Help Are all or most women bisexual or lesbian?

[ryanandrsn]

I have a huge anxiety when it comes to dating women. I believe that all women are bisexual or lesbian. I want to clarify that I have nothing against people who are LGBT. It's just that me personally I'm a straight man and I want to be with a straight woman. Also the things I am about to mention are based on my experience and what I have seen and heard and based on the statistics I've seen.

Straight men think a lot of women are beautiful and attractive even thought they may not want a relationship with them. Straight women on the other hand view most men as unattractive and many are only attracted to them after establishing an emotional connection. Straight women also view women as "objectively more attractive than men". Lesbian women find a lot of women beautiful and attractive even thought they may not want a relationship with them. Gay men find a lot of men handsome and attractive even though they may not want a relationship with them. I have heard so many straight women say things like "I'm straight but penis's are disgusting. Boobs are nice though. Women are better to look at than men". It seems like straight women aren't as attracted to straight men as straight men are to them and it honestly makes me sad.

I am trying to quit watching porn however when I watch porn I only really watch lesbian porn. The reason why is because as a straight man seeing women turns me on and seeing men turns me off and so I don't want to see any men in the porn I watch. However lesbian porn is the most watched porn genre for women according to statistics. I've heard so many straight women say they watch lesbian porn but that they're still straight. They say "It's because straight porn is too violent and lesbian porn is more focused on women's pleasure". If that's the case why don't they watch straight porn that focuses on women's pleasure of which there are plenty? Lame excuse if you ask me. If women were really straight wouldn't they get turned off by seeing a woman in porn and want to see men or wouldn't they watch straight porn that focuses on women's pleasure? It makes no sense. Imagine if I said "Gay porn is my favorite. I love watching two men kissing and sucking each other's cocks. It's so passionate and hot. I'm 100% straight though." You'd all think I'm gay or bi in denial and rightfully so. Yet women say the same thing about lesbian porn and call themselves straight. It boggles my mind. Many of them even say they watch lesbian porn exclusively.

There are also studies that show men who identify as straight are mainly aroused by women, men who identify as gay are mainly aroused by men, women who identify as lesbian are mainly aroused by women. However women who identify as straight are aroused by both men and women. One study showed that 28% of straight women were mostly aroused by their preferred sex, compared with 68% of gay women: https://www.bbc.com/news/health-34744903

Also some women who identify as straight say they kissed other women or had sex with other women and liked it. Many women who have experimented with other women say they enjoyed sex better with another women or that they had better orgasms. Lesbians who have had sex with men on the other hand say that they felt little to no attraction to the man, or that they were disgusted, or that it was traumatizing.

It seems like women have this idea in their head that they can:
-be turned on by women and/or women having sex
-kiss other women and like it (sometimes better than they like kissing men)
-have sex with other women and like it (sometimes better than they like sex with men)
but still be straight because they "don't want to date other women and want to date men".

It seems like most if not all women are bisexual or lesbian and many are just with men because they have been conditioned by society to be straight and/or they want to use the man for resources, safety, security, and having kids.

This has got me feeling really depressed. I'm a straight man and I want to be with a straight woman who will love me the same way I love her and as much as I love her and it seems like the chances of this are slim to none.

 

[TennTrixie]

I can't speak for anyone else, but I'm a woman and I'm straight. No interest in women at all. I like dick.

 

[ryanandrsn]

I can't speak for anyone else, but I'm a woman and I'm straight. No interest in women at all. I like dick.

I've heard so many women say that and then in the next sentence they say things like "I love lesbian porn" or "I've experimented with women and liked it but it's not for me and I only want to be with men". Do you do any of those things?

 

[Ariii]

Me, as well as all of my friends are straight. None of us have ever dated other women or anything similar.

Straight women on the other hand view most men as unattractive and many are only attracted to them after establishing an emotional connection.

I have certainty been attracted to someone without knowing much about their personalities. That's how most of my passing crushes start out. So did my friend, who had a year long crush on someone where she OBSESSED over a guy simply b/c he looked like some celebrity or something.

Straight women also view women as "objectively more attractive than men".

Women tend to take better care of themselves and their appearances, plus, we have more capabilities of looking better (makeup, clothes, etc). And when I find find another woman prettier, its not because I want to date her, the thought of dating another women/ seeing her in a sexual context disgusts me. It's more some akin to wanting to looking like her, aka jealously. I absolutely have pictures of other girls saved, not because I want to kiss them, but because I wish I looked more like them.

I can't say much about the porn part, but I do see your point.

Also some women who identify as straight say they kissed other women or had sex with other women and liked it. Many women who have experimented with other women say they enjoyed sex better with another women or that they had better orgasms. Lesbians who have had sex with men on the other hand say that they felt little to no attraction to the man, or that they were disgusted, or that it was traumatizing.

"Some." Straight women who have not kissed or fucked other women won't go ahead and saying "I have never had sex with a woman," but a woman who has will have more reason to announce it. I think it may be called "Survivorship bia." Correct me if Im wrong

 

[ryanandrsn]

Me, as well as all of my friends are straight. None of us have ever dated other women or anything similar.


I have certainty been attracted to someone without knowing much about their personalities. That's how most of my passing crushes start out. So did my friend, who had a year long crush on someone where she OBSESSED over a guy simply b/c he looked like some celebrity or something.


Women tend to take better care of themselves and their appearances, plus, we have more capabilities of looking better (makeup, clothes, etc). And when I find find another woman prettier, its not because I want to date her, the thought of dating another women/ seeing her in a sexual context disgusts me. It's more some akin to wanting to looking like her, aka jealously. I absolutely have pictures of other girls saved, not because I want to kiss them, but because I wish I looked more like them.

I can't say much about the porn part, but I do see your point.


"Some." Straight women who have not kissed or fucked other women won't go ahead and saying "I have never had sex with a woman," but a woman who has has more reason to announce it. I think it may be called "Survivorship bia." Correct me if Im wrong

Have you and you're friends watched lesbian porn and enjoyed it? As a straight man I don't watch gay porn. In my opinion if a person is aroused by the same gender they are not straight. I've heard a lot of women who say they identified as straight and enjoyed watching lesbian porn and realized that they were bi or lesbian later on. Porn does have a tendency to warp peoples sexualities. I have heard stories of people who started watching regular porn and then escalated to watching more extreme stuff. However many straight identifying women start watching lesbian porn and watch it exclusively whereas straight men don't watch gay porn exclusively and don't start out watching it.

