how do i cope with my boyfriend losing feelings for me

[gh0ulxx8]

i don't know what to do the depression is so overwhelming sometimes. it just feels like he has lost feeling for me and it has felt that way for some time now. but we live together and i sacrificed so much to get us here and it's like now that we live together and he has me permanently it's like he doesn't want me anymore. not at all. his depression is so so bad and it was bad our entire relationship but it used to be that i was worried he would ctb if i DIDNT come live with him, he always said over the phone he needed me so bad because his depression was crippling him. but now i feel so neglected and im not even worried about him hurting himself anymore im just worried about me hurting myself. i feel like used trash and i still care about him so much but there's no effort coming from him. i feel like the hated girlfriend. i should've taken my chance to leave when he wasn't 100% in the first place but I thought it would all work out and now ive made huge sacrifices im scared i have nowhere else to turn and I've ruined my prospects of having a good start at life on my own. i have no idea how to cope with this im so scared of life and the world and i can't even apply to get a primary care doctor by myself im going to rot myself to death with nobody to help me and if my boyfriend leaves me im even worse off than i was before.

 

[bathinginmymisery]

I know how this feels, and im so so sorry. im going through the exact same thing. i made so many sacrifices for my boyfriend that my existence depends on him leaving me or not.

you'll never entirely get over him loosing feelings for you if it is true. love is complicated and it's going to hurt for awhile. but if you choose to stay with us, you will learn to cope with it. itll just take awhile.

 

[bankai]

That's the problem with people, unfortunately. They're always selfish. Most individuals will always consider themselves #1. And you can't really fault them for that. I guess human survival depends on it. Hope you find someone better, you certainly do deserve it. You've been caring and kind.

 

[Pale_Rider]

Im gonna give him the benefit of the doubt, and say maybe he is just comfortable with you there? He doesn't mean to be disconnected, but is really indulging his depression now?

Thats my devils advocate position, but feel better.

 

[cemeteryismyhome]

It sucks. I'm old so take that into context when I say: For me, it was easier to just give up on the whole idea. I'm stuck in a marriage-from-hell and even before then realized falling in love is a terrible cruel trick. I hope you have better success and don't end up a crabby old person like me.

 

[fracturedviolence]

you need to not hyperfixate on him and instead talk to any other friends you have, not even about your issues but maybe ask them about thier life and listen to them and thier optimism. when you are so entrenched with someone else who is going through something you can become engulfed in it. take a break from the relationship, you don't have to move out or tell him but just find other people to interact with. have some footing to ensure that you won't be worse off if he leaves you. it's possible

 

[badkarma4618]

im in the exact same boat as you and i know its so hard. the loneliness is like no other. the only way i have coped is by taking it day by day and trying to be the best gf i can just to attempt reigniting that spark even if its only for a moment :(

 

[RoseGirl]

Oh my god I've had this happen to me one, as soon as I realised like they'd 100% lost feelings for me I imminently slit my wrists, then I kept deeping the cut over the next 3 days. It was so hellish...
Honestly, I like don't really have advice on what to do... If you have friends it would be good to talk to them...