Who has the answer?

[ChinUp]

Is there an answer to anything above therapy and medicine that will save you from pain and suffering if that doesn't work?

 

[Rynalia]

Therapy and medication has always been a tool, rather than an answer in my opinion.

Because everyone is different, the only answer that works would be the one that the individual in question finds themselves (probably after way too much time spent researching, testing/experimenting, reaching out, etc.)

It's a cop-out answer, but if someone or something had the answers so readily, no one would have to suffer as much as they do now.

 

[ChinUp]

Therapy and medication has always been a tool, rather than an answer in my opinion.

Because everyone is different, the only answer that works would be the one that the individual in question finds themselves (probably after way too much time spent researching, testing/experimenting, reaching out, etc.)

It's a cop-out answer, but if someone or something had the answers so readily, no one would have to suffer as much as they do now.

Thanks for your response. I posed the question because I've been searching and trying to find different tools but haven't found what works, which is why I'm in this position and on this site.

 

[flightless bird]

the answer depends on the nature of the pain and suffering you're talking about.

they're just two words, but what they mean is different for everybody.

 

[Angst Filled Fuck Up]

I'd say a lot depends on the reason for a person's suffering. Is it poverty, poor health, unfortunate life circumstances in general? These issues could resolve themselves in a positive sense, but if not, there isn't even much that therapy or meds can do.

And although unpopular, when people say things like "it gets better" what they mean is that brain chemistry evolves as you age, and that the passage of time helps someone process certain things. This isn't guaranteed of course, but it's by and large also true that the problems you have at 20 are unlikely to be the very same ones you have at 30, 40 or 50.

In many cases, I think people just sort of learn to live with their suffering or trauma, or whatever it may be. The harshness of it gradually fades and it becomes something they can compartmentalize. There's really no other way, if you think about it. We all keep living, until we don't. And we all have to find a way to cope in the meantime.

 

[Forever Sleep]

For me, being creative was my salvation. It's losing it's strength now but, it was an incredible crutch for most of my life. To the extent that my brief try at therapy and meds did precious little but, when a creative project appeared on the horizon, it fixed me (temporarily anyway.)

As for why it worked for me- probably because it was my safe place during childhood when horrible shit was going on. It became a form of escape, then a major life goal to get a job in. Then, just continued as a goal to get better at. It's only really started to fail the past few years. It's less rewarding now but, I'd still be devastated to lose it all together.

I think maybe the best 'cure' is to have a passion in life. A goal you long to attain. Not always easy though if anhedonia has taken grip. Or, life simply doesn't allow us to pursue a dream.

 

[Cauliflour]

Finding a sadistic wife that's just as insane as I am so I have company while I spiral down into mental health fuckery.

I think the only way I can truly heal is to get a lobotomy and live the rest of my life as a potato that can barely think, but I don't want to do that as then all my video game ideas would be gone. I was cursed from birth, there's nothing really people can do to change my mind. All they can do is nudge the due date back, further and further. This world is going to shit, anyway. I can't make the billionaires stop kissing their own asses so I'll never be content with life.

I think maybe the best 'cure' is to have a passion in life. A goal you long to attain.

As someone who's only really still sticking around because I have things I want to make, all this really means, at least in my case, is that you think about suicide a bit less as your mind's busy but you're not cured, you're just pushing back your desired deadline.

I think maybe the best 'cure' is to have a passion in life. A goal you long to attain.

As someone who's only really still sticking around because I have things I want to make, all this really means, at least in my case, is that you think about suicide a bit less as your mind's busy but you're not cured, you're just pushing back your desired deadline.

I think maybe the best 'cure' is to have a passion in life. A goal you long to attain.

As someone who's only really still sticking around because I have things I want to make, all this really means, at least in my case, is that you think about suicide a bit less as your mind's busy but you're not cured, you're just pushing back your desired deadline.

 

[bugisahuman]

Finding a sadistic wife that's just as insane as I am so I have company while I spiral down into mental health fuckery.

I think the only way I can truly heal is to get a lobotomy and live the rest of my life as a potato that can barely think

i think we genuinely share one soul because everything you just described resonates SO, so hard with me. we better get our insane sadistic wives/partners soon bro this is taking too long i want a lobotomy from her...i'll ask her so nicely