Also many men take care of their appearance too. And even if they don't as much as women, why do gay men find men more attractive on average than straight women do? I've seen threads on reddit for example where women say they find <1%-10% of men attractive while gay men say they find men more attractive than that on average.

 

[Ariii]

Have you and you're friends watched lesbian porn and enjoyed it? As a straight man I don't watch gay porn. In my opinion if a person is aroused by the same gender they are not straight. I've heard a lot of women who say they identified as straight and enjoyed watching lesbian porn and realized that they were bi or lesbian later on. Porn does have a tendency to warp peoples sexualities. I have heard stories of people who started watching regular porn and then escalated to watching more extreme stuff. However many straight identifying women start watching lesbian porn and watch it exclusively whereas straight men don't watch gay porn exclusively and don't start out watching it.

I dont ask my friends on their porn consumptions habits, but I haven't never watched lesbain porn. I have zero interest in doing so either, and it doesn't seem at all arousing to me. As for the escalation, I believe that refers to more extreme acts, rather not gender. I dont see why porn would only affect straight women (or at least impact us vastly more than other groups), and not men or lesbians. If porn could change sexuality, someone would probably create straight porno Christian conservation therapy

Still women take way more care of their appearances than men. And we can wear makeup which can have a massive effect. Reddit is not a good measurement for what people find attractive. And just from scrolling through a few threads, from what I can tell, women are taking more than just looks into consideration, which I know isn't your point, but a bad personality can absolutely kill physical attraction, from personal experience. And absence of attraction to 90-99% of men does not mean attraction to women. If someone is only attracted to a few men, but no women, she is still straight.

 

[idelttoilfsadness21]

I have a huge anxiety when it comes to dating women. I believe that all women are bisexual or lesbian. I want to clarify that I have nothing against people who are LGBT. It's just that me personally I'm a straight man and I want to be with a straight woman. Also the things I am about to mention are based on my experience and what I have seen and heard and based on the statistics I've seen.

Straight men think a lot of women are beautiful and attractive even thought they may not want a relationship with them. Straight women on the other hand view most men as unattractive and many are only attracted to them after establishing an emotional connection. Straight women also view women as "objectively more attractive than men". Lesbian women find a lot of women beautiful and attractive even thought they may not want a relationship with them. Gay men find a lot of men handsome and attractive even though they may not want a relationship with them. I have heard so many straight women say things like "I'm straight but penis's are disgusting. Boobs are nice though. Women are better to look at than men". It seems like straight women aren't as attracted to straight men as straight men are to them and it honestly makes me sad.

I am trying to quit watching porn however when I watch porn I only really watch lesbian porn. The reason why is because as a straight man seeing women turns me on and seeing men turns me off and so I don't want to see any men in the porn I watch. However lesbian porn is the most watched porn genre for women according to statistics. I've heard so many straight women say they watch lesbian porn but that they're still straight. They say "It's because straight porn is too violent and lesbian porn is more focused on women's pleasure". If that's the case why don't they watch straight porn that focuses on women's pleasure of which there are plenty? Lame excuse if you ask me. If women were really straight wouldn't they get turned off by seeing a woman in porn and want to see men or wouldn't they watch straight porn that focuses on women's pleasure? It makes no sense. Imagine if I said "Gay porn is my favorite. I love watching two men kissing and sucking each other's cocks. It's so passionate and hot. I'm 100% straight though." You'd all think I'm gay or bi in denial and rightfully so. Yet women say the same thing about lesbian porn and call themselves straight. It boggles my mind. Many of them even say they watch lesbian porn exclusively.

There are also studies that show men who identify as straight are mainly aroused by women, men who identify as gay are mainly aroused by men, women who identify as lesbian are mainly aroused by women. However women who identify as straight are aroused by both men and women. One study showed that 28% of straight women were mostly aroused by their preferred sex, compared with 68% of gay women: https://www.bbc.com/news/health-34744903

Also some women who identify as straight say they kissed other women or had sex with other women and liked it. Many women who have experimented with other women say they enjoyed sex better with another women or that they had better orgasms. Lesbians who have had sex with men on the other hand say that they felt little to no attraction to the man, or that they were disgusted, or that it was traumatizing.

It seems like women have this idea in their head that they can:
-be turned on by women and/or women having sex
-kiss other women and like it (sometimes better than they like kissing men)
-have sex with other women and like it (sometimes better than they like sex with men)
but still be straight because they "don't want to date other women and want to date men".

It seems like most if not all women are bisexual or lesbian and many are just with men because they have been conditioned by society to be straight and/or they want to use the man for resources, safety, security, and having kids.

This has got me feeling really depressed. I'm a straight man and I want to be with a straight woman who will love me the same way I love her and as much as I love her and it seems like the chances of this are slim to none.

That's so sad and studies rarely differ when it comes to the complexity of the human mind and nature, so it doesn't fully aline if you meet every straight women or biological women as sexuality differs and some bisexual or lesbian women may not fully be what they assume themselves to be or even take those terms as pansexual exists and so does aro and ace exists. I'm basically saying the implications may be there, but you are putting so much attention into this when you could just settle for someone's character who shows themselves to be the person you are pursuing in your head, as relative studies can never truly indicate how a person responds to their overall lifestyle or personality, especially as trauma can hinder someone preference to begin with. I had a history of figuring out what I was because I was basically numb to anyone wanting me or even believing I was bi because of mixed feelings from trauma, but I always liked dick and wanted to be around a guy, and it felt very engaging to admit that from what I was uncomfortable in for so long and suffered from because of my upbringings which hindered a lot of socializing in my life and gave me an idea that I was never good enough... Trust me, you may be thinking about this all wrongly

 

[TheHolySword]

The majority of the population is straight. By a large margin.

 

[ryanandrsn]

That's so sad and studies rarely differ when it comes to the complexity of the human mind and nature, so it doesn't fully aline if you meet every straight women or biological women as sexuality differs and some bisexual or lesbian women may not fully be what they assume themselves to be or even take those terms as pansexual exists and so does aro and ace exists. I'm basically saying the implications may be there, but you are putting so much attention into this when you could just settle for someone's character who shows themselves to be the person you are pursuing in your head, as relative studies can never truly indicate how a person responds to their overall lifestyle or personality, especially as trauma can hinder someone preference to begin with. I had a history of figuring out what I was because I was basically numb to anyone wanting me or even believing I was bi because of mixed feelings from trauma, but I always liked dick and wanted to be around a guy, and it felt very engaging to admit that from what I was uncomfortable in for so long and suffered from because of my upbringings which hindered a lot of socializing in my life and gave me an idea that I was never good enough... Trust me, you may be thinking about this all wrongly

Why would you believe you're bi if you're straight? Did you ever have a crush on or feel attracted to another woman?

