Discussion you can’t blame your parents for your existance

[whywere]

Wait, your parent's preferred female children in the 1950s?

Here is the whole story on this. when my "parents" got married they had a child 10 months after marriage. The child was a male child and since it was male, my "dad" did NOT want any more. But my "mom" REALLY wanted a female child and after a few years of bugging him she got in family way again. That is when I was born, and I was a male and NOT a female child. My "dad" went ballistic, as now he had another mouth to feed, and I was NOT a girl. He had convinced my "mom" to put me up for adoption, however when it leaked out when my "mom" was still in the hospital; with me all the town gossip started up and they did NOT want to look like scum, so I went home.

About 4 years later, after more bugging, they had a 3rd child which was a girl. and one of my "mom's" favorite sayings to me growing up was: "remember that your dad has your older brother and I have your younger sister".

When my older brother and my younger sister turned 18, both got new cars. When I turned 18, the day after, my "parents" drove me to town, I was raised on a working dairy farm and dropped me off on a street curb with NO money, NO food, NO shelter, NO job nothing but a plastic bag with my clothes in it and drove away. I never heard from them again ever, 100% their choice.

Also, when they died, they left my younger sister a hobby farm and cash, my older brother got somewhere around 9 million (USD) and I got ZERO.

That is my story from birth till 18 in a nutshell, I have no problem sharing, as I am 69 and that was a long time ago.

Walter

 

[ididnotconsent]

Here is the whole story on this. when my "parents" got married they had a child 10 months after marriage. The child was a male child and since it was male, my "dad" did NOT want any more. But my "mom" REALLY wanted a female child and after a few years of bugging him she got in family way again. That is when I was born, and I was a male and NOT a female child. My "dad" went ballistic, as now he had another mouth to feed, and I was NOT a girl. He had convinced my "mom" to put me up for adoption, however when it leaked out when my "mom" was still in the hospital; with me all the town gossip started up and they did NOT want to look like scum, so I went home.

About 4 years later, after more bugging, they had a 3rd child which was a girl. and one of my "mom's" favorite sayings to me growing up was: "remember that your dad has your older brother and I have your younger sister".

When my older brother and my younger sister turned 18, both got new cars. When I turned 18, the day after, my "parents" drove me to town, I was raised on a working dairy farm and dropped me off on a street curb with NO money, NO food, NO shelter, NO job nothing but a plastic bag with my clothes in it and drove away. I never heard from them again ever, 100% their choice.

Also, when they died, they left my younger sister a hobby farm and cash, my older brother got somewhere around 9 million (USD) and I got ZERO.

That is my story from birth till 18 in a nutshell, I have no problem sharing, as I am 69 and that was a long time ago.

Walter

That sounds completely insane. If that's true then your parents might be actual sociopaths.

Sorry that happened to you.

 

[whywere]

That sounds completely insane. If that's true then your parents might be actual sociopaths.

Sorry that happened to you.

I always thought that both of my "parents" had massive issues, however since I was never around them after my 18th birthday, I never knew for sure, just always guessed.

I just look at it, as it helped me so much to have empathy and kindness towards others this past 51 years, so in a small way it was a blessing.

The only thing that I ever wanted was my grandfather's birthstone ring on my "dads" side but never got that and never will.

Thank you so much for the very kind response.

You are a lovely person.

Walter