I wish i was someone else

[FireFox]

I wish I was someone else and not me anymore. When I get rejected by a guy I always get so jealous of the women they end up with because I think they are luckiest women in the world being chosen by the men I really wanted.

People tell me rejection is a "blessing" or "rejection direction" i disagree because for me I see every rejection as the worst thing in the world. I really wanted those men who rejected me and me being rejected I see as a lost opportunity. I know 100% if I got the men I wanted I would have absolutely loved and cared fot them in the relationship.

I don't process rejection normally like other people. When I get rejected I go into severe depression and I feel like I have lost an opportunity not being chosen by that particular person. I feel rejection so intensely its hard to explain because these feelings can last many months and even longer. When people say "get over him" I just can't get over someone so easily the way they can so easily.

I make all the effort to ask guys out, care about their day and who they are as a person but still guys tell me I am not good enough for them they want another woman. All my life I have been that girl now woman who never gets picked and never had a guy really want her. It's hurts I have not been someone's crush or that person a man really wanted so much. At university I talk to people as I am very sociable but still I don't click with the guys and they don't click with me either too. The guys either have a girlfriend or interested in another woman but nobody sees me.

I wish I wasn't me anymore because guys don't see anything special in me and don't even want to know me. I wish was another woman, a woman that gets always noticed, wanted and picked.

 

[MatrixPrisoner]

They're just saying that to make you feel better. Everyone gets hurt by rejection.

 

[Ozzyno]

I wish I was someone else and not me anymore. When I get rejected by a guy I always get so jealous of the women they end up with because I think they are luckiest women in the world being chosen by the men I really wanted.

People tell me rejection is a "blessing" or "rejection direction" i disagree because for me I see every rejection as the worst thing in the world. I really wanted those men who rejected me and me being rejected I see as a lost opportunity. I know 100% if I got the men I wanted I would have absolutely loved and cared fot them in the relationship.

I don't process rejection normally like other people. When I get rejected I go into severe depression and I feel like I have lost an opportunity not being chosen by that particular person. I feel rejection so intensely its hard to explain because these feelings can last many months and even longer. When people say "get over him" I just can't get over someone so easily the way they can so easily.

I make all the effort to ask guys out, care about their day and who they are as a person but still guys tell me I am not good enough for them they want another woman. All my life I have been that girl now woman who never gets picked and never had a guy really want her. It's hurts I have not been someone's crush or that person a man really wanted so much. At university I talk to people as I am very sociable but still I don't click with the guys and they don't click with me either too. The guys either have a girlfriend or interested in another woman but nobody sees me.

I wish I wasn't me anymore because guys don't see anything special in me and don't even want to know me. I wish was another woman, a woman that gets always noticed, wanted and picked.

Man I would love to be a woman and being able to write all of this without being mocked. I feel every single sentence you wrote. I really hope someone will eventually see the beautiful person you are.

 

[Lost Magic]

You wouldn't be valued by that person anyway, if you were in a relationship with them. I've seen so many people in relationships were one gives everything and the other gives nothing in return. If a person truly loved you, they would value you for who you are. I know it is tough to hear (I get it) but they are not right for you. I wish you the best!

 

[FireFox]

Man I would love to be a woman and being able to write all of this without being mocked. I feel every single sentence you wrote. I really hope someone will eventually see the beautiful person you are.

@Ozzyno It's wonderful you can relate. Majority of people do not understand how it feels to go through your whole life being rejected while everyone else is getting picked. People in relationships don't realise how lucky they to be chosen by someone.

I don't want to be me anymore I wish I was someone else. I hate being me because men don't see anything special in me to love and want a relationship with me. Everytime I like a guy It's always another woman a he wants but never me. A man just sees me as a either a friend or university classmate but never a woman he really wants

You wouldn't be valued by that person anyway, if you were in a relationship with them. I've seen so many people in relationships were one gives everything and the other gives nothing in return. If a person truly loved you, they would value you for who you are. I know it is tough to hear (I get it) but they are not right for you. I wish you the best!

@Lost Magic I have finally given up on love and meeting someone. I now 100% believe I am a cursed and unlovable because I never get picked and everyone else does.

I can't cope anymore with seeing everyone else getting married and here is me always unsuccessful men. I ended up falling in love with a 55 year old man because he was the first guy to give me attention and make me feel special while guys my own age ignored me and never wanted to know me.

This arsehole ended up messing me up in so many ways. He only gave me attention because he was no longer together with his life long partner. I had to find out myself because he was never honest with me about anything regarding his relationship and comfronted him over it which he didnt like. I was ready to move to on and he began sabotaging me in the workplace.