 

[idelttoilfsadness21]

Why would you believe you're bi if you're straight? Did you ever have a crush on or feel attracted to another woman?

this is difficult to answer but I was mostly around girls growing up and barely hang out with guys. The first and last time I kissed a guy, he was older than me when I was 8, and being abused from the time I was 5 psychologically, when there was me being a flustered girl and only being around my friends, I weirdly confused our friendship in my head because it felt loving and didn't have the same complicity to be around guys who liked me or felt the ability to emphasize my attraction towards them without being called names, so it was that way for years until I watched Asian Dramas I guess and anime romance. It took some time until I would express it I guess if that's a way to put it...

 

[ryanandrsn]

this is difficult to answer but I was mostly around girls growing up and barely hang out with guys. The first and last time I kissed a guy, he was older than me when I was 8, and being abused from the time I was 5 psychologically, when there was me being a flustered girl and only being around my friends, I weirdly confused our friendship in my head because it felt loving and didn't have the same complicity to be around guys who liked me or felt the ability to emphasize my attraction towards them without being called names, so it was that way for years until I watched Asian Dramas I guess and anime romance. It took some time until I would express it I guess if that's a way to put it...

What do you mean by complicity? Did you not feel as attracted to guys until watching asian dramas and anime romance and why did it take watching asian dramas and anime romance to realize you were straight and didn't like girls? Did you act on your attraction to girls and if so did you like it? I'm sorry if I'm asking a lot of questions I just want to get an understanding.

 

[UnnervedCompany]

I think this problem just comes with insecurity regarding your own sexuality or self. I am a gay man and I have a very big anxiety regarding bisexual men because I believe they don't value gay relationships as much as straight ones. That idea comes from my internalized homophobia that was planted to me at a very young age. I know my belief regarding bisexuals is wrong and I constantly challenge it. I won't get into specifics regarding my issues I am just giving you an idea that sexual stress or fear is common.

Not everyone woman is queer that is the same belief that gays or straights don't exist and everyone is bisexual which is dumb lol. Sexuality is very confusing and almost impossible to quantify into a statistic. Studies regarding sexuality are dumb and corn isn't a good mediator for determining someone's sexuality. When I used to watch that stuff (I quit thankfully that stuff icks me) I used to sometimes like straight videos but that didn't really mean anything since the idea of having it with a woman is very unappealing to me. The lighting, the acting, the exaggeration, the specific camera angles and imagining you are one of the two people all of that can trigger the feeling of arousal because that shit is fake as fuck. Corn sucks and it could be one of the reasons you are insecure.

Do not take forum stories as good backing that a lot of women are attracted to other women because it's simply not true. All of my straight female friends have no gay desires from what they tell me. Regarding not dating bisexuals I understand it because I had that same issue but it's not accurate to claim that a person being attracted to more than one gender can cause them to love you less. One of my reasons to challenge that claim is this: "Out of all the people they are attracted to they picked you to be their love."

 

[WhiteRabbit]

I've made out with a few women at bars and clubs when I was younger, but it never went past kissing and light petting. I'm not really attracted to women in that way, though. I think I was just drunk or high and feeling experimental. I wouldn't want to have full sex with a woman. I've never had a crush on a girl or anything. I consider myself straight.

OP I think there are plenty of straight women out there who are fully attracted to men—even ones who have experimented with other women a bit.

 

[ryanandrsn]

Regarding not dating bisexuals I understand it because I had that same issue but it's not accurate to claim that a person being attracted to more than one gender can cause them to love you less. One of my reasons to challenge that claim is this: "Out of all the people they are attracted to they picked you to be their love."

I disagree. Bisexuals usually have a preference for one gender and some of them may have unfulfilled desires in monogamous relationships. For example a bisexual woman in a relationship with a man might still want to satisfy the side of herself that is attracted to women and want an open relationship or watch lesbian porn. I'm not saying all of them are like that, it's just what I've noticed personally. Because of this I'd rather be with a straight woman. This is just my preference.

I've made out with a few women at bars and clubs when I was younger, but it never went past kissing and light petting. I'm not really attracted to women in that way, though. I think I was just drunk or high and feeling experimental. I wouldn't want to have full sex with a woman. I've never had a crush on a girl or anything. I consider myself straight.

OP I think there are plenty of straight women out there who are fully attracted to men—even ones who have experimented with other women a bit.

I'm sorry I don't see how someone who is straight would want to kiss the same gender even if they are drunk. Straight men don't kiss each other when they're drunk but it seems like it's a common thing for women to kiss each other when drunk.

 

[idelttoilfsadness21]

What do you mean by complicity? Did you not feel as attracted to guys until watching asian dramas and anime romance and why did it take watching asian dramas and anime romance to realize you were straight and didn't like girls? Did you act on your attraction to girls and if so did you like it? I'm sorry if I'm asking a lot of questions I just want to get an understanding.

I meant I was stripped of being able to convey emotion and if I did I'd be judged for it, and it seemed my parents didn't care and only wanted me around my sisters and stuff happened I won't get into and sadly I hate that incest is in this world but thankfully no one talks too much about their weird childhoods in this world except creeps or weirdos who are deeply perverted in this world... Honestly, something like that and it seemed like it was just what kids did, but literally it stuck with me and you'd guess it...

I was the only one in my family that suffered the most mentally and it wasn't at 14, but much younger when I was 6 or 7 but I never knew what depression was and always numb to expressing my feelings and I had trouble with conveying speech anyways.

No, romance anime and drama was an introduction for me to expressing my girlhood without issues and what I was really feeling, and perhaps, but I struggled to feel normal and never belonged and was shunned and my only friend group was my sisters, yet I still felt alone, and I had a boyfriend then I guess, but I was judged and I forced it as I felt uncomfortable and everyone was at that dating age, but I felt like I never was good enough, if I can put it that way. I literally didn't want to share I was bi or lesbian until the whole narrative around sexuality was pushed when I was in high school, but I immediately never pushed that narrative and when it was pushed, I isolated and ran away from the expectations on me because it was just so surreal and I never felt comfortable with it and I became asexual because I couldn't bare living a lie like this to myself or to my future partner.

