why do women who prefer short men seem to not exist?

[derpyderpins]

and I don't mean tolerate, but actually prefer short over tall. There are many guys who prefer overweight women for example, and a wide variety of body types on women.

I want to focus on your actual question here: why do some men prefer overweight women while (almost) no women prefer short men? Because it's interesting.

I'll start with plainly stating the premise: in general, a woman being overweight is seen as less attractive, or - probably better for our purposes - less valuable in the sexual marketplace, yet some men specifically seek it out. At the same time, men meeting a threshold height is generally seen as more valuable in the sexual marketplace, and there is no noticable phenomenon of women seeking out men specifically below the threshold.

I did look at the responses already here, and a lot of people are saying something like "well I know (example) where a woman is happy with a short man." But that's not your point. Even if the end result was good, what you (and others) notice is that the lack of height is a concession or non-factor rather than a desire.

I think the best way to approach the question is to identify why we think men may desire overweight women despite the social standing, and see which of those explanations don't fit the height situation.

1.) Men like jiggly bits, and even if being overweight is in general not preferred, there is still the "benefit" of more/bigger jiggly bits. The argument would be that there is no perceived upside (not intended) to dating a shorter man.
2.) There is, culturally, a niche push for overweight women to be seen as attractive. Fat pride is a thing, and different demographics sometimes praise or favor larger women. This at least plants seeds of the benefits of being with overweight women into the minds of men. Afaik there isn't much of a push anywhere for short men to be valued, whether that is fair or not. (Other than incel/neet circles, which sadly only make the odds of such a movement happening in the future lower).
3.) Being overweight is not a permanent state of being. If I am in the mood for bigger jiggly bits, that woman could lose weight down the road. A man can't change his height, on the other hand. I don't think anyone actually thinks this way, but I listed it as a possible underlying psychological factor for why weight is easier to "get over." (Again, not intentional).
4.) Women have an upper hand in the modern dating scene, generally. Men are more desperate. Targeting a quality that is perceived as lower value could be a concious or unconscious attempt to increase odds of success. While women may not care about height or may make that concession to obtain more important qualities, they have no market-driven reason to actively seek out what is seen as a lower-value quality.

I think there is some truth mixed into those for hypothetical factors.

I urge you to consider them in a light that "it sucks that being short puts me at a disadvantage, but it's not because anyone in particular is evil or out to get me, it's an unfortunate situation presenting itself in our culture." I then suggest stepping back and considering the anecdotes offered by others here of short men in good relationships. While those comments did not answer your question directly, they are well-intended. This is something you can overcome.

 

[lonergirl_26]

Honestly women want a man taller than they are an average man is taller than the average woman. So logically speaking a smaller woman would date a smaller man. I know it does work like that but theatrically.
I guess If you like someone enough their physical appearance wouldn't matter. Most women probably wouldn't care about height.

 

[Alexei_Kirillov]

I did look at the responses already here, and a lot of people are saying something like "well I know (example) where a woman is happy with a short man." But that's not your point. Even if the end result was good, what you (and others) notice is that the lack of height is a concession or non-factor rather than a desire.

I actually disagree with this, there is a distinct advantage to being with a short man if you're an equally short woman, which is that you guys are roughly at face-level whenever you interact (whether lying down or standing up), which is honestly just more pleasant and practical. I feel like having to stand on your toes would be annoying, and not getting to snuggle your face in their neck would be a certain loss. And I'm not the only one; I'd encourage @NaturalBornNEET to peruse this reddit thread where there are more women stating an outright preference for short men due to similar logistical reasons, like how hand-holding is a lot more comfortable.

 

[derpyderpins]

I actually disagree with this, there is a distinct advantage to being with a short man if you're an equally short woman, which is that you guys are roughly at face-level whenever you interact (whether lying down or standing up), which is honestly just more pleasant and practical. I feel like having to stand on your toes would be annoying, and not getting to snuggle your face in their neck would be a certain loss. And I'm not the only one; I'd encourage @NaturalBornNEET to peruse this reddit thread where there are more women stating an outright preference for short men due to similar logistical reasons, like how hand-holding is a lot more comfortable.

Always happy to learn something new. I'm at about a 10 inch difference lol