Things That Should Be Tried Prior to Considering a Suicide Attempt

[GuppyBoyo]

That only applies to people who want to do it because they're dissatisfied with their life
some us want to do it for its own sake

i'll still try to do it even if my life was better, i try my best to maintain my goal of CTB

 

[needthebus]

I feel like a life coach would be the most useful to me, but any that I can find are oddly spiritual and don't really target people with depression.

Fiverr?

 

[cr33p]

In my case, a lot of the things you mentioned are just genuinely out of reach.
I would love to have 3 jobs but I can't even find one job and I've been looking for over a year. No one will hire me, I've had such shit luck. I have a partner that is tired of me, but we're stuck together and have a child. I feel guilt and shame every single day. I know where I'm at is due to my horrible childhood followed by extremely poor life choices made from low self esteem. I've hit a dead end in my life, and really don't see any way out. I've tried a lot of the things you said, but I am trapped in my life and my situation and I don't see it changing anytime soon. It's only gotten worse the last few years. I'm 27 and when my brain became more mature I realized most of my life was a giant mistake and tried but eventually realized that there's no coming back from it. I've tried medication, but medication cant change my situation. I'm in so much debt from letting him use my credit cards to live off of, and can't do anything to help it. I'm drowning and can't get independence or financial freedom, or even a proper life for my child. I do feel if my situation was different I wouldn't feel like there's no hope, but I've been trying to so long and this hole I've dug is way too deep. It genuinely feels like being in the bottom of a massive pit and no way out. I can't save myself and no one is coming to save me. I wish I could afford a life coach. Therapy hardly helps, and my partner offers zero emotional support. In fact I've learned to not confide in him as it always makes things worse. I know my child deserves better. And if I ctb I think she would have a shot at a much better life. We aren't married so I can take a lot of the debt out with me when I go. And I believe he would eventually move on and find a new mom for her that did her life right and didn't suffer from emotional abuse and neglect, along with severe mental health disorders. She deserves better than this.

 

[rs929]

The guy has a point regarding waiting depression to resolve in 6-12 months. It seems most depressive episodes (though not all) resolve on its own, even with no treatment. In that case the "permanent solution for a temporary problem" would be kind of spot on.
Not saying that there are no cases of treatment resistant chronic depression though

 

[RadiantNumber]

I think if some

I understand your perspective completely.

Since you are 19, and a SaSu member, I hope you at least wait until over 21 out of compassion for other SaSu users because 18-21 is still in that young person age range that will tend to bring negative attention to the website. Even if you have a valid philosophical view, suicide is extremely frowned upon in society and waiting until at least over 21 helps protect the site.

Have you tried a life coach? Have you done everything or anything on this list? Sorry you are here, I believe I've read your posts before and have liked them. I get what you are saying that people should be able to make personal choices.



you're right: i'll edit it to say talk with a doctor about taking instead

i edited this @ForgottenAgain . I suppose when I said "try" before the "talk with a doctor" part was something I figured would be naturally implied, but you're right that it should be specifically listed

Again, this is not to encourage people to attempt if they do these things. This post is primarily because sometimes I see people who are in the 18-25 range on here and I worry they may be considering attempting or attempting when they have situations that either could improve or would improve and they haven't really tried enough to get better.

Sometimes the first time I am seeing an 18-25 year old person or knowing how young they are is when they are posting about attempting. At that point, I often don't have time to go "Uh oh, looks like you are only 20. Have you tried working? Jogging? Dating? Pills? A Life coach? At least for people who will be left behind if not you?" I realize at 19 or 20, people are not stupid and if they are here, they are in immense pain. When I was 19, I was also suicidal and in immense pain I wasn't stupid and my thinking wasn't arbitrary. It's likely most 18-21 year old people or people in 18-25 range have put in a lot of thought before being here. But I also worry about people who haven't. I worry about people who are in school, sad, and haven't even worked at all to be independent and perhaps that would be the thing that makes things okay. I worry about lonely people who haven't found love and perhaps that life coach would help them to become more connected, or find someone. I am not worried about the 30-something who has worked, tried therapy, tried everything and is making a decision over a period of years. I'm not a pro-lifer. This site doesn't encourage anyone, has resources, but I wanted to write something because often when that young person who is 19 posts, they have a post count of 20 and I've never seen them before and I worry if they have tried to get better

I think if somebody want to do this he would do it, if he want to recover he would help mental help or smth