Also, broke up with my first boyfriend and had guys asking me out, but instead of other shy girls who'd declined because of fear of themselves or the guy they'd be around, I declined because I always felt I wasn't both good enough and I wanted to be alone, but I kept forcing myself to be asexual, and plus, I was aware the guys wasn't my type, but yet, I liked their attention... And there was one incident, but I didn't like it especially when I thought I was trans because I developed body dysmorphia. Long story.

But yeah, I always felt uncomfortable especially when I delt with a female predator when I was young which I always remembered saying no to the thought when I was forced into that and ran so far... And that's okay. It's good to wonder :) Also, again, the asian dramas and anime healed my feeling to be myself, and it wasn't because of my race in this world either. I am myself without race attached to it. I mean, it gave me a world to imagine what that was like as I was unfortunately sheltered badly and stripped of an identity growing up my entire life. It gave me purpose to find myself and to believe, and I met my first love that way despite it being a long hard journey and embarrassing journey might I add.

I disagree. Bisexuals usually have a preference for one gender and some of them may have unfulfilled desires in monogamous relationships. For example a bisexual woman in a relationship with a man might still want to satisfy the side of herself that is attracted to women and want an open relationship or watch lesbian porn. I'm not saying all of them are like that, it's just what I've noticed personally. Because of this I'd rather be with a straight woman. This is just my preference.

I'm sorry I don't see how someone who is straight would want to kiss the same gender even if they are drunk. Straight men don't kiss each other when they're drunk but it seems like it's a common thing for women to kiss each other when drunk.

Also, she said she was feeling experimental so curiosity does develop, but its not always a sexually curious factor of fully exploration and when your drunk, its more possible to have all your mind unwind right there and there, but not always. It does happen though

 

[ryanandrsn]

I meant I was stripped of being able to convey emotion and if I did I'd be judged for it, and it seemed my parents didn't care and only wanted me around my sisters and stuff happened I won't get into and sadly I hate that incest is in this world but thankfully no one talks too much about their weird childhoods in this world except creeps or weirdos who are deeply perverted in this world... Honestly, something like that and it seemed like it was just what kids did, but literally it stuck with me and you'd guess it...

I was the only one in my family that suffered the most mentally and it wasn't at 14, but much younger when I was 6 or 7 but I never knew what depression was and always numb to expressing my feelings and I had trouble with conveying speech anyways.

No, romance anime and drama was an introduction for me to expressing my girlhood without issues and what I was really feeling, and perhaps, but I struggled to feel normal and never belonged and was shunned and my only friend group was my sisters, yet I still felt alone, and I had a boyfriend then I guess, but I was judged and I forced it as I felt uncomfortable and everyone was at that dating age, but I felt like I never was good enough, if I can put it that way. I literally didn't want to share I was bi or lesbian until the whole narrative around sexuality was pushed when I was in high school, but I immediately never pushed that narrative and when it was pushed, I isolated and ran away from the expectations on me because it was just so surreal and I never felt comfortable with it and I became asexual because I couldn't bare living a lie like this to myself or to my future partner.

Also, broke up with my first boyfriend and had guys asking me out, but instead of other shy girls who'd declined because of fear of themselves or the guy they'd be around, I declined because I always felt I wasn't both good enough and I wanted to be alone, but I kept forcing myself to be asexual, and plus, I was aware the guys wasn't my type, but yet, I liked their attention... And there was one incident, but I didn't like it especially when I thought I was trans because I developed body dysmorphia. Long story.

But yeah, I always felt uncomfortable especially when I delt with a female predator when I was young which I always remembered saying no to the thought when I was forced into that and ran so far... And that's okay. It's good to wonder :) Also, again, the asian dramas and anime healed my feeling to be myself, and it wasn't because of my race in this world either. I am myself without race attached to it. I mean, it gave me a world to imagine what that was like as I was unfortunately sheltered badly and stripped of an identity growing up my entire life. It gave me purpose to find myself and to believe, and I met my first love that way despite it being a long hard journey and embarrassing journey might I add.


Also, she said she was feeling experimental so curiosity does develop, but its not always a sexually curious factor of fully exploration and when your drunk, its more possible to have all your mind unwind right there and there, but not always. It does happen though

I'm sorry you had to go through all that.

 

[UnnervedCompany]

I disagree. Bisexuals usually have a preference for one gender and some of them may have unfulfilled desires in monogamous relationships. For example a bisexual woman in a relationship with a man might still want to satisfy the side of herself that is attracted to women and want an open relationship or watch lesbian porn. I'm not saying all of them are like that, it's just what I've noticed personally. Because of this I'd rather be with a straight woman. This is just my preference.

Having a preference is okay I am just giving you that notion to think about and help deal with your insecurity. You shouldn't be afraid that you cannot satisfy a woman fully. It is important to believe that you are enough sexually. Unfortunately there isn't lots of talk regarding straight men who are insecure even though it's possible and somewhat common. I recommend trying exercises and techniques that help gay people with their internalized homophobia. You should understand the problem isn't that every woman is bisexual or lesbian because that is not TRUE; the problem is that you are afraid that is the case and is insecure about it. I cannot fault you for that I had/have a very similar issue I just hope you believe in yourself more.

 

[idelttoilfsadness21]

I'm sorry you had to go through all that.

It's okay, but yes, my story explains how some straight women can be brought in this way without their knowledge... Does that explain somethings in better context now as you were confused earlier.

 

[WhiteRabbit]

I'm sorry I don't see how someone who is straight would want to kiss the same gender even if they are drunk. Straight men don't kiss each other when they're drunk but it seems like it's a common thing for women to kiss each other when drunk.

Curiosity + drunk/drugs. Maybe I was slightly bi-curious at the time. Idk. Drunk kissing is fun but I'm not attracted to vagina.

They say sexuality is a spectrum and not rigid categories. I'm not sure why it's easier for women to kiss each other and not for men.

Since then, I've only been attracted to men.

 

[ryanandrsn]

Idk why it's easier for women to kiss each other and not for men.

