Well, seeing that u still want more answers on this, here's what I've got to say.
My therapist recently told me about how hard it can be to help children that come to therapy, cause who she actually would need to help are the parents.
Parents come in and be like "there's something wrong with my child, please fix them", while usually it's them that are causing the problems.
Children are 100% dependant of their parents, and if a child has psychological problems they are usually not their own fault, but a fault of their environment, which to a big part includes their family.
Personally I'd say try to look at your children like they're an adult, not a child. They're their own person with their own thoughts, needs and problems which should be respected.
Children aren't things, and they aren't "just children". They might even know things you don't or be better at things than you are, don't belittle them just for being "children".
I think the biggest flaw with not just my parents but my entire family is that they're incredibly selfish and refuse to even consider any opinion that's not their own. It's impossible to discuss with them, and because of their attitude it's also impossible to trust them, since they don't see you as another person, they only see themselves.
Though I would've been happy if they had just did their goddamn job and teached me the things parents are supposed to teach their children, even while not giving a damn about anything else, the things about life school doesn't teach you, really that would've been enough that I could've just helped myself.
Cause yes, now I can use the internet to learn about anything my parents missed ot teach me, but there was a point when I didn't even know enough to know what I needed to learn.
I know that the only person that will help us are we ourselves, but it's goddamn hard when you don't even know how to help yourself or can't even tell what's wrong because no one teached you a thing.
Even when I was 18 I didn't go to doctors cause I didn't know what I was supposed to do / tell them.
I mean those things, teach them how to go to the doctor, how to find out what doctor you need.
Teaching someone that they only go to psychiatrist when they're "not normal" or "crazy" doesn't exactly help them find help when they need it.
Hmm.. your therapist is correct. I didn't think about this. But now that I do..
I think that life is about knowledge and potential. Children have potential, they are curious and willing to learn, they ask questions like "why?" or "how?", this is their nature, this is who they are.
But this curiosity, asking questions, this would be detrimental for the system. The system needs humans to be obedient and docile and to do so it needs to kill the curiosity, it needs to kill the child. They do this by transforming them .. wait for it! .. into an Adult! Adults think they know it all (or that they're suppose to know it all) (because that's what the system told them that being an "adult" is) and they act like it, and in thinking so they lose the curiosity, and the potential. They stop asking questions because they either really think they know it all, or because they tell themselves that certain knowledge is useless or because they are simply ashamed that they might look dumb in front of other others and so they stay dumb or become dumber and dumber with each moment and generation. Esentially, adults are failed humans.
Children do need guidance (they need at least one person who should be there for them in the preliminary stages of their life) and this is how the system exploits them, through their parents. Parents force their children into certain ways of life. It's all fine when the kid is dumb but no so much when they have intelligence (and willingness to fight) because that's when they realize that something is wrong, something is evil, sick, corrupted .. and then they fight it! It's instinctual, to fight the rot! But since the system controls everything, it's literally you against the world, and because of so much pressure, at some point, you break.
And then they take you to see the psychologist to be "fixed" (read: pacified, broken in).
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And if you don't do what they say, if you don't think what they tell to think then you suffer, they make you suffer, your parents will make you suffer, your friends will make you suffer, society will make you suffer.
And then you decide (that enough is enough) to kill yourself.
So the questions is: who actually killed you?
honestly some people just shouldn't be parents my mom has a lot of problems she ended up just passing on to me and continuing my family's fucked up cycle