That arsehole got what he wanted in the end me gone from the workplace and reunited with the woman he loves.

I honestly don't want to be me anymore. I wish I was someone else because I feel like men don't want me it's always someone else they want.

 

[Ozzyno]

@FireFox are you sure this is not a problem of you knowing few people or maybe them being insecure of asking you out? Nowadays many men are scared of women because of various reasons…

 

[ChaosWandering]

The grass isn't always greener. The loneliest I've ever felt was in my last relationship.

@Ozzyno this is a very valid point. I would never ask a female out in person in fear of being labelled a creep or worse.

 

[FireFox]

The grass isn't always greener. The loneliest I've ever felt was in my last relationship.

@Ozzyno this is a very valid point. I would never ask a female out in person in fear of being labelled a creep or worse.

@ChaosWandering
>I would never ask a female out in person in fear of being labelled a creep or worse.

It just depends on how you approach the woman. You will be labelled a creep if you harass the women when she says no or pull that werido behavior in romcoms ie man goes outside women's house with a piano or cringey poetry to "win her back" after she said no.

MeToo movement is one big sham.

When Republican politicians were being sexually inappropriate they were hounded by the Democracts, CNN, the legion of celebrities the general public but when Democrat men do sexaul harassment or abuse the media are quiet, the celebrities are quiet and the public are quiet. Joe biden was accused of sexually harassing multiple women but the media cover up for biden along with the public.

As women we are told that it the role of men to ask out a woman because men like to pursue. I ask men out and they reject me days before our scheduled date.

Men seem to find me creepy for asking them out and feel their masculinity being threatened by me asking them out.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

MeToo movement is one big sham.

The MeToo movement was originally created to address SA in low-income communities of colour, especially the black community, but it got hijacked by well-off white women who made it about themselves instead. The movement has become a joke and I can't even take it seriously anymore.

 

[FireFox]

The MeToo movement was originally created to address SA in low-income communities of colour, especially the black community, but it got hijacked by well-off white women who made it about themselves instead. The movement has become a joke and I can't even take it seriously anymore.

@EvisceratedJester I was so shocked learning how the pharse me too was coined by a black woman called Tarana Burke. Burke a victim of child sexaul abuse and the coined the term me too to make women and girls feel less alone in going through abuse. Her idea was stolen. Burke has spent her life helping young women and girls who are victims of sexual abuse.

Why We Need to Acknowledge the True Founder of the #MeToo Movement, Tarana Burke

For most Americans, the #MeToo movement started in the fall of 2017, with the bombshell New York Times story that Harvey Weinstein had been sexually harassing and assaulting employees and actresses for decades. On October 15, 2017, actress Alyssa Milano tweeted, “if you’ve been sexually...

www.blackburncenter.org

When the Time magazine cover of the celebrities leading the me too movement came out Tarana was completely left out of the cover. I was so disgusted

@FireFox are you sure this is not a problem of you knowing few people or maybe them being insecure of asking you out? Nowadays many men are scared of women because of various

@Ozzyno Nope I just nothing special. I go to social events, I talk to everyone but still no guy sees anything special in me the way they see other women at university..

I don't want to be me anymore. My life I don't want it anymore.

 

[Ozzyno]

@Ozzyno Nope I just nothing special. I go to social events, I talk to everyone but still no guy sees anything special in me the way they see other women at university..

I don't want to be me anymore. My life I don't want it anymore.

I would like to know you just to see what is the deal because to me it sounds so strange. There are so many single people out there, and you also live in a fairly big city considering a university is there. You sound like an intelligent and sensible woman…

 

[FireFox]

I would like to know you just to see what is the deal because to me it sounds so strange. There are so many single people out there, and you also live in a fairly big city considering a university is there. You sound like an intelligent and sensible woman…

@Ozzyno I even get told by other women that I "try too hard" with men. Women tell me it's a man's nature to pursue and women and men like being one who asked the woman out.

I have honestly given up

 

[Ozzyno]

@Ozzyno I even get told by other women that I "try too hard" with men. Women tell me it's a man's nature to pursue and women and men like being one who asked the woman out.

I have honestly given up

Well this can be true to a certain degree: nobody, women or men, are attracted to someone that will be 1000% available from the beginning.

I don't think it's a matter of 'the nature of man', even women don't like men that will try too hard and look kind of desperate.

I'm not telling you this to insult you, I don't want to put you down because you definitely don't need and deserve that but I'm telling you what I think because I would like to help you and give you my perspective on this.