Same. I'm a straight man and I'm not the least bit curious about kissing another man and the thought of it disgusts me. It's not because I'm homophobic. I don't have a problem with gay people. When I was a kid and I first heard about gay people I was just confused on how a man could like another man and when I saw two men kissing in a music video as a kid I felt disgusted. In my experience most straight men feel the same way I do and would never kiss a man because they know they're not into it but it's not the same for straight women :/

 

[TheHolySword]

There's nothing wrong with experimenting tbh. Maybe men should do it more. Everyone should have the opportunity and freedom to see what they like and don't like without it being questioned.

 

[WhiteRabbit]

Same. I'm a straight man and I'm not the least bit curious about kissing another man and the thought of it disgusts me. It's not because I'm homophobic. I don't have a problem with gay people. When I was a kid and I first heard about gay people I was just confused on how a man could like another man and when I saw two men kissing in a music video as a kid I felt disgusted. In my experience most straight men feel the same way I do and would never kiss a man because they know they're not into it but it's not the same for straight women :/

Maybe it's because women being the object of desire and something to acquire is sold to everyone, not just men. A woman kissing another woman in a 'platonic' way isn't really seen as a deviation to the gender they're supposed to be performing, while men kissing men is. Women aren't seen as less of a woman for doing so, but men would be seen as less of a man.

Also, women tend to be seeking romance and men tend to be seeking sex. So a physical interaction isn't seen as serious with women if it's quick and not meaningful, but it is seen as serious with men.

 

[ForgottenAgain]

I have a huge anxiety when it comes to dating women. I believe that all women are bisexual or lesbian. I want to clarify that I have nothing against people who are LGBT. It's just that me personally I'm a straight man and I want to be with a straight woman. Also the things I am about to mention are based on my experience and what I have seen and heard and based on the statistics I've seen.

Straight men think a lot of women are beautiful and attractive even thought they may not want a relationship with them. Straight women on the other hand view most men as unattractive and many are only attracted to them after establishing an emotional connection. Straight women also view women as "objectively more attractive than men". Lesbian women find a lot of women beautiful and attractive even thought they may not want a relationship with them. Gay men find a lot of men handsome and attractive even though they may not want a relationship with them. I have heard so many straight women say things like "I'm straight but penis's are disgusting. Boobs are nice though. Women are better to look at than men". It seems like straight women aren't as attracted to straight men as straight men are to them and it honestly makes me sad.

I am trying to quit watching porn however when I watch porn I only really watch lesbian porn. The reason why is because as a straight man seeing women turns me on and seeing men turns me off and so I don't want to see any men in the porn I watch. However lesbian porn is the most watched porn genre for women according to statistics. I've heard so many straight women say they watch lesbian porn but that they're still straight. They say "It's because straight porn is too violent and lesbian porn is more focused on women's pleasure". If that's the case why don't they watch straight porn that focuses on women's pleasure of which there are plenty? Lame excuse if you ask me. If women were really straight wouldn't they get turned off by seeing a woman in porn and want to see men or wouldn't they watch straight porn that focuses on women's pleasure? It makes no sense. Imagine if I said "Gay porn is my favorite. I love watching two men kissing and sucking each other's cocks. It's so passionate and hot. I'm 100% straight though." You'd all think I'm gay or bi in denial and rightfully so. Yet women say the same thing about lesbian porn and call themselves straight. It boggles my mind. Many of them even say they watch lesbian porn exclusively.

There are also studies that show men who identify as straight are mainly aroused by women, men who identify as gay are mainly aroused by men, women who identify as lesbian are mainly aroused by women. However women who identify as straight are aroused by both men and women. One study showed that 28% of straight women were mostly aroused by their preferred sex, compared with 68% of gay women: https://www.bbc.com/news/health-34744903

Also some women who identify as straight say they kissed other women or had sex with other women and liked it. Many women who have experimented with other women say they enjoyed sex better with another women or that they had better orgasms. Lesbians who have had sex with men on the other hand say that they felt little to no attraction to the man, or that they were disgusted, or that it was traumatizing.

It seems like women have this idea in their head that they can:
-be turned on by women and/or women having sex
-kiss other women and like it (sometimes better than they like kissing men)
-have sex with other women and like it (sometimes better than they like sex with men)
but still be straight because they "don't want to date other women and want to date men".

It seems like most if not all women are bisexual or lesbian and many are just with men because they have been conditioned by society to be straight and/or they want to use the man for resources, safety, security, and having kids.

This has got me feeling really depressed. I'm a straight man and I want to be with a straight woman who will love me the same way I love her and as much as I love her and it seems like the chances of this are slim to none.

I don't think I've heard about this anywhere else. I'm a straight woman and I was always able to feel attracted to men before getting to know them. Something about their voice or how they looked or what they were doing in the moment that catched my eye.

For the short time when I had female friends, they would talk about the same thing, they also felt attracted to guys prior to establishing an emotional connection.

I have never experimented with women, the idea repulses me simply because it's not my attraction. I think a lot of people are like that, attracted to just one gender.
I have watched porn in the past out of curiosity but it always scared the shit out of me. Too graphic and disgusting for my taste. However, I enjoyed reading romance novels and really liked reading the romantic moments between couples. Straight couples were my preference as I could transport myself more easily to the fantasy.

Maybe it depends where you live? Straight people seem like the vast majority, according to my lived experience at least. And a lot of women I've met were attracted to men and had no interest in women.
I do understand the point of penisses being ugly. For me, it's mostly that I found penisses scary. Obviously I'm not a man and not used to seeing that so it was a bit of a shock to see at first. But I can also say I don't particularly find vaginas attractive either, much on the contrary, I also think they are scary looking, worse than penisses. In general, sexual organs aren't pretty imo.

A man's body shape I find very beautiful and attractive. I also think women's bodies are very beautiful just not attractive for me.

I'm sorry you feel such difficulty in finding straight women. I can't speak for the people around you where you live but I can tell you that straight women do exist and can be as attracted to a man as a man to them.

 

[yousaidimsweet]

i'm bisexual myself and most of my friends are bisexual, gay or lesbian too. idk if that's because i LOOK bisexual so other queer people gravitate towards me or if its evidence that generally women just like experimenting more. but i can safely say that i also know plenty of straight women that cannot fathom doing anythinggg with other women. they tend to be more conservative

 

[MyTimeIsUp]

This is such shit.

