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- Apr 19, 2024
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Trying to make sense of it. Of course I would prefer more thoughtful/philosophical answers but "BECAUSE THEY SUCK AZZ" is obviously totally acceptable as well.
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Something that I just realized that could be added to this is power and dominance. This doesn't even just impact parental abuse, but it goes into cases of abuse, mistreatment, rape and SA, and bullying.Some things that are important to note is that:
1. Child abuse is very normalized in most parts of the world.
2. People tend to have a very black and white manner of thinking when it comes to people being good or bad.
3. A lot of abusive parents were also abused when they were younger and/or have had some sort of other past trauma/traumas that weren't sorted out.
And finally,
4. Children are a very dehumanized demographic .
Why parents abuse their children is a very complex topic and the answers may vary, but these four things do help us better get to the bottom of it.
Different forms of child abuse are very normalized in different parts of the world, with a lot of them being considered forms of "discipline" or just normal parts of being a parent. Corporal punishment and different forms of verbal and emotional abuse are the most normalized. This is can be a result of various reasons, such as religion (for example, many Christians misinterpret the "spare the rod" quote to mean corporal punishment when it actually refers to guiding one's child) and generational trauma (the whipping practices from back during slavery are part of why whipping is so normalized within a lot of African American households). To make matters worse, even children can grow to rationalize this behaviour against them due to it being everywhere. This can lead to children repressing their feelings and growing up to do the same thing to their own kids.
People also tend to categorize others as either good or bad, making it hard for people to recognize when they themselves are the one in the wrong and encouraging the rationalization of bad actions. If I think of myself as a good person then I'll have a harder time recognizing my wrongdoings or I may end up rationalizing them because otherwise I'll be the "bad guy". If I see myself as a bad person, then there is no point in trying to do better because this is all I'll ever be. This results in people having a harder time reflecting on their actions and leads to little growth overtime. This also leads to many abusive parents continuing on with their abusive behaviour due to them being unable to get to a place where they are able to recognize the horrors of their actions and work to better themselves. Instead, they just rationalize them.
A lot of abusive parents where also abused or traumatized in other ways when they were younger, leading to them inflicting said abuse onto their children. This can be observed in many different ways, from parents beating their kids because their parents beat them growing up and that's the only way they know how to discipline them to parents who lash out or act in a reckless manner towards their children due to poor emotional control. Abuse is usually a cycle and most abusive parents were victims themselves.
Children are also a very dehumanized demographic, being as property or things by most parents rather than as people. Children are an easy demographic to disrespect because of this. This is why you can't hit an adult without getting in trouble but you can hit a child and no one would care. Children are subjected to all sorts of maltreatment because they aren't recognized as individuals with their own feelings and opinions. They are seen as cute objects instead. This dehumanization makes children an easy target for abuse. Along with that, it keeps parents from looking into better parenting techniques or from being more empathetic toward their child. They are easy to abuse without feeling guilty about it because you aren't harming a small human being, you are just vandalizing property.
This is exactly what happened on me.Students who rank higher socially usually end up bullying those who rank lower as a way of establishing dominance and making sure that they keep their position.
And amid the bullying, my mom grabbed a kitchen knife, pointed it at me and said "I shall kill you."4. Children are a very dehumanized demographic .
My parents threatened me a lot, but I think, I could get back at them on their deathbed if I really wanted to. I could say, "It's time to stop playing God and realize your life will soon be taken away by real God. This is the last lesson you'll learn - you're helpless before God. Repent, you sinner, before it's too late."Parents are taught that they are the ultimate authority figures and are not to be questioned. Abuse, whether it be sexual, emotional, or physical, acts as a way of establishing dominance over one's child and putting them in their place.