Well this is my destiny i guess

[Alex]

I have never really had friends in life. At first I tried to be genuine, but I came off as weird and I made people uncomfortable. Then I tried to mold myself into whatever people wanted me to be, but in trying to figure out what that was, I became super clingy and made people uncomfortable. Then I tried to be super apathetic as to what people think and have a super motivating mood like "I'm so great just the way I am and if you don't like it you're a hater" but then I became super cocky and made people uncomfortable. Then I carefully tried to manipulate people into actually liking me, but i could only really sway them into taking my side on some issues, which was progress but I still didn't get very far. Now I'm super nihilistic and I tried to be super apathetic, which was successful for a while but the problem is no matter how hard I try, I still care about things even though I know everything is meaningless. Manipulation seemed to have worked the best, but some people aren't manipulated easily. Also, it feels fake and brings me no pleasure in my meaningless life. Thoughts/tips/tricks?

 

[lemmeeleev]

I'd say just be you, but I haven't had anyone I'd call a "friend" my entire life. Of course I don't have the guts to even talk to anyone if they don't say something to me first. People like others to talk to, as long as their not always there or they'll think you're annoying. Try to make basic conversation about wherever you are, like work, school, the store you're at, etc. Then just say hi whenever you see them again. Talk about anything that can be relatable is what I've found most people talk about.

 

[Vegrau]

I have never really had friends in life. At first I tried to be genuine, but I came off as weird and I made people uncomfortable. Then I tried to mold myself into whatever people wanted me to be, but in trying to figure out what that was, I became super clingy and made people uncomfortable. Then I tried to be super apathetic as to what people think and have a super motivating mood like "I'm so great just the way I am and if you don't like it you're a hater" but then I became super cocky and made people uncomfortable. Then I carefully tried to manipulate people into actually liking me, but i could only really sway them into taking my side on some issues, which was progress but I still didn't get very far. Now I'm super nihilistic and I tried to be super apathetic, which was successful for a while but the problem is no matter how hard I try, I still care about things even though I know everything is meaningless. Manipulation seemed to have worked the best, but some people aren't manipulated easily. Also, it feels fake and brings me no pleasure in my meaningless life. Thoughts/tips/tricks?

What kind of advice do you want? And regarding which part of your life?

 

[Alex]

What kind of advice do you want? And regarding which part of your life?

I don't even know man

 

[Kdawg2018]

I have never really had friends in life. At first I tried to be genuine, but I came off as weird and I made people uncomfortable. Then I tried to mold myself into whatever people wanted me to be, but in trying to figure out what that was, I became super clingy and made people uncomfortable. Then I tried to be super apathetic as to what people think and have a super motivating mood like "I'm so great just the way I am and if you don't like it you're a hater" but then I became super cocky and made people uncomfortable. Then I carefully tried to manipulate people into actually liking me, but i could only really sway them into taking my side on some issues, which was progress but I still didn't get very far. Now I'm super nihilistic and I tried to be super apathetic, which was successful for a while but the problem is no matter how hard I try, I still care about things even though I know everything is meaningless. Manipulation seemed to have worked the best, but some people aren't manipulated easily. Also, it feels fake and brings me no pleasure in my meaningless life. Thoughts/tips/tricks?

It's best to make friends doing something of interest- book club, skate boarding group, work, crafting, whatever it is that interests you. For me, ctb methods interest me, it's allowing me to meet online friends, IRL ctb friends could be hard to find, lol

 

[Vegrau]

I don't even know man

I see. Then again at this point you should already realize people will never understand you and you in return can never give them what they want. We have gone too far to truly go back. Unless we are willing to lie our whole life and that disgust you to no end.