**some may find this a little graphic, but it really isn't. If you are not old/mature enough to be talking about sex, please don't read my post, and the same goes if you're sensitive about the word 'cock' etc - you have to give a trigger warning to literally everything these days so that is mine **

I am a straight woman, and I was born female if that helps, given you seem to have to tell people nowadays which is ridiculous. I do not find women attractive at all. A male body is attractive (VERY), not a female one. Who can resist a lush male body and a lush hard cock? Just because the world says we are non-sexual it doesn't mean you should believe it. I am a VERY sexual person.

I find men attractive, who the fuck needs an emotional connection to find someone attractive? Never heard of it. That's so strange. I have never in my life been emotionally attached to someone I'm just having sex with, sex is meaningless to me. I do not need an emotional attachment to fancy someone (weird). I find most men attractive. Oh and I very rarely find myself attached to people in an emotional sense, very VERY rare, and definitely not if just sex is involved. I have found men do though, which is quite odd, and as soon as that happens, I'm running. I don't want people to be attached to me, I just want to have fun! Why is that concept so hard to believe, yet men do it? Why can't we as women do that? I don't understand. Women have needs too you know! Don't listen to what men THINK they know about women

I am a woman with an incredibly high sex drive. Never met a man that could keep up, actually they have moaned about my sexual appetite - imagine that, a man? I love sex.

Now tell me again how "all women". Where did you get this from? Based on what one woman told you (I bet)?

Men have told me I am rare. They have never met a woman like myself. In my opinion, they have just met idiot women.

I'm a very passionate lover, and absolutely love exploring the male body. I won't be graphic here, don't worry lol. I love everything about the male body. LUSH! What is wrong with that? Dick is lush, so are balls and everything else that comes with the male body.

This post is very odd.

WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO MEN, stop making out that *only* men have sexual wants, needs and desires! We do too! Like I said, I do a hell of a lot more than the average man. My sex drive is through the roof. Sex is important. Perhaps if a woman is stating it isn't, she's had shit sex, just like those that claim sex isn't all that - they definitely have been having shit sex their entire lives, or they were abused or something.

Relationships are gross to me (I have been in them, unfortunately). I have never had the desire to want to be with someone forever or at all. The only intimacy I enjoy is sex.

If you find it hard to believe, just read my post. I'll repeat it, I am a STRAIGHT woman that doesn't find women attractive, I LOVE the male form. Now move on and accept women are also sexual beings. Ask around. I have asked plenty and they've said the same - they are sick of being seen as non-sexual beings, because society states ONLY men NEED sex, when this isn't the case. WOMEN NEED SEX TOO, WE ALL DO!

P.s I am 35 and my sex drive has been this way since I was about 15, I can literally fuck, lick and suck cock all night long without getting bored or needing a break from it, it turns me on something chronic! I used to be a sex worker, because I love it that much (the literal reason I went into it - loving the male form and anything sexual with them - did it for years). My mum is in her 60s and also has a high sex drive, yet she's been through the menopause (medically induced but even so).

Hopefully now you'll all shut up about women being non-sexual. I also couldn't careless what *boys* (immature men) say about me on the Internet. No, my vagina is not baggy, it is TIGHT. A woman being loose, because of sleeping with several men is a myth. It's a bit like saying the more one man has sex with her, the looser she becomes. If she's too tight (it'll hurt you too) then she's not turned on, SIMPLE!!! I know how the female body works.

Good sex makes you feel good. Now remember that and learn how to please a woman (and women, if you're shit, do the same - learn - we all start somewhere)

Happy having sex

 

[EvisceratedJester]

I'm sorry I don't see how someone who is straight would want to kiss the same gender even if they are drunk. Straight men don't kiss each other when they're drunk but it seems like it's a common thing for women to kiss each other when drunk.

How do I break it to you that you can in fact find cases of straight men who've done similar things before while either drunk or high? I've seen straight men talk about doing shit like that before.

It's almost like you aren't in your right mind when drunk./s

Also, no. There isn't actually that much straight porn that focuses on women's pleasure. Most porn is made to mainly focus on the pleasure of men, not women. Why bother with sifting through large amounts of straight porn in the hopes of finding something that focuses on women's pleasure when you can instead just watch lesbian porn and be guaranteed that from the start? Along with that, it should also be noted that women don't just get off to porn either. Women also commonly use other forms of media to get off to, such as smutty fanfic, novels, doujinshis, etc. A lot of those types of media feature way more straight and gay sex compared to lesbian sex.

In regards to the article you cited, if I remember correctly, that article was written about one particular study. Something that needs to be noted when looking at this study's results is that women are more heavily sexualized compared to men, which may influence how straight women view others from their own gender. The study also takes a very simplistic view of sexual orientation, something that many queer people have taken note of and have criticized the study for. The person who created the study is also a bit of a controversial figure. Either way, more research would be needed on the topic to come to a conclusive answer.

Women finding other women to be more beautiful likely comes down more to women just putting more effort into their appearances compared to men and in no way does this imply that they are sexually attracted to women. Funnily enough, you can actually find plenty of cases of straight men admitting to feeling attracted to other men, typically men who put more effort into their appearances and who are generally considered to be pretty-looking. A great example of this is with the Shears twins. It's not uncommon to find straight men online who admit to finding them attractive and that's because they are both good-looking (they even work as runway models from time to time), they have a good sense of fashion, and they also have a bit of an androgynous sort of appearance. Along with that, it's also important to note that, again, women are heavily sexualized and objectified by wider society which impacts how both straight men and women view them. Feminine traits are typically considered to be "pretty" and are sexualized, which may also go into why women tend to find other women to be more attractive. This also goes into why men sometimes may find feminine or androgynous-looking men to be attractive despite being straight. Attractiveness doesn't equate to sexual attraction, however. One can experience attraction without it being sexual attraction. I've seen plenty of men before who are attractive but I've also found myself not sexually attracted to them. The same goes for women.

Straight women having more orgasms while having sex with lesbians makes sense since lesbians are probably going to be more skilled at pleasuring other women compared to straight men. Straight men generally have a pretty poor reputation when it comes to listening to their partners and doing things to make sex pleasurable for both parties. Many straight men primarily focus on their own pleasure during sex. This isn't the case with lesbians, however. Many lesbians are also cis-women (just specifying this because the point that I'm making is a reference to sex not gender), so they already know their way around the female body. To add onto this, they (both cis and trans lesbians) also might be more likely to actually listen to their partners during sex leading to a more pleasurable experience. This really is just a reflection of patriarchal ideals and how they've led to straight sex being seen as something that should primarily focus on male pleasure over female pleasure more than anything.

