Question for the older members on here, what do you think of younger people CTBing?

[Ijustcantanymore]

35 here.

It makes me sad. Sad that the world is so shitty (on purpose) that it makes people in your age group want to leave.

But I also understand. I've wanted to leave since I was 7. If I had been given the option for assisted suicide at 7, I would have taken it.

Older people like to delude themselves into thinking that younger people don't understand life or the world and don't know how to make decisions. And it's very frustrating. It's how older people comfort themselves unfortunately.

You are an adult. You know how to think you understand death and it's implications. It's your choice and no one else's.

 

[ihatemyselfwanttodi]

Is 29 seen as old nowadays? I certainly feel old.
I'm burnt out and ready to clock out.

 

[divinemistress36]

Im 37 I wish I would have ended at 30 but thats cause of mental illness and stroke. I can empathize with the younger folks though as Ive had suicidal thoughts since I was kid. I just hope they give it some more time . It can take time to find yourself, find a good partner, good career, right mental health treatment sometimes many years, of course that doesnt mean things will turn out well. Life is a gamble its up to the individual if they want to wait around to see what happens. Its extremely hard to kill yourself and runs of risk of becoming disabled so might as well try everything to get better first

 

[OptingOutSmiling]

It is sad, as you say anything can change in the next decade, or not, for anyone. It's also sad because I think this world today, may be harder to live in as opposed to the world "us older" people lived in 20 years ago. We all grew up in different circumstances, and we all have scars, some a lot worse than others. Maybe it is wrong of me to hope for someone younger to give it just a little bit more time, and I also understand that at any point in life, it can be unbearable to continue.

At 20, I was poor, hungry and alone and there were times I wanted to end it all. Since then, I've had some good (and bad) life experiences. The thing that totally rocked my world only happened at 45 when I found love. Yes, I ended up broken as a result last year, but it somehow made everything up to now worthwhile, and I would do it again. Of course, this could happen to someone at 25, 55, or never, or it could even be a different life event, we never know.

In general, my 20's were better than my teens, 30's better than the 20's and my 40's are better than the 30's. And still I ended up here, we all did, even though in years we are decades apart. I wish young adults could have a chance to experience some good, but I know it is up to each individual to decide what is best, and when we've had enough.

Being on this forum helped me to see things differently compared to where I was just a few months ago and I've learned from everyone, young and old. I find that members are considerate, honest and sincere, and we could take responses whichever way we choose. Although sad to say goodbye to someone here, it is also with deeper understanding that we respond because ultimately, we care and are here for the same reason.

Having said this, I don't think years are a true measure of age. There are some wise young people around, some with souls older than their years, some immature ones old and young, and people with more life experience at any given age compared to ours. We could all learn from each other.

 

[Thomas599]

I think it's really sad when a younger person wants to CTB, but we all must make our own decisions. For me, as long as the decision is not made out of teenaged angst, or drama. A well considered decision is fine. Impulsivity is immature.

 

[JesiBel]

Regardless of age, everyone will have their reasons or problems, when making the final decision. It will depend on each person how much suffering they are willing to endure in life.

The life of a young person is no more valuable than that of an old person who commits suicide.

 

[AuroraB]

I'm 62 and attempted at 14 and have not attempted since. I've been lucky to not go a day without housing, food, cash, or a shower. All of my needs have been met including little bonuses like world travel and decent medical care. THAT SAID, life kinda sucks and all the good stuff is way less than the neutral/bad stuff. Once we "get over" needing romance/sex to "be happy," we can live a more peaceful and easy life. I never had kids by choice. I believe when we are dead, it's just lights out. So there will be no regret of missing out since there is no thinker to think that thought. Suprised I've held on this long. My own mom CTB when she was 50. I was 28. So now I've lived 34 more years since she CTB and it's pretty much just flown by. Time goes really fast. A person who is 20 now will be 50 in the blink of an eye. It also goes by very slowly, esp. if you hate your job and/or have difficult romantic relationships. A young acquaintance CTB at age 26 a few years ago. He said it didn't matter if he died at 26 or 96 because the ultimate outcome is death and he decided to leave early to avoid the financial hardships in life (college, working) and then the societal pressures of his culture (marriage, children, etc). I say this: up until the moment of death, we might have fears/regrets but as soon as the brain stops brain-waving....silence. So to live to an older age means more financial hassle, more work, more heart break...and to leave early might mean missing an epic experience like seeing the Northern Lights or whales breaching in front of the sunset on a beautiful beach day. Might miss falling in love but y'also miss the ugly divorce. ...it's hit or miss. Random.