Venting “I’m fine.”

[Sans]

Usually, whenever someone asks how I am, I just say I'm fine. But the problem is, I'm not actually fine. I feel like shit almost constantly. I say I am because otherwise people become paranoid. Last time I opened up about my feelings I got thrown out of school for being suicidal. I don't want to have to tell this lie. I want it to be the truth, or at the very least be able to say how I really feel without being sent into a psych ward.

 

[TheGoodGuy]

Society is virtue signalling when they say that people should get "help" in reality friends/family get annoyed when we talk about suicide and if any government worker get a wif of it you get punished. In this thread there is a picture that I think it pretty damn accurate to this.

 

[Tom9999]

Usually, whenever someone asks how I am, I just say I'm fine. But the problem is, I'm not actually fine. I feel like shit almost constantly. I say I am because otherwise people become paranoid. Last time I opened up about my feelings I got thrown out of school for being suicidal. I don't want to have to tell this lie. I want it to be the truth, or at the very least be able to say how I really feel without being sent into a psych ward.

I am totally with you on this. I hate responding with "Fine" when it's a total lie and a self-betrayal - it stings.

So I've resorted to making some neutral or positive impersonal mundane response like

"Nice and warm today."
"I'm enjoying this coffee."
"I watched a great movie last night called (whatever) - have you seen it?"
"What's up with you?"

Usually people don't point out I didn't answer their question. If they do, I know they are being sincere and so might choose to share something real about how I am.

 

[hybridtheory]

I know exactly how you feel and it fucking sucks.
You get so frustrated because you want to tell people
the truth because keeping everything all to yourself makes
it so much harder, but then as soon as you say the truth you
get locked up in the psych ward without anyone even hearing
what you have to say. It feels like no one cares how you feel and
honestly i'm starting to believe it.

 

[Stan]

If I came across someone who was an associate rather than a friend, let's say at a social event with drinks who you didn't want to talk to. When they came for a bit of brown nosing suck up, I used to start the 'moaning'. They don't hang around long. So sometimes telling the truth works in limited situations

 

[LonelyCarioca]

I really understand this feeling. My go to answer is "I'm fine" or "I'm doing okay". It's a lie and I know deep down I'm a mess, but at this point I'm just going through the motions. I find that a lot of (not all) people don't really care how you're feeling. We say we're fine or good or okay because that's what's expected of us by society.

So, truthfully, I'm not fine, I'm not okay. But it's all good because my bus is arriving soon anyway!