ghosted again

[Yume Nikki]

Just got ghosted by yet another online friend I met on Reddit. We were bonding over our abusive exes and I even tried to offer substantial advice about how to cope and all of a sudden I'm unfollowed on Instagram. Like why do people do this?? seriously, why even chat with me in the first place if you don't want me in your life?? I can't even blame people for offing themselves at this point. People are rotten and we have to share a fucking planet with them to the point of exhaustion.

 

[Alo97]

don't worry about him, apparently he doesn't deserve you

 

[Yume Nikki]

don't worry about him, apparently he doesn't deserve you

Thank you, I'm not worried, just exhausted from people like this. We were both going through a difficult breakup from our exes who abused us and I tried to bond with them on how to overcome these feelings of shame, guilt, etc. and they just unfollowed me out of the blue. :/

 

[Alo97]

Thank you, I'm not worried, just exhausted from people like this. We were both going through a difficult breakup from our exes who abused us and I tried to bond with them on how to overcome these feelings of shame, guilt, etc. and they just unfollowed me out of the blue. :/

I have no experience so it's hard for me to relate. I feel sorry for you that you come across such assholes. no one deserves to be treated like that and to break off contact without a word. maybe they are not ready for someone like you, maybe they were just scared, or maybe they are just usual freaks and it is good that they left. if they are like that, it is good that it turns out sooner rather than later :)

 

[ForgottenAgain]

Just got ghosted by yet another online friend I met on Reddit. We were bonding over our abusive exes and I even tried to offer substantial advice about how to cope and all of a sudden I'm unfollowed on Instagram. Like why do people do this?? seriously, why even chat with me in the first place if you don't want me in your life?? I can't even blame people for offing themselves at this point. People are rotten and we have to share a fucking planet with them to the point of exhaustion.

I understand that so well...5 years I've been trying to make friends through several different means and people just end up ghosting. The last time was a girl with whom I had a lot in common, both in the same sort of field, we had been talking for some weeks now and I gathered the courage and invited her and her boyfriend to go with me and my boyfriend to a pub that had darts and other fun games. The minimum group size was 4 so it was perfect. I told her the price so we could split the cost. She said she was very excited for it. Then the date approached and she wouldn't reply to my messages, just radio silence.

My boyfriend and I were heartbroken as we can't experience those games if we don't bring along 2 other people and she gave us hope for no reason. I gave her a piece of my mind on the next day and blocked her. I don't understand why she said she was so excited and then just ignores me when the date approaches? Why give me false hope?

I even told her at the start that I have no patience nor heart for fakeness, that I'm looking for a real friend, that I'm severely depressed and can't handle more disappointment. She said she understood completely and also depressed and blah blah blah. So much for understanding, people are such dicks...

I'm sorry you suffered through that. It is not as easy as just ignoring when it keeps happening time and time again. You start to question your own sanity. Am I the problem? Why does this always happen to me? Etc. People are so cruel.

 

[PianoGoat]

You want my opinion? (i may be totally wrong, im talking based on my experiences)
He just wanted to vent his problems on you and when he felt better with himself he wanted to get rid of you because you "weren't of use to him".
Met so many of those people online, really scummy behaviour, you could just write "Look i appreciated everything we talked about but i need to move on in life so i can't talk to you anymore" or some generic excuse, but they dont even have the balls to say that...

 

[Yume Nikki]

I understand that so well...5 years I've been trying to make friends through several different means and people just end up ghosting. The last time was a girl with whom I had a lot in common, both in the same sort of field, we had been talking for some weeks now and I gathered the courage and invited her and her boyfriend to go with me and my boyfriend to a pub that had darts and other fun games. The minimum group size was 4 so it was perfect. I told her the price so we could split the cost. She said she was very excited for it. Then the date approached and she wouldn't reply to my messages, just radio silence.

My boyfriend and I were heartbroken as we can't experience those games if we don't bring along 2 other people and she gave us hope for no reason. I gave her a piece of my mind on the next day and blocked her. I don't understand why she said she was so excited and then just ignores me when the date approaches? Why give me false hope?

I even told her at the start that I have no patience nor heart for fakeness, that I'm looking for a real friend, that I'm severely depressed and can't handle more disappointment. She said she understood completely and also depressed and blah blah blah. So much for understanding, people are such dicks...

I'm sorry you suffered through that. It is not as easy as just ignoring when it keeps happening time and time again. You start to question your own sanity. Am I the problem? Why does this always happen to me? Etc. People are so cruel.

