Has someone else seen your self-harm scars or cuts?

[Signal]

As the title says, has someone ever seen your cuts or scars, whether because you showed them or by accident? If so, how did they react?

Lately, I've been having nightmares where people notice my scars and find out that I self-harm. When that happens, I always wake up feeling extremely anxious and uncomfortable, so I figured I'd ask if something like that has ever happened to you people.

 

[Forveleth]

My partner saw them. He was not happy. I just looked at him and was like "what the fuck are you going to do about it?" because there is nothing he can do. I am an adult and I can make my own choices and he can either live with them or get the fuck out of my life (which he will not because I am his meal ticket).

Even if someone else saw them, I would not feel any shame about it. I am in a terrible mental place and self-harm is how I cope. If people do not like it maybe they should work on improving society so people like us would not have to get to this point.

Then again, I have never been one to back down from showing people the more ugly parts of life.

 

[Cauliflour]

People either get mad, ignore my reasoning and make up their own conclusion or are chill about it and quickly move on.

 

[YandereMikuMistress]

Yup, and no matter what I am the bad guy.



One time my aunt who never ever sees us or calls, nothing, whatever, but I'm with my grandma on the island and she meets up with are aunt aka my grandmas daughter and I guess she thought Itd be appropriate to pull up my sleeves when I was 14 I believe and we were in the middle of a public mall food court and shes just sitting there and leans over fast and asks me if I cut myself, at this point I haven't even said anything because because she did that she was questioning my dark clothing.

But the incidents only get worse through the years it seems.

 

[Merocero]

My younger brother did, but he's 9 and doesn't realise what that is i guess, i didnt show my scars to anyone else (and the brother saw them by accident sigh)
i NEVER want to show my scars to anyone, i dont want to be judged, or moralised.
i already admitted that i self harm to a girl i like and she was mad and told me to "never do it again cause im too pure" and uh i didnt stop, its not that easy man...

 

[psp3000]

kInd of? during a time when things were really bad and I was just starting to use self harm as a coping mechanism

tl;dr: do not self harm in public places and if you do make sure to wear socks or stop the bleeding or wear a bandaid or something

Spoiler: random old story that could be a lot shorter

I was going to a hospital out of town to visit someone and at this entrance there was a security guard and they want you to leave your items there or they search through them or whatever although all I needed to do was use the restroom so I did that got through and then went to the bathroom I actually did have to pee but also I was upset about something earlier and harmed myself

and before I walked to this entrance and the restroom the cut wasn't bleeding or anything

so I thought I was fine

after I used the restroom and washed my hands and walked back to the entrance I came in from and got my items back, I waited to meet someone else I came with to get back from the restroom

waiting in the same area as the security guards

then I felt something cold all of the sudden running down my ankle and I looked down and it was blood so I was hoping they (security guards) wouldn't notice it but I ended up looking a bit shifty because I was paranoid that they would see and then I would end up in some ward out of town of all places

the person I am waiting for still hasn't shown up yet so I try to calm down and avoid eye contact with the security guards although I had a feeling they were looking at me or noticed the blood which was visible as my pants were slightly above my ankle because I pulled them up too high I guess as I rushed out of the bathroom

so then my other plan in case someone asked was that I didn't know I randomly got my period or was leaking

but I didn't get stuck there or have to pretend I was on my period and started leaking because the personal I came with and was waiting for finally showed up

? I guess my walk to the entrance and also to and from restroom made the area (calf) start bleeding again ?

 

[kcon1243]

I mean my body is covered in 25 years of scars that are hard to miss. Nowadays people dont really say much. People in my life know. I do try and hide fresh wounds, but with scars idgaf

 

[senyaa.]

;; my mom and a couple of my friends definitely saw them, the friends just try to make me stop by scolding me or whatever they think they're doing and mom told it makes her sad so asked me not to do that for now. i've whined to her about sh before but she says didn't remember that.
;; don't know if anyone else saw them cuz i not care to cover them.

 

[Upon a hanging Body]

I walk around normally with a ton of scars all over , I've learned to not care what people think of them. Chances are I'll never see them again so why should I care .

 

[RoseGirl]

people see mine all the time, i've gotten some absolutely insane comments on them lol. Basically i work as a waiter and cbfed to always wear long sleaves so customers see, i haven't really noticed them staring at all tho. one of my coworkers tell me off whenever she sees new cuts and another of them was like. "you're cuts look cool, did you like make them yourself?" "I think they make u look like an anime character"
Then there r the fetishists who are attracted to my sh scars.

