Well if I only found one single one of them. Maybe I just live in a wrong place or go in wrong places. People spend their whole lives on social media looking for better options. I don't know what to say… whatever… I'll just keep working and be patient what can I do? I feel isolated, when I was a kid I couldn't imagine people would be so superficial that's it, I would like to go back in time and give 8 yo myself a hug because I literally cannot believe this world is real.
Please someone prove me wrong! I am begging the sun and all the other stars to meet someone who's not like that!
Look dude, no one can prove you right or wrong, it's literally impossible, because we've never met you, and we're not YOU, we don't know how you look, how you act, or how you think.
None of us know why you can't get in a relationship, so if you're truly honest with yourself, are aware of your flaws and your strengths, then sometimes it truly just means you have rotten luck.
The men I've known have all been emotional, vulnerable, and human in their own ways and there is no judgement on my part, it only makes me love them more, not as romantic partners but as human beings, the same with women I've known. This isn't me telling you "oh not all men/women... blah blah blah", this is me telling you that we're all diverse beings, and though I can't tell you with confidence that superficial women and normal women make up a 50/50 balance, it's important you understand that every person is unique, it might seem like "all men/women are the same", but that is simply NOT TRUE, women will be superficial in unique ways and also sympathetic in unique ways. You simply CAN'T generalize, despite mgtow or inceldom or general society trying to convince you otherwise, you can't let yourself fall for that.
If you've experienced nothing but superficial women and jerk men, then you have a right to be jaded, but being upset with people in general will only make you spiral into inceldom and misogyny, you can deny it however you want, but it's clear you're beginning to go down that path. While it might make you feel better in the moment, it will only poison your personality and further hurt your chances with women. It's a vicious cycle.
"Luck" is an excuse the human brain uses to explain our (mis)fortunes, animals don't think about getting distracted so their prey escapes as being unlucky, they don't have the time for that, they just move on to the next opportunity. But we have the privilege to blame some of our problems on luck, so if you think you're doing everything right, then you're simply unlucky and instead of being angry at women or other men, blame your rotten luck. Luckiness isn't the fault of other humans, it's an unexplainable phenomenon that you can't change, but you also can't change the behavior of the women you meet, so of the two, blame the better scapegoat.
There are things my mother has done to me that I know have caused me to end up on this forum, and I could be angry at her, and I am, but mostly I just blame my bad luck for ending up with a mom like her. It's a lot easier to blame my luck than to be constantly angry at my mom yet still having to coexist with her.
This is not a very positive message, definitely not something a therapist would tell you; because maybe you'll have bad luck your whole life, maybe you'll never meet an acceptable woman, maybe nothing in your life will ever go the way you want it to, that hopelessness is why most of us are on this forum looking to die. But maybe luck will find you, and you'll meet the perfect woman who proves you wrong, so you should keep looking, I think that kind of hope has kept a lot of suicidal people alive.
