or is that just not an option?

@depressedinsomniac The reason why I have multiple methods is because I am deciding which one is more accessible to me and will give me a guaranteed death.

I have never attempted suicide because of the fear of being hospitalised and dealing with my family guilt tripping to the max. When my family discovered my eating disorder they were just making it about themselves, guilt tripping and just not listening to me. If I survive a suicide attempt the gulit tripping and emotional WW3 will be so much worse.

 

[depressedinsomniac]

yeah i personally like the sn method...and i guess you don't consider relocating cause your mind is made up...personally i say too young but i have no idea what you have gone through...i had several years between substantial loves and i just think you need to give it more time but what i discovered for me this year is the concept of mental health...i never had an issue with mental health until this year and the pain is enormous so if this is how you feel too i completely understand.

 

[LukaParrot]

I think it's going to be hard to believe but there is still time for you.

You're still in what I can call, the best years of life, try to socialize like going to a gym, parties, events. I know that saying this is not fair, but nice clothers, nice hair, a nice fragrance can help you a lot. Some hairdressers are like magic, hair is a part of woman that can make a incredible change.

I cant complain, as a man, a lot of woman appears in my life but find the right partner in life is becoming like wining the lottery. The worst part is when you get a "winning ticket" but it has a lot of owners.... I really hate modern days, find a partner that was polygamous defines my last hope of finding love, i'm too old now and have to accept it. I could choice the first one that appears, but for me, love was in first place.

Hope you can find your way and still be happy. You're not wishing a fortune, a impossible dream, just someone to love you and someone that you will love.

 

[lawlietsph]

I truly feel you, I'll turn 29 in february, and a woman btw.
Never ever even had my first kiss. I don't even know what does a hug feels like.
To be honest i've had 2 men in my life in the past 2 years, promising me the world, telling me I am beautiful and that they are going to save me and get me out of here soon, so soon (both of them lived in another country and it was all just long distance situationship crap)
But both of them ended up destroying and breaking my soul to the point where I was ready to stab myself in the heart just to make the pain stop.
I am at rock bottom as I'm writing this - they have zero remorse about using and destroying me.
Now I don't trust anyone and I never will.
I'm better off alone. A bullet to my brain would be really njce right now.

 

[Ozzyno]

I truly feel you, I'll turn 29 in february, and a woman btw.
Never ever even had my first kiss. I don't even know what does a hug feels like.
To be honest i've had 2 men in my life in the past 2 years, promising me the world, telling me I am beautiful and that they are going to save me and get me out of here soon, so soon (both of them lived in another country and it was all just long distance situationship crap)
But both of them ended up destroying and breaking my soul to the point where I was ready to stab myself in the heart just to make the pain stop.
I am at rock bottom as I'm writing this - they have zero remorse about using and destroying me.
Now I don't trust anyone and I never will.
I'm better off alone. A bullet to my brain would be really njce right now.

Where do you live, Antarctica? It's hard to believe you must be so unlucky

 

[lawlietsph]

Where do you live, Antarctica? It's hard to believe you must be so unlucky

Why is it hard to believe? I don't really understand.
I'm not unlucky i'm just ugly, stupid and unlovable I guess
And I live in Europe, but why does it matter

 

[Ozzyno]

Why is it hard to believe? I don't really understand.
I'm not unlucky i'm just ugly, stupid and unlovable I guess
And I live in Europe, but why does it matter

No it was just a stupid joke don't worry… it's hard to believe that people never received a hug, I'm sorry for you.

I also struggle finding people and part of the cause is the place where I live. I was making an hyperbole with Antarctica I'm very funny as you can see

 

[Aya&Dazy]

I am coming close to 40 in a few years. The more I get older the more I wanna die. I have never dated for 10+ year. In my 20s I am extremely introvert, I don't care to date at all but these days I feel so lonely. No friend, no one in my life. I wish we still have N. The only way I feel comfortable to do is N.

 

[Kitsunekia90]

@tiredash Most people just don't know how lucky they are to have someone really want you and choose you. Couples take so much for granted. I wish I had someone give me a rose or cheap chocolates on Valatines day, I wish had those petty arguments couple have and all those boring things couples experience I wish I got to experience.

I cry everyday that all my life I have never been picked by guys while other women get chosen. 6.00am I am crying my eyes out that's how bad it's has progressed. I never used to cry but now I am crying everyday so much.

Never having a boyfriend all I see is everything i have missed out on whenever I go outside seeing couples doing fun stuff.

I understand you, in this world where at least we women want all the same and standardized on dating sites you certainly won't find a sensitive person or one who can understand your problems, I'm 34 and I feel like you, I didn't care before but now I feel really alone. I cry every day so I understand you

 

[yowai]

If you're set on dying anyway why not just play around a little and set up a few profiles? Don't listen to other's stories too much, unless they're for warning you against creepy guys or something like that, then you should listen lol. Or try looking just for one night stands, I found my partner that way You won't find anyone if you don't put yourself out there and risk a little. There's so many men complaining that no women pay attention to them on dating apps and being bitter that even "ugly" women can find someone but they can't, it's a complete opposite of what you're describing lol.

 

[vitbar]

@Zaphkiel I live in the UK. Black men here prefer to be with White women and interracial dating is more higher with black men and white women. This even happens in cities.

Growing up I saw it all the time black men with white women . Asians date to date each other, Jewish people tend to date each other similar with Muslims.