Exactly, like this has happened to me so many times to the point that I'm losing my own damn mind over here, At some point I think I would prefer for people to just block me straight away than leading me on for such a long period of time. We had a heartfelt conversation about how to cope with moving on and I tried to keep in touch but they just unfollowed me everywhere. This keeps happening over and over again and I'm sick of it. Everyone I talk to discusses their long online friendships that lasted for years and I can't seem to find anyone that's even remotely close to that sort of friendship. No matter how similar we are in terms of interests, ethnicity, hobbies, people still do not care so Idk why I bother to continue to exist when this is all I will ever encounter in this lifetime.

Sorry to hear about your experience, people are so damn fake it's ridiculous, we live in a world full of snakes in every corner it seems. :(

You want my opinion? (i may be totally wrong, im talking based on my experiences)
He just wanted to vent his problems on you and when he felt better with himself he wanted to get rid of you because you "weren't of use to him".
Met so many of those people online, really scummy behaviour, you could just write "Look i appreciated everything we talked about but i need to move on in life so i can't talk to you anymore" or some generic excuse, but they dont even have the balls to say that...

They said they wanted to hangout with me at some point after I told them my ex canceled our trip to Greece last minute. Idk what their goal was but yeah everyone treats me like their personal therapist and then abandons me when I'm no longer needed in their life.

 

[PianoGoat]

MAYBE STOP PRESSURING PPL INTO ANSWERING TO UR ANNOYING AHH. BY THIS MESSAGE ALONE I CAN TELL WHY NO ONE ACTUALLY STANDS U. FIX URSELF AND THEN TRY TO BOND W OTHERS

What are you, two years old?
OP never said anything about pressuring others to reply to them...
Maybe you should learn how to read before jumping on people and aggressively insulting them. Expecially on a forum like this one, where people go out of their way to express their deepest insecurities and thoughts.

 

[ForgottenAgain]

NO OFFENSE. SHE S SO WORKED UP BY NOT RECEIVING AN ANSWER FROM PPL TO THE POINT WHERE SHE WRITES THREADS AB IT ON A SUICIDE FORUM CAN TELL SHES ANNOYING AF AND THATS Y PPL CANNOT STAND HER. IM JUST EXPRESSING MY FEELINGS IN A HONEST WAY INSTEAD OD KISSIMG HER IN THE ASS. MAYBE THAT WAY SHE LL FIX HERSELF FASTER

You're not being honest no, you're using "honesty" as an excuse to be an asshole. There's no reason to shout, first of all, and second of all, you know zero about the OP's life. You have no right to come here with that attitude and you know damn well people won't "fix themselves" by being insulted and shouted to.

Your behaviour is disgusting.

Please ignore this person OP, from what you said, there's nothing to make us believe you're the problem and this person's words are unreasonable. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this hostility here. I've reported this person's comments.

 

[PianoGoat]

NO OFFENSE. SHE S SO WORKED UP BY NOT RECEIVING AN ANSWER FROM PPL TO THE POINT WHERE SHE WRITES THREADS AB IT ON A SUICIDE FORUM CAN TELL SHES ANNOYING AF AND THATS Y PPL CANNOT STAND HER. IM JUST EXPRESSING MY FEELINGS IN A HONEST WAY INSTEAD OD KISSIMG HER IN THE ASS. MAYBE THAT WAY SHE LL FIX HERSELF FASTER

I mean, some people need to vent these things.
Some people come here not just to kill themselves, but to find help regarding their issues.
But i guess we can agree to disagree.
I still believe those kind of comments towards people aren't appropriate for a place like this.

 

[opheliaoveragain]

NO OFFENSE. SHE S SO WORKED UP BY NOT RECEIVING AN ANSWER FROM PPL TO THE POINT WHERE SHE WRITES THREADS AB IT ON A SUICIDE FORUM CAN TELL SHES ANNOYING AF AND THATS Y PPL CANNOT STAND HER. IM JUST EXPRESSING MY FEELINGS IN A HONEST WAY INSTEAD OD KISSIMG HER IN THE ASS. MAYBE THAT WAY SHE LL FIX HERSELF FASTER

I hope everyone can take this as a lesson on how not to act towards people on here. This is asshole behavior.








To OP, I'm sorry that happened and sorry your post was derailed in such a gross way.


I suggest everyone disengage with the inflammatory person here and if anything, like name calling, etc occurs, report them.

ETA: Pretty sure they got banned. Multiple inflammatory responses across other threads plus name calling.

 

[Yume Nikki]

I hope everyone can take this as a lesson on how not to act towards people on here. This is asshole behavior.








To OP, I'm sorry that happened and sorry your post was derailed in such a gross way.


I suggest everyone disengage with the inflammatory person here and if anything, like name calling, etc occurs, report them.

ETA: Pretty sure they got banned. Multiple inflammatory responses across other threads plus name calling.