 

[Signal]

people see mine all the time, i've gotten some absolutely insane comments on them lol. Basically i work as a waiter and cbfed to always wear long sleaves so customers see, i haven't really noticed them staring at all tho. one of my coworkers tell me off whenever she sees new cuts and another of them was like. "you're cuts look cool, did you like make them yourself?" "I think they make u look like an anime character"
Then there r the fetishists who are attracted to my sh scars.

Lol, saying that your cuts makes you look like an anime character is insane, what kind of anime are they even watching?

 

[darksouls]

I dont hide my scars
people are indifferent to me

 

[Lost Kin]

I don't have many self-harm scars. Mainly I just have some self-harm scars on my left arm, which are 2 years old at this point. You can definitely see them, but almost no one sees them, but recently someone has noticed them. Her reaction was just "welcome to the club" and a high five, which I just found funny.

Most likely why no one seems to notice my self-harm scars is that I have a lot bigger scars on my right arm. These do not stem from self-harm, and when I get asked about them, I don't mind telling about them.

 

[Mytimeisending]

I've self harmed ever since I was a child, I remember the first time my parents seeing them they weren't happy, but over time they became just a part of me I no longer hide the scars. And nobody judges me. People are quite accepting nowadays.

 

[ceilng_tile]

I started by cutting only on my legs. Then it reached a point where I *wanted* people to see the repercussions of how they were treating me so I started cutting in more visible places--one or two new cuts here and there, but never parallel or too close to each other, and never deeper than the dermis.

It was enough that people could see the cuts but not enough to make it obvious what I was doing. I needed enough plausible deniability so that I wouldn't get in trouble for being "emotionally unstable." (I was already dealing with invasive mental health monitoring at work.) There were a couple times when people asked about the scar in the snuffbox of my left hand (from an aborted suicide attempt) but I just told them it was from my cat and they didn't ask any more questions.

 

[PrincessSaturn]

When my mom caught my cutting in middle school she instantly threw my ass into an institution. The rest of my family judged me for it, and to this day are still convinced I'm influenced by the devil or something. For my family, that was a very radical and "crazy" thing for me to have done to myself at such a young age. And it was, but they failed to understand the reason I resorted to self harm.

When I first started dating my boyfriend, I don't think he even noticed. As time went on and we talked about my past childhood traumas, he was very loving and understanding when I showed him my cutting scars. I'm very lucky that he doesn't judge me for it. Even after 2 years together, it's not really something that bothers him.

On the other hand there's friends, randoms, and coworkers who have definitely noticed them. Most of them don't ask, but I did have a stranger point to my wrist and ask me where the scars came from. I was obviously embarrassed and anxious from being put on the spot, so I lied and said I fell out of a tree. Not sure if he believed me but at the end of the day it's none of his business.

I've tried over the years to not be so ashamed and embarrassed about it, but it's not easy when you know most people will be horrified that you have the willpower to bring a blade to your skin.

tdlr; yes, many different people in my life have noticed and asked about my cutting scars. For most, it's none of their business. I only tell the truth about my scars to people I trust deeply, because I know they won't use it against me.

 

[caffeinepanic]

As the title says, has someone ever seen your cuts or scars, whether because you showed them or by accident? If so, how did they react?

Lately, I've been having nightmares where people notice my scars and find out that I self-harm. When that happens, I always wake up feeling extremely anxious and uncomfortable, so I figured I'd ask if something like that has ever happened to you people.

Unintentionally, but yes. My 16yo sister likes to point them out all the time and says "what happened" like she's trying to get me in trouble. I scar easily from mosquito bites and the occasional kitchen accident anyway, so I pull out whatever lame excuse to explain away the SH scars to get her off my back. I think my friend noticed once when we were out for bubble tea because when I came back from the restroom, she leaned over to say "you know you can tell me stuff". I get the sentiment but that made me feel worse about it. But whenever I get worried about it now, I put color corrector and concealer on my arms and hope it stays put. If the makeup's ever noticed I can just say I was using my arm to load foundation/concealer on my brush and forgot to wipe it off.

 

[Cássius]

My family saw it and wanted to kick me out of the house