I am becoming a stalker.

[Parnate]

Well, I am obsessed with this guy . It is not sexual attraction. Its is different. I want to be his friend, best friend. He has a life that i always wanted. He has everything I want. I follow him on social media. I knew about the area he stays in, this Sunday i happened to pass that area so I went there and searched for his home, i wanted to have one glimpse of his in person. I talked to strangers and mentioned his last name. There were many people with the same last name in that area. I didn't want to be too specific since I was scared , what if he got to know? So I returned .
I got to know about his business , i have been since searching for his office , i am thinking of going and waiting outside his office or probably just making relevant enquiries so that i get to speak to him. I am going crazy. God please stop this.

 

[claracatchingthebus]

Well, I am obsessed with this guy . It is not sexual attraction. Its is different. I want to be his friend, best friend. He has a life that i always wanted. He has everything I want. I follow him on social media. I knew about the area he stays in, this Sunday i happened to pass that area so I went there and searched for his home, i wanted to have one glimpse of his in person. I talked to strangers and mentioned his last name. There were many people with the same last name in that area. I didn't want to be too specific since I was scared , what if he got to know? So I returned .
I got to know about his business , i have been since searching for his office , i am thinking of going and waiting outside his office or probably just making relevant enquiries so that i get to speak to him. I am going crazy. God please stop this.

you should go to a psychiatrist and get put on low dose atypical antipsychotics

you're experiencing low-grade psychosis

following this person this way is not going to get you to be friends and it's irrational to think that and your desire to be friends with this random person, and not look to meet people in other ways, is irrational

 

[amerie]

you should go to a psychiatrist and get put on low dose atypical antipsychotics

you're experiencing low-grade psychosis

following this person this way is not going to get you to be friends and it's irrational to think that and your desire to be friends with this random person, and not look to meet people in other ways, is irrational

I don't know if we should say it's psychosis yet as it can be a multitude of issues but they definitely need to seek professional help because it's clear that they don't have control over their inhibitions either way.

This is one of the rare cases where I think therapy and a diagnosis is necessary.

 

[EternalHunger]

With this level of obsession, maybe you don't particularly like him as an individual to become friends with, but the idea of the him in your mind personified as this most perfect person that you want to become; it sounds less as though you are trying to actively get to know him and more like you subconsciously keep a certain 'distance' as to not disturb his own life.

But yeah, seeking professional help is likely best. Sticking to this sort of routine will only 'brighten' his every move in your eyes and shadow your own life and/or needs.

 

[dontwakemeup]

I'm happy you feel safe here and able to admit this is abnormal behavior. I won't tear you down much because we are all not societies favorite.

It seems you see him as what a "perfect" person looks like and admire his life. Your perception of him is simply that, and it holds no value in the truth. Who knows, that guy could have easily made a post this morning saying he wants to ctb and goodbye!

You have already crossed the line as you admit and are aware of this. Please stop and seek help. As a victim of a stalker, the pain never goes away! Even of you think he has no idea you are there, perhaps he has this sense that someone is watching him. If you need more clarity of a stalker, there's this great documentaries on Netflix called, I am a stalker. I'll say this and it's not to offend you. I'm willing to bet you have done this before and this isn't your 1st rodeo. You probably never got caught, but I believe this has happened before. Like I strongly advised you, please stop!

 

[Dejected 55]

Going down this path is not good... not for you... definitely not for the person you are stalking. While you are at the point of realizing what you are doing is wrong, this is when you need to curb it, before it gets out of hand.

 

[Bootleg Astolfo]

Make sure you load up on nuts/bolts so you can throw them at anomalies, those things are everywhere and usually guard the most valuable artifacts, comrade !




Wait, wrong kind of S.T.A.L.K.E.R

 

[joshardy]

Make sure you load up on nuts/bolts so you can throw them at anomalies, those things are everywhere and usually guard the most valuable artifacts, comrade !

LMAO this made me chuckle, but ya like others have/are saying this is not a great way to like, live.