Growing up in a multicultural city i noticed people stick with thier own ethnic groups.

For what it's worth I'm a white British man who has and would date black women. A family on my street has a black mum and white dad. Still you are right that this is less common. Just wanted to say there is still hope.

I'm sorry you have had so much rejection. Especially the horrible treatment at school. Children can be bastards.

 

[blacksand]

I think it's going to be hard to believe but there is still time for you.

You're still in what I can call, the best years of life, try to socialize like going to a gym, parties, events. I know that saying this is not fair, but nice clothers, nice hair, a nice fragrance can help you a lot. Some hairdressers are like magic, hair is a part of woman that can make a incredible change.

I cant complain, as a man, a lot of woman appears in my life but find the right partner in life is becoming like wining the lottery. The worst part is when you get a "winning ticket" but it has a lot of owners.... I really hate modern days, find a partner that was polygamous defines my last hope of finding love, i'm too old now and have to accept it. I could choice the first one that appears, but for me, love was in first place.

Hope you can find your way and still be happy. You're not wishing a fortune, a impossible dream, just someone to love you and someone that you will love.

You're assuming they even live in a place where this is practicable. Many of us are stuck in small towns filled with boomers.

 

[Pryras]

A boyfriend won't make you any happier but it's hard to realize this unless you experience it yourself.

I don't believe most men are capable of loving anyone. At most they can care about you a lot but once you're no longer useful they will start looking for your replacement.
There are men who have gotten down on one knee to propose to the woman they wanted and ended up killing their entire family and children….there are men who will choose you first and once they no longer have access to you, will wish you were dead. Is this superficial love really what you want? Is being sexually available in order to keep someone in your life something you truly desire?

 

[Worndown]

There are many sites to help you meet people.
Check out a few. Look for people that share your interests. Do not look for instant success.
There are people in the same situation looking for you.
The internet does many things but actually allowing people to meet is one of the best.

 

[yowai]

A boyfriend won't make you any happier but it's hard to realize this unless you experience it yourself.

I don't believe most men are capable of loving anyone. At most they can care about you a lot but once you're no longer useful they will start looking for your replacement.
There are men who have gotten down on one knee to propose to the woman they wanted and ended up killing their entire family and children….there are men who will choose you first and once they no longer have access to you, will wish you were dead. Is this superficial love really what you want? Is being sexually available in order to keep someone in your life something you truly desire?

Honestly it pains me that op is tying her self worth so much to being "picked"

 

[Ozzyno]

A boyfriend won't make you any happier but it's hard to realize this unless you experience it yourself.

I don't believe most men are capable of loving anyone. At most they can care about you a lot but once you're no longer useful they will start looking for your replacement.
There are men who have gotten down on one knee to propose to the woman they wanted and ended up killing their entire family and children….there are men who will choose you first and once they no longer have access to you, will wish you were dead. Is this superficial love really what you want? Is being sexually available in order to keep someone in your life something you truly desire?

I don't think it's about being capable of loving. Most couples in history existed because of culture (patriarchy) or personal needs. Finding 'love' has always been pretty hard and when you find that person you also have to grow with them 'in the same direction'. You can't start a relationship and that's it, you have to work on it. Being 'sexually available' is part of being in a relationship, no man or woman would like to not feel attractive to their partner.

 

[FireFox]

Honestly it pains me that op is tying her self worth so much to being "picked"

@yowai Growing up I always saw the other girls at school including friends of mine get boyfriends and have boys notice them while I got left behind. In adulthood seeing women I grew up with now getting married is just reminder of how all my life I have always been the woman who never gets picked while everyone else is chosen.

I do activities by myself and go to places by myself its so upsetting how everywhere I see women with their being taken out to places and having fun.

Sometimes I don't even feel like a real woman because I got to experience the normal milestones every woman experiences.

These sites got their sources from blog sites or from one 2014 OKCupid study. It would probably better to get your info from different primary sources instead.

I would personally say that it wouldn't hurt to give dating apps a try.

@EvisceratedJester There are even numerous YouTube videos of black women sharing how hard it is for black women to get chosen on dating apps.

What i don't like about being a black woman is men don't see as pretty like other races even our own men don't want us. Growing I always saw how men pursue white women or Asian women more while black women and girls were we just made fun of for her hair not being real if we wear weaves and other features like big lips etc.

As a teenager I was even told I was pretty for a black girl by a white boy.

I wish I was born blue eyed blonde haired because i wil be the social standard of beauty and men would want to date me. i do feel being blonde is an advantage even guys I really wanted always chose the blonde over me. My grandmother even said I shouldn't puruse relations with black men because they are attracted to white women more.

Dating apps are full of attractive white women with blonde, red hair etc what chance do I have? ZERO

 

[Ozzyno]

@yowai Growing up I always saw the other girls at school including friends of mine get boyfriends and have boys notice them while I got left behind. In adulthood seeing women I grew up with now getting married is just reminder of how all my life I have always been the woman who never gets picked while everyone else is chosen.

I do activities by myself and go to places by myself its so upsetting how everywhere I see women with their being taken out to places and having fun.

Sometimes I don't even feel like a real woman because I got to experience the normal milestones every woman experiences.

Almost no woman gets 'picked'. It's the other way around… you should really consider trying a dating app, you are a woman, you will find a match it's almost certain.