three people have told me that i'm very anxious and awkward in the last month

[SadLoser]

This is something I tried to work on my entire adulthood so it was very disheartening to hear. I guess that's why any woman who shows interest in me loses it almost immediately and why in my mid 20s I have almost 0 dating experience.

What I meant to do?
It's just who I am. My childhood was pretty terrible, I was bullied so I stopped hanging out with my "friends" and had a mother that told me she wished she never had me and that I should kill myself before I even reached my teens.
Of course i'm anxious and awkward because of that. But still, I thought I managed to fight it to an extent. I guess not.

What am I even meant to do now?

 

[Lady_V]

Someone also pointed this out in me last week. Why do people do this? Like I thought I was being normal and the least anxious I have been in a long time and getting hit with that comment made me spiral. Like you, I had a terrible childhood with a mother who simply did not care or socialize me. I'm trying my best just getting out of bed every day. Please don't bring attention to the fact that I look weird going about my day.

I'm sorry you have 0 dating experiences. I hope things look up for you. I know I'm just some random internet person but when I'm dating, a guy who hasn't dated around a bunch is a + for me.

 

[FadingSnowFake]

I'm sorry for your terrible childhood and especially how your mother treated you. For what it's worth, I only really started "living" at about 28 as I isolated myself after school. If you could, I would just take it a day at a time, find some me-time, try something that could calm you and keep you busy at the same time, maybe a walk, some fresh air.

Did these people give you an example of what was seen as anxious or awkward? Do you feel any different the last month? If there is something specific, then you would know if there is anything you could do about it. But maybe it's nothing worth stressing over, and overthinking may only make things worse. Be kind to yourself, you've been through a lot. Sending hugs.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I'm not sure it's necessarily a criticism. It could just be that they are trying to show concern. Comments like: 'You don't seem yourself recently... You seem worried about something...' Or even: 'Are you ok?' in the genuine sense- not the throw away phrase, may just be people giving you an opening to talk about what's troubling you.There again, you know these people best and what their likely intentions are.

It can be hard to mask all the time. Especially with people we get to know better. But, I don't think you need to defend yourself- if they are friends. If they are good enough friends, you could be more honest to sone extent- if you wanted. If not, most people seem to accept: 'I'm just tired' or 'work is stressful at the moment.' They are my go- to excuses.