Wait, wrong kind of S.T.A.L.K.E.R

 

[Parnate]

U r

you should go to a psychiatrist and get put on low dose atypical antipsychotics

you're experiencing low-grade psychosis

following this person this way is not going to get you to be friends and it's irrational to think that and your desire to be friends with this random person, and not look to meet people in other ways, is irrational

U r right, I can feel this empty feeling in my heart cause of my obsession . I was on risperidone and it had brought this obsession under control but I stopped cause of increased appetite and weight gain. But I guess I should resume that. Thanks for the advice, really needed this.

 

[ylenol]

hot

 

[hippiedeath]

I'm on olanzapine, and was on risperidone. If you're feeling unwell off it, maybe you need to come off slower.

 

[RoseGirl]

Holy mother of borderline (bad) personality disorder
Because or you'll end up yoonbum
@ylenol giwtwm

 

[claracatchingthebus]

U r

U r right, I can feel this empty feeling in my heart cause of my obsession . I was on risperidone and it had brought this obsession under control but I stopped cause of increased appetite and weight gain. But I guess I should resume that. Thanks for the advice, really needed this.

there are other lower intensity anti-psychotics like abilify and seroquel that, at low doses, may not be as bad for weight gain. risperidone is one of the worst medications for weight gain, see if there are other options. what if things aren't black and white and you could do a low dose of something?

it's also possible that you could just message this person on social media at some point and say hi and see if they want to hang out. but the way you are going about this is what's a bit not in touch with reality. like it's so abnormal the whole approach that if this person were to end up not wanting to speak with you, or were even mean, what then?

 

[Captain Howdy]

Not knowing, you, I'd ask a few questions:

1. Is this a new thing for you? Have you become obsessed with anyone else? How did that end?
2. You say you want to be his best friend? What then? What level of relationship with this man will make you feel satisfied?
3. How honest are you with yourself? Does the line between fantasy and reality blur?

Now I'd like to ask a hypothetical.

You have love in your heart for this person. Imagine with everything you do and learn about him, it just gets better and he is the best thing ever. You are so happy with your new best friend. Now imagine that he does something that shatters it all. Something terrible. The worst thing you can think of. What is your reaction? Simply mad? Or wayyyyy beyond mad?

 

[Nobodi]

Well, I am obsessed with this guy . It is not sexual attraction. Its is different. I want to be his friend, best friend. He has a life that i always wanted. He has everything I want. I follow him on social media. I knew about the area he stays in, this Sunday i happened to pass that area so I went there and searched for his home, i wanted to have one glimpse of his in person. I talked to strangers and mentioned his last name. There were many people with the same last name in that area. I didn't want to be too specific since I was scared , what if he got to know? So I returned .
I got to know about his business , i have been since searching for his office , i am thinking of going and waiting outside his office or probably just making relevant enquiries so that i get to speak to him. I am going crazy. God please stop this.

You definitely push him away if you do that. If your trying to be there friend it should always be organic. Don't follow them or stalker them that an invasion of privacy. I understand you admire them for having a life you want to live but this method isn't right you crossing their boundaries whether they know it or not. Try a psychologist but if you do happen to see them acknowledge them and say hey Im sorry for the bother but I've seen you before I follow you on social media I really like you content/posts and just keep it short and tell them bye have a nice day. Everyone likes compliments but if you start observing them like they way your doing that could really bother the person I'm speaking from experience from someone whose been stalked before. Please see a psychiatrist there is absolutely no shame in that. Please Respect thier boundaries no one likes to be stalked

 

[sweetcreep]

sounds so exciting ! I wish I'd have enough of an interest for someone to stalk them. Not sure why you'd want this to stop, this period is golden, you can still learn so much about him, exploring and interacting with places he's been to sounds thrilling, especially considering he's active on social media, it would make sense he'd get out a lot, plus you can find so much information online on him nowadays.
You're somewhat crazy for wanting to interact with him already, isn't it unrealistic ?
How long have you known him for ? Has he ever seen you ?

girl what? chill. let's not encourage stalking????? it's really fucked up to be stalked?????

like i'm honestly really concerned about this and can't even find the words. please do not stalk people. it fucking sucks.