It's okay, I am actually used to trolls. (happens alot) I already blocked the individual so hopefully there will be less spam comments. I don't seem to understand the issue though, it's a suicide forum, are we not allowed to talk about what's driving us to lose hope in humanity? If I wrote about my tendencies to disappear one day, it'd just get removed on another website of some sort. But thank you for reporting them, it's already bad enough that we're all suffering. Shitty people exist unfortunately, and the only thing we can do is not give them any attention.

I mean, some people need to vent these things.
Some people come here not just to kill themselves, but to find help regarding their issues.
But i guess we can agree to disagree.
I still believe those kind of comments towards people aren't appropriate for a place like this.

Agree, the world itself isn't black and white, there will be a point where we need to express ourselves somehow. I don't mind being criticized, but I would prefer it in a way that's less... hostile perhaps? But I guess everyone has a different way of approaching things when it comes to venting.

 

[PianoGoat]

I hope everyone can take this as a lesson on how not to act towards people on here. This is asshole behavior.








To OP, I'm sorry that happened and sorry your post was derailed in such a gross way.


I suggest everyone disengage with the inflammatory person here and if anything, like name calling,

It's okay, I am actually used to trolls. (happens alot) I already blocked the individual so hopefully there will be less spam comments. I don't seem to understand the issue though, it's a suicide forum, are we not allowed to talk about what's driving us to lose hope in humanity? If I wrote about my tendencies to disappear one day, it'd just get removed on another website of some sort. But thank you for reporting them, it's already bad enough that we're all suffering. Shitty people exist unfortunately, and the only thing we can do is not give them any attention.

Agree, the world itself isn't black and white, there will be a point where we need to express ourselves somehow. I don't mind being criticized, but I would prefer it in a way that's less... hostile perhaps? But I guess everyone has a different way of approaching things when it comes to venting.

Dont even worry, i bet it was some random troll who discovered the website (maybe through that one popular video...) and decided to come and just be a shit.
You didn't deserve it, don't worry.

 

[Yume Nikki]

Dont even worry, i bet it was some random troll who discovered the website (maybe through that one popular video...) and decided to come and just be a shit.
You didn't deserve it, don't worry.

Yeah, I've heard of that one popular video floating around Youtube, so it was only a matter of time that it would garner a lot of negative attention from trolls. I don't take it personally though, since they're only brave enough behind a screen.

 

[shrizoid]

Just got ghosted by yet another online friend I met on Reddit. We were bonding over our abusive exes and I even tried to offer substantial advice about how to cope and all of a sudden I'm unfollowed on Instagram. Like why do people do this?? seriously, why even chat with me in the first place if you don't want me in your life?? I can't even blame people for offing themselves at this point. People are rotten and we have to share a fucking planet with them to the point of exhaustion.

That's the annoying thing with online friendships/bonds, they seem so fragile and rarely have substantial emotions behind them, causing people to do things like this, It never surprises me but it gets annoying after a while

 

[Yume Nikki]

That's the annoying thing with online friendships/bonds, they seem so fragile and rarely have substantial emotions behind them, causing people to do things like this, It never surprises me but it gets annoying after a while

Agreed, I don't think any of my online friendships lasted more than a year of two due to this and it's becoming a pattern.

 

[shrizoid]

Agreed, I don't think any of my online friendships lasted more than a year of two due to this and it's becoming a pattern.

Most of my online relationships don't last for longer than a year, not the real close ones at least, but theres one guy that ive known for nearly 4 years that I still talk with (kinda) and play games alot with, he's one of the things keeping me better, oh and if you need somebody that wouldnt ghost you, im here, i hate when people do those things

 

[Yume Nikki]

Most of my online relationships don't last for longer than a year, not the real close ones at least, but theres one guy that ive known for nearly 4 years that I still talk with (kinda) and play games alot with, he's one of the things keeping me better, oh and if you need somebody that wouldnt ghost you, im here, i hate when people do those things

I appreciate the generosity, I'll be here too if you need to talk, vent or anything! :)

 

[shrizoid]

I appreciate the generosity, I'll be here too if you need to talk, vent or anything! :)

no problem

I appreciate the generosity, I'll be here too if you need to talk, vent or anything! :)

do you have chat/conversation features yet

 

[Yume Nikki]

no problem

do you have chat/conversation features yet

I think so, I've only been around for a couple of days now so I might need to test it out to see if it's enabled.

 

[avoid_slow_death]

Another possibility is they ghost everyone. Not because they use people or because they don't like you, but because maybe they feel it's best they don't associate with people too much. People like that often think it's better if others hate or ignore them because they feel they just ruin others lives sometimes just by being friendly. It sounds silly, but some people genuinely feel that it's best to isolate for the sake of everyone else.