How do you get over the fear of failure?

[IMAFRAIDDAVE]

I am not afraid of dying. I have wanted it for all of my life. I just am afraid of failing.

Of course, there is always a small chance of failure but if you never try there is no point. So trying and failing is better than never trying.

My anchor point (ceiling fan) is wobbly and not very strong but I tested it by pressing down with my hand, so I truly hope it does hold. Maybe if it does fall l will just die from being crushed hahah.

Any tips? Anyone going through the same thing?

 

[finalgoodbye:(]

So trying and failing is better than never trying.

Not sure about that. Impulsive/non-planned trials can make you end up in a much worse state than when you started

 

[wham311]

Not sure about that. Impulsive/non-planned trials can make you end up in a much worse state than when you started

Unfortunately they're also how to ensure you go through with it.

My friend failed for almost a year until he crashed his car. Said he had to do it now. I think the adrenaline gave him the boost

 

[maplefig]

There's always a risk with everything. The only way to mitigate the possibility of failure is by choosing highly reliable methods unfortunately.

Though I feel you. I don't want to end up incapacitated from a failed attempt either.

 

[IMAFRAIDDAVE]

Not sure about that. Impulsive/non-planned trials can make you end up in a much worse state than when you started

True, but sometimes even if you plan it out the only thing that can push you to do it is impulsivity and deciding not to care.

There's always a risk with everything. The only way to mitigate the possibility of failure is by choosing highly reliable methods unfortunately.

Though I feel you. I don't want to end up incapacitated from a failed attempt either.

Yeah, the worst part is how many hurdles you have to get through to plan something out.

 

[Seeking_Solace]

This is why I haven't attempted. It's frustrating.

 

[honorando]

I think thats why some people dont attempt, because they are afraid of failing

 

[cemeteryismyhome]

Ceiling fans are just fans, not at all intended to hold much weight. I'm sorry to tell you that you'll just end up with a wrecked fan. And maybe a bruised head but that's about it.

 

[Hollowman]

Pressing down with your hand is nowhere near good enough. You need to be sure the anchor point will hold for a half an hour. As far as getting over the fear idk it's different for everyone.

 

[itwillhappensoon]

I've seen people ctb with a scarf tied to fan , it's possible, but it depends on fan durability .

 

[IMAFRAIDDAVE]

Pressing down with your hand is nowhere near good enough. You need to be sure the anchor point will hold for a half an hour. As far as getting over the fear idk it's different for everyone.

Yeah, that is what I thought. How much of your body weight does the anchor point have to hold approximately?

 

[FuneralCry]

I really understand, I find it so terrifying how trying to cease existing can go wrong and lead to way more suffering and torture as a result, it's horrific to me how there's no limit as to how much a human can suffer. All I wish for is to die peacefully in an guaranteed way and I always suffer so much from how I cannot just have that as all I want is to never exist ever again, I see so much cruelty in how peaceful, guaranteed death is denied for me with the suffering of existing seen as to prolong no matter what.

 

[NonEssential]

Fear of failure is why I haven't ctb, why I haven't found a job, why I haven't found new friends, why I haven't ever been in a relationship. It's hell.

 

[IMAFRAIDDAVE]

I really understand, I find it so terrifying how trying to cease existing can go wrong and lead to way more suffering and torture as a result, it's horrific to me how there's no limit as to how much a human can suffer. All I wish for is to die peacefully in an guaranteed way and I always suffer so much from how I cannot just have that as all I want is to never exist ever again, I see so much cruelty in how peaceful, guaranteed death is denied for me with the suffering of existing seen as to prolong no matter what.

Yes, I understand. I hope you can finally find peace in death. The restrictions put on dying peacefully only lead to people seeking respite in much more painful ways.

 

[Hollowman]

Yeah, that is what I thought. How much of your body weight does the anchor point have to hold approximately?

All of it and then some if you're doing full. The body flails around after unconsciousness. I considered fsh before. I live alone in a house. I'd go up in the attic find a sturdy beam and cut holes on either side of it through the ceiling. Tie the rope, test it and get the fuck out of here. I found a much easier way though. There's a really good reason shoelaces and drawstrings aren't allowed in psych wards.

 

[IMAFRAIDDAVE]

All of it and then some if you're doing full. The body flails around after unconsciousness. I considered fsh before. I live alone in a house. I'd go up in the attic find a sturdy beam and cut holes on either side of it through the ceiling. Tie the rope, test it and get the fuck out of here. I found a much easier way though. There's a really good reason shoelaces and drawstrings aren't allowed in psych wards.

Ah, I am doing partial. Thank you for the advice though!

