Venting Why even have a hobby if you are not talking to people.

[WhatCouldHaveBeen32]

Besides working out a bit to not deteriorate at extremely alarming rates , why have a hobby as an introvert who can daydream anything they want? What's the point of a craft type hobby, it's just a longer and harder way to daydream. I bet there are people out there, maybe because of better circumstances, they still draw or craft or crochet and keep it to themselves, never showing anyone but in my case, why would I ever do that if I can just daydream better? Maybe doing something physical? something that I can touch, I will not give it the benefit of the doubt, wood working doesn't sound that bad but still I just don't see it past the first month or two.

Maybe it's the fact that I don't care for anything? If right now a bomb would explode outside my house I'll tell you that I'll look for 10 seconds and then go back to my things, someone already got ran over very close to where I live, I saw the post accident scene with cops all around and I just shrugged and went on my way (this was a couple years ago). I probably just don't give a rat ass anymore, which makes logical sense as to why I ended up so devoid of passion or interest.

 

[bleeding_heart_show]

To experience the delusion of self satisfaction of course!

 

[johnnytsunami667]

Getting your mind busy is nice

 

[LapseInTime]

Once the daydreaming is over, reality hits. It hits hard. Something must fill in the blank.

 

[DontCryForChimp]

Having some sort of cope or something to do helps me to not go mad. You seem to be describing anhedonia or at least something similar.

 

[amerie]

Endorphins

 

[EternalHunger]

What's the point of a craft type hobby, it's just a longer and harder way to daydream.

A longer, harder way to daydream that feels much more satisfying and relaxing to me; even with what's likely an ED, I like to train hard in calisthenics as it is a constant reminder that I'm real and still here, not wherever 'I' wander of to. It's the same with rock climbing and drawing.
I guess it's more so a cope for my DDD, and retrospectively I likely started it as a means to appear interesting to others fully expecting that someone would soon see me for who I am to the point where we'd stay close forever, but now I genuinely find them centralising and it's so ingrained into routine that I don't see any point of stopping.

 

[Forveleth]

I like my hobbies to be productive. I'm slowly teaching myself to sew and make things from wood. That means my hobbies will eventually get me furniture and my own clothing. I consider that a win-win.

 

[Forever Sleep]

It can have a meditative effect on me I find. But then, I've always tried to do it as a hobby and a job, so there is more cause to do it for me. The point of it for me initially was to lose myself in it to get away from people though. But sure, if you can daydream without it and it either bores or irritates you to do things then, there doesn't seem much point.

It saddens me when people with great talent aren't getting their work noticed but then, plenty of people do in some way- via social media, Etsy etc.

 

[katara]

I'm at the point where I've lost interest. I always do everything by myself and it gets tiring.

 

[Grav]

My hobbies encourage me to talk to more people. Model building is a solo hobby but I'm in a group that meets 1/month and most of that is bs'ing while we build. Contests, swap meets, seeing other people in the hobby store all lead to interactions (last week swap meet a guy was there who went to the same high school just 2 years ahead of me and we had common acquaintances). Miniature gaming is all about interactions since most people want to play with other people. I've never been a daydreamer so sitting around doing nothing meets the hard fist of ADD and I've got to do something. I know people who do nothing and I find them fascinating how they can do that. Reading is mostly just me though but I could join a book club if I really wanted to but my choice of reading material probably wouldn't be too interesting.

 

[WhatCouldHaveBeen32]

My hobbies encourage me to talk to more people. Model building is a solo hobby but I'm in a group that meets 1/month and most of that is bs'ing while we build. Contests, swap meets, seeing other people in the hobby store all lead to interactions (last week swap meet a guy was there who went to the same high school just 2 years ahead of me and we had common acquaintances). Miniature gaming is all about interactions since most people want to play with other people. I've never been a daydreamer so sitting around doing nothing meets the hard fist of ADD and I've got to do something. I know people who do nothing and I find them fascinating how they can do that. Reading is mostly just me though but I could join a book club if I really wanted to but my choice of reading material probably wouldn't be too interesting.

Daydreaming (in the way that you do it for hours) is not doing nothing , most people with ADD/ADHD can have problems with excessive daydreaming which is called maladaptive daydreaming (regardless of ADHD or not) if it impairs your life. It usually starts in school , when reading books, listening to music, anything basically.

Which is why it's hard to diagnose the people who daydream with ADHD in the first place, it manifests in a different way and the energy is directed inwards instead of outwards. Games, books, music, comics. If I like 'em I'm 100% in them and sometimes I even surprise myself how attentive and logical I can be while immersing myself this hard into them, I can't put 1/8 of that effort into my own self and my exterior life, lol.

Although I can't discard that this could be a myriad of problems in one. Maybe I'm like this because of trauma, maybe personality problems born out of the trauma combined with the possibility of ADHD? I was also diagnosed with ADHD but later I found out that I was on the autism spectrum, so I truly don't know as I didn't go to the doctors in the last 2 years and ADHD meds that are prescribed here did nothing to me.
I don't know, the mental health problems are very hard to diagnose accurately and resolve, especially in eastern europe (where I'm from).