I find it funny that you seem to be so hell-bent on arguing that all women are lesbians or bisexual. Are we going to forget about things, such as the issue of male rape in prisons? How about the cases of straight men online thirsting over traps and feminine-looking male anime characters? It sounds to me like all men must also be bisexual or gay but are just in denial because wider society not give men the freedom to explore their sexual orientation, thus leading them to repress their same-sex attraction./s

I think the real conclusion here isn't that all women are either gay or bi, but rather that straight men need to start experimenting more with their sexuality. You guys really need to start trying to spice things up a bit.

 

[ryanandrsn]

How do I break it to you that you can in fact find cases of straight men who've done similar things before while either drunk or high? I've seen straight men talk about doing shit like that before.

Not saying it doesn't happen but it is very rare compared to women who do the same.

Also, no. There isn't actually that much straight porn that focuses on women's pleasure. Most porn is made to mainly focus on the pleasure of men, not women. Why bother with sifting through large amounts of straight porn in the hopes of finding something that focuses on women's pleasure when you can instead just watch lesbian porn and be guaranteed that from the start? Along with that, it should also be noted that women don't just get off to porn either. Women also commonly use other forms of media to get off to, such as smutty fanfic, novels, doujinshis, etc. A lot of those types of media feature way more straight and gay sex compared to lesbian sex.

There is a lot of straight porn that focuses on women's pleasure. It isn't hard to find at all. I found many and in the comments there were women who said they enjoyed it. However many straight identifying women still prefer lesbian porn. "Why bother with sifting through large amounts of straight porn in the hopes of finding something that focuses on women's pleasure when you can instead just watch lesbian porn and be guaranteed that from the start?" This just seems like an excuse to me. If a person really wants something they search for it and if a person is truly straight they would either be disgusted or not aroused by seeing the same gender sexually or in a sexual setting period.

In regards to the article you cited, if I remember correctly, that article was written about one particular study. Something that needs to be noted when looking at this study's results is that women are more heavily sexualized compared to men, which may influence how straight women view others from their own gender. The study also takes a very simplistic view of sexual orientation, something that many queer people have taken note of and have criticized the study for. The person who created the study is also a bit of a controversial figure. Either way, more research would be needed on the topic to come to a conclusive answer.

Women finding other women to be more beautiful likely comes down more to women just putting more effort into their appearances compared to men and in no way does this imply that they are sexually attracted to women. Funnily enough, you can actually find plenty of cases of straight men admitting to feeling attracted to other men, typically men who put more effort into their appearances and who are generally considered to be pretty-looking. A great example of this is with the Shears twins. It's not uncommon to find straight men online who admit to finding them attractive and that's because they are both good-looking (they even work as runway models from time to time), they have a good sense of fashion, and they also have a bit of an androgynous sort of appearance. Along with that, it's also important to note that, again, women are heavily sexualized and objectified by wider society which impacts how both straight men and women view them. Feminine traits are typically considered to be "pretty" and are sexualized, which may also go into why women tend to find other women to be more attractive. This also goes into why men sometimes may find feminine or androgynous-looking men to be attractive despite being straight. Attractiveness doesn't equate to sexual attraction, however. One can experience attraction without it being sexual attraction. I've seen plenty of men before who are attractive but I've also found myself not sexually attracted to them. The same goes for women.

If what you said is true why don't gay men find other women as attractive as straight women do and why do gay men view men more attractive on average then straight women do? Sexuality doesn't change so wouldn't what society views as attractive or what society sexualizes have no effect on someones sexuality?

Straight women having more orgasms while having sex with lesbians makes sense since lesbians are probably going to be more skilled at pleasuring other women compared to straight men. Straight men generally have a pretty poor reputation when it comes to listening to their partners and doing things to make sex pleasurable for both parties. Many straight men primarily focus on their own pleasure during sex. This isn't the case with lesbians, however. Many lesbians are also cis-women (just specifying this because the point that I'm making is a reference to sex not gender), so they already know their way around the female body. To add onto this, they (both cis and trans lesbians) also might be more likely to actually listen to their partners during sex leading to a more pleasurable experience. This really is just a reflection of patriarchal ideals and how they've led to straight sex being seen as something that should primarily focus on male pleasure over female pleasure more than anything.

This is sad... I don't see lesbians complaining about sex with women, gay men complaining about sex with men, or straight men complaining about sex with women, but many straight identifying women complaining about sex with men :/

I find it funny that you seem to be so hell-bent on arguing that all women are lesbians or bisexual. Are we going to forget about things, such as the issue of male rape in prisons? How about the cases of straight men online thirsting over traps and feminine-looking male anime characters? It sounds to me like all men must also be bisexual or gay but are just in denial because wider society not give men the freedom to explore their sexual orientation, thus leading them to repress their same-sex attraction./s

I'm just seeing a clear pattern and a disconnect between what many women are saying and what they actually do in my opinion. I'm just trying to get an understanding.

The thing about prisons is that many of the sex that happens there is non consensual and female same sex activity in prison happens as much as male same sex activity if not more.

You mentioned anime characters and traps? Me personally I'm not into them but I can see why many men might be. No man looks like that in real life. They are drawings. In many cases the artist straight up just draws a woman and says it's a man lmao.

I think the real conclusion here isn't that all women are either gay or bi, but rather that straight men need to start experimenting more with their sexuality. You guys really need to start trying to spice things up a bit.

I don't think so. If a man wants to experiment then they should. However it's 2025 and there is nothing wrong with homosexuality. If many men including myself were attracted to men we would "experiment" more. However we don't because the whole point of an experiment is to make a discovery. We know we are straight and the thought and idea of doing something with the same gender repulses us. The same can't be said for many straight identifying women.

This is such shit.

**some may find this a little graphic, but it really isn't. If you are not old/mature enough to be talking about sex, please don't read my post, and the same goes if you're sensitive about the word 'cock' etc - you have to give a trigger warning to literally everything these days so that is mine **

I am a straight woman, and I was born female if that helps, given you seem to have to tell people nowadays which is ridiculous. I do not find women attractive at all. A male body is attractive (VERY), not a female one. Who can resist a lush male body and a lush hard cock? Just because the world says we are non-sexual it doesn't mean you should believe it. I am a VERY sexual person.

I find men attractive, who the fuck needs an emotional connection to find someone attractive? Never heard of it. That's so strange. I have never in my life been emotionally attached to someone I'm just having sex with, sex is meaningless to me. I do not need an emotional attachment to fancy someone (weird). I find most men attractive. Oh and I very rarely find myself attached to people in an emotional sense, very VERY rare, and definitely not if just sex is involved. I have found men do though, which is quite odd, and as soon as that happens, I'm running. I don't want people to be attached to me, I just want to have fun! Why is that concept so hard to believe, yet men do it? Why can't we as women do that? I don't understand. Women have needs too you know! Don't listen to what men THINK they know about women

I am a woman with an incredibly high sex drive. Never met a man that could keep up, actually they have moaned about my sexual appetite - imagine that, a man? I love sex.

Now tell me again how "all women". Where did you get this from? Based on what one woman told you (I bet)?

Men have told me I am rare. They have never met a woman like myself. In my opinion, they have just met idiot women.

I'm a very passionate lover, and absolutely love exploring the male body. I won't be graphic here, don't worry lol. I love everything about the male body. LUSH! What is wrong with that? Dick is lush, so are balls and everything else that comes with the male body.

This post is very odd.

WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO MEN, stop making out that *only* men have sexual wants, needs and desires! We do too! Like I said, I do a hell of a lot more than the average man. My sex drive is through the roof. Sex is important. Perhaps if a woman is stating it isn't, she's had shit sex, just like those that claim sex isn't all that - they definitely have been having shit sex their entire lives, or they were abused or something.

Relationships are gross to me (I have been in them, unfortunately). I have never had the desire to want to be with someone forever or at all. The only intimacy I enjoy is sex.

If you find it hard to believe, just read my post. I'll repeat it, I am a STRAIGHT woman that doesn't find women attractive, I LOVE the male form. Now move on and accept women are also sexual beings. Ask around. I have asked plenty and they've said the same - they are sick of being seen as non-sexual beings, because society states ONLY men NEED sex, when this isn't the case. WOMEN NEED SEX TOO, WE ALL DO!

P.s I am 35 and my sex drive has been this way since I was about 15, I can literally fuck, lick and suck cock all night long without getting bored or needing a break from it, it turns me on something chronic! I used to be a sex worker, because I love it that much (the literal reason I went into it - loving the male form and anything sexual with them - did it for years). My mum is in her 60s and also has a high sex drive, yet she's been through the menopause (medically induced but even so).

Hopefully now you'll all shut up about women being non-sexual. I also couldn't careless what *boys* (immature men) say about me on the Internet. No, my vagina is not baggy, it is TIGHT. A woman being loose, because of sleeping with several men is a myth. It's a bit like saying the more one man has sex with her, the looser she becomes. If she's too tight (it'll hurt you too) then she's not turned on, SIMPLE!!! I know how the female body works.

Good sex makes you feel good. Now remember that and learn how to please a woman (and women, if you're shit, do the same - learn - we all start somewhere)

Happy having sex

I understand where you're coming from. Just curious have you ever experimented with women and liked it? Have you ever watched lesbian porn and liked it?

 

[UnnervedCompany]

You need to implant these thoughts in your mind because I read this most of this thread and you are still not budging at all. NOT ALL WOMEN FIND OTHER WOMEN ATTRACTIVE. I get your afraid but your thoughts are not true and you need to go out more and talk to people. The majority of people are not queer.

 

[ryanandrsn]

You need to implant these thoughts in your mind because I read this most of this thread and you are still not budging at all. NOT ALL WOMEN FIND OTHER WOMEN ATTRACTIVE. I get your afraid but your thoughts are not true and you need to go out more and talk to people. The majority of people are not queer.

The majority of people don't identify as queer that's for sure. But what someone says they are and what someone truly is is very different in my opinion. Actions speak louder than words. I'm sorry but this thread just confirmed what I already believed. And I don't think it's confirmation bias either. Almost every thread related to this topic on the internet is like this. Men who call themselves straight don't watch gay porn let alone prefer it and don't enjoy kissing other men. Women who call themselves straight on the other hand enjoy kissing other women and enjoy and often prefer lesbian porn. I'm not saying they're all like this. Maybe there are some truly straight women but I feel like they are in the minority and I feel like in general women don't like men as much as men like women which is just sad to me :/

 

[NormallyNeurotic]

I want to clarify that I have nothing against people who are LGBT. It's just that me personally I'm a straight man and I want to be with a straight woman.

Not knocking your preferences, but how "straight" does your potential partner have to be? Clearly heterosexual and heteroromantic, and based on this...

Straight men think a lot of women are beautiful and attractive even thought they may not want a relationship with them. Straight women on the other hand view most men as unattractive and many are only attracted to them after establishing an emotional connection.

...it seems you're looking for a woman who is not demisexual or demiromantic. I'm not sure why a woman not wanting to fuck you without getting to know you makes her "less straight," but you do you.

I will say, though, that many women DO find men they don't have an emotional connection to attractive. But women think before acting on attraction more often than men do, so they wait until they find an emotional connection as a SAFETY PRECAUTION.

Also I see many, many more women attracted to "unattractive men" than men to "unattractive women." Yes, there is this issue on both sides, women often become obsessed with the idea of a man being buff and well-endowed... but none of those women I've met gained these beliefs from anyone but men THEMSELVES.

Their fathers judging any boyfriend they have for being "scrawny and weak" or "unsuccessful."

Porn, majority created by and for men, only hiring porn stars with physiques FAR above average.

Hollywood, including many male directors, insisting on hiring only the "hottest men."

Even men complaining any time a male love interest in media or a character in video games is unattractive, calling it "woke."

On the flip side, I often see men say "she would be so pretty if..." or giving unsolicited advice on how to be more fuckable. Smile more, lose weight, stand up straighter, don't be so modest, don't be so slutty.

Saying men find more women attractive than vice versa is biased and noncontextual at BEST. And framing the act of finding someone attractive for their personality/bond FIRST—with physicality being second—as a BAD thing... kind of seems to go against your own struggles

Lesbian women find a lot of women beautiful and attractive even thought they may not want a relationship with them. Gay men find a lot of men handsome and attractive even though they may not want a relationship with them. I have heard so many straight women say things like