 

[Hollowman]

Forget about the fan, doors are much better. There's loads of info about it here. Do some research.

 

[JesiBel]

You can use the door.. Are you very tall?

Thread 'Guide on how to create an anchor point for full suspension hanging using only a dumbbell'

Guide on how to create an anchor point for full suspension hanging using only a dumbbell

Do you want to hang yourself using full suspension in the comfort of your home or in a hotel, but have no anchor points? Well, here's the solution for you. It's very simple yet effective, requiring only a dumbbell. For this setup you'll be using a rope, and slip one end over a door, tying it to...

sanctioned-suicide.net

You can replace the dumbbell with any other sturdy object that acts as a lock.

The best way to avoid failure in a method is to being well informed about the entire procedure and having good materials.

 

[Hollowman]

You can use the door.. Are you very tall?

Thread 'Guide on how to create an anchor point for full suspension hanging using only a dumbbell'

Guide on how to create an anchor point for full suspension hanging using only a dumbbell

Do you want to hang yourself using full suspension in the comfort of your home or in a hotel, but have no anchor points? Well, here's the solution for you. It's very simple yet effective, requiring only a dumbbell. For this setup you'll be using a rope, and slip one end over a door, tying it to...

sanctioned-suicide.net

You can replace the dumbbell with any other sturdy object that acts as a lock.

The best way to avoid failure in a method is to being well informed about the entire procedure and having good materials.

They want to do partial. Height is irrelevant.

 

[JesiBel]

They want to do partial. Height is irrelevant.

Well, user can get things right from the start by switching to FSH.. Unless op is not ready to go yet.

 

[IMAFRAIDDAVE]

Well, user can get things right from the start by switching to FSH.. Unless op is not ready to go yet.

No need to be an ass. I am fully ready to go, I just do not have the resources.

Forget about the fan, doors are much better. There's loads of info about it here. Do some research.

Ok. I HAVE been doing research, at least trying to, that is why I am on here.

 

[JesiBel]

No need to be an ass. I am fully ready to go, I just do not have the resources.

Ok. I HAVE been doing research, at least trying to, that is why I am on here.

Good luck then. You're saying you're afraid of failing and making mistakes, and you don't want to do things right. Then I don't understand.

Good materials + best option + don't rush into what you have at hand + get well informed = desired result

 

[AllWentWrong]

All of it and then some if you're doing full. The body flails around after unconsciousness. I considered fsh before. I live alone in a house. I'd go up in the attic find a sturdy beam and cut holes on either side of it through the ceiling. Tie the rope, test it and get the fuck out of here. I found a much easier way though. There's a really good reason shoelaces and drawstrings aren't allowed in psych wards.

Is it easier though? I see a lot of hand waving about getting ligature right. Do you know of good posts to do ligature strangulation/tourniquet with low pain and high success? One of my previous posted question about this was ignored.

 

[hedezev4]

If you think something might go wrong, it will.
Make sure the chance of failure is as low as possible.
It's better to spend a month preparing now than to spend decades paralyzed or with brain damage later.

If your method is hanging, check how much weight the attachment point can hold. I would go with a safety margin and make sure the spot can handle 2–3 times my body weight.

 

[Hollowman]

Is it easier though? I see a lot of hand waving about getting ligature right. Do you know of good posts to do ligature strangulation/tourniquet with low pain and high success? One of my previous posted question about this was ignored.

Yes it is, depending on the material. no I don't. Do a little digging.

 

[dontwakemeup]

I guess with all my attempts, the fear of failing was always there each time. The risk of sleeping forever was greater than the risk of failing so I took the chance. I guess it depends on how bad you want to go. You can go over your plan a million times but you'll never really know unless you try it. You have to decide what's the best decision for you. Best wishes to you!

 

[kitkat9234]

Fear of failure is one of the reasons why I haven't tried again. Last time I ended up in a psych ward then 30 days inpatient. Left me worse off and traumatized. Thankfully I was able to keep my job somehow. This time I may not be that lucky then will lose my apartment, car etc. I wish there was a fool proof way. Sigh. This sucks.

 

[IMAFRAIDDAVE]

Good luck then. You're saying you're afraid of failing and making mistakes, and you don't want to do things right. Then I don't understand.

Good materials + best option + don't rush into what you have at hand + get well informed = desired result

There is no "doing things right" as long as you have the will to do it and the right materials to do it then you are okay. You are not better than anyone for choosing a different method.

 

[JesiBel]

There is no "doing things right" as long as you have the will to do it and the right materials to do it then you are okay. You are not better than anyone for choosing a different method.

My method is Full Suspension Hanging. You can do whatever you want, it's your decision.