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NutOrat

NutOrat

Sleepwalking
Jun 11, 2025
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I'm back to looking for a therapist, after more than a month. Actually, I want to try a psychiatrist again, and really hope I can get diagnosed for something. Anything that would give me a clearer idea of what the fuck is wrong with me.

Anyway, my question is: is it weird/wrong/whatever to be looking only for female therapists? Like, I'd feel seen as lesser by either men and women, but for some reason it feels like it'd be worse if it's a guy. For the record I am male, I think. Also I'm like, looking at their appearance? I know I'm not choosing a fucking partner, so why do I care? I guess I mostly care for them to not be too much older so they can understand me more, but I just feel like a creep.
 
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getoutgirl

getoutgirl

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Mar 17, 2025
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I think that's completely fine. You should choose whoever you feel most comfortable with, regardless of the reason. This is something you are doing for yourself, so trust what your brain tells you would make it easier for u, try not to judge it much, I don't think it's weird or creepy at all. I've also only had female therapists, cos I feel more unsafe with men. Male and female alike can feel that way. Some people will prefer a bearded guy with glasses and sad eyes to look at em and say "I see..." , if not the case, good also! Find whoever fits You.
I'm proud of u that you are getting back to therapy, I know it can be hard. But you got this, don't feel bad about this if its making it harder, really no reason to. U good :)

One thing though, right now I'm with an old lady therapist and that last bit of them not being too much older is ringing true... theres's a good 30+ years there of disconnect there some times :P

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Dr Iron Arc

Dr Iron Arc

Into the Unknown
Feb 10, 2020
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No because majority of therapists are female anyway. Seriously, even if you choose no preference and leave it up to luck, you're almost certainly going to get a female therapist anyway. And there's nothing wrong with that. If you were dead set on a male therapist you'd almost certainly have a harder time anyway just based on sheer availability.

However it's worth asking yourself why exactly a female therapist would be your preferred option? What do you think it says about yourself that you don't want a male one? What kind of help do you expect only a female one could provide? I'm sure that's the kind of thing a therapist would ask.
 
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Namelesa

Namelesa

Global Mod · A Terrible Product
Sep 21, 2024
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Nah i wouldn't say its weird. I have always been more comfortable with women as i find most men to be more scary appearance and personality wise and more likely to be less empathetic and understanding. This is mostly cus of upbringing and my experiences with adult men in throughout my life.
 
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SchizoGymnast

SchizoGymnast

Wizard
May 28, 2024
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I'm back to looking for a therapist, after more than a month. Actually, I want to try a psychiatrist again, and really hope I can get diagnosed for something. Anything that would give me a clearer idea of what the fuck is wrong with me.

Anyway, my question is: is it weird/wrong/whatever to be looking only for female therapists? Like, I'd feel seen as lesser by either men and women, but for some reason it feels like it'd be worse if it's a guy. For the record I am male, I think. Also I'm like, looking at their appearance? I know I'm not choosing a fucking partner, so why do I care? I guess I mostly care for them to not be too much older so they can understand me more, but I just feel like a creep.
There's scientific evidence that shows that patients with female doctors and female surgeons have better health outcomes. So you're actually completely rational here.
 
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