How do you find somewhere to live if you are in an abusive place?

[terriblememories]

I am unable to pay for anything myself.

 

[Nitheful]

That's what I'm still trying to figure out. Completely stuck and isolated and not allowed any freedom.

 

[thaelyana]

I am unable to pay for anything myself.

That's what I'm still trying to figure out. Completely stuck and isolated and not allowed any freedom.

Hi! If you're in danger or in an abusive situation, you can first try to reach out to emergency shelters. They can sometimes offer you a bed for a few days or weeks (it's rare, but possible), like they do for women facing domestic violence or young people who had to leave home. I don't know exactly what your situation is, but these kinds of places can usually help connect you to organizations (NGOs) that offer transitional or even long-term housing. Just make sure to check how it works in your country, because I'm not from the US.
Also, basic idea — if it's safe and possible, you could ask a trusted friend or relative if you can stay with them for a while.
You mentioned you don't have money, why is that? Are you unable to work, or just don't have time right now? In France, we have things like the "Mission Locale" for young people, or temporary job agencies (interim) that help you get work quickly. If you're a student, there are usually social aids, like grants, housing support, even free mental health help. And even if you're not a student, you can still get some forms of support.

Oh and I almost forgot, some churches or religious groups also open their doors when people are in need. Don't hesitate to try that either :)

 

[TBONTB]

Hi! If you're in danger or in an abusive situation, you can first try to reach out to emergency shelters. They can sometimes offer you a bed for a few days or weeks (it's rare, but possible), like they do for women facing domestic violence or young people who had to leave home. I don't know exactly what your situation is, but these kinds of places can usually help connect you to organizations (NGOs) that offer transitional or even long-term housing. Just make sure to check how it works in your country, because I'm not from the US.
Also, basic idea — if it's safe and possible, you could ask a trusted friend or relative if you can stay with them for a while.
You mentioned you don't have money, why is that? Are you unable to work, or just don't have time right now? In France, we have things like the "Mission Locale" for young people, or temporary job agencies (interim) that help you get work quickly. If you're a student, there are usually social aids, like grants, housing support, even free mental health help. And even if you're not a student, you can still get some forms of support.

Oh and I almost forgot, some churches or religious groups also open their doors when people are in need. Don't hesitate to try that either :)

good comments. Just noticing how many more options there are in France than in the US. Nice to see a place exists with good social support

 

[thaelyana]

good comments. Just noticing how many more options there are in France than in the US. Nice to see a place exists with good social support

Yes there are good structures in France, they are not the best they are sometimes saturated etc but they still offer a way to "go out". There are many helps.. only we don't know them all

 

[Redacted24]

I lived for almost a year in a church basement.

The church staff knew vaguely of my situation. I made an appointment to talk during the week, and explained my situation and answered their questions.
They gave me the key.
There weren't any things that came with it. It wasn't a shelter. No food or staff there in the evenings when I went.
I just had a sleeping bag (my own) and kept things tidy, never leaving clothes or belongings there, so during the week nobody would notice any signs.

A friend or someone that you trust is a great option too, even if you just are allowed to use their address for job hunting stuff.

 

[tormentedhusk]

a singh gurdwara if they live in your area.

 

[bl33ding_heart]

I am unable to pay for anything myself.

I'm in a similar situation :/

Try to have at least one person you can rely on, that can give you some money or a place to stay if things get too sour. Best of luck, I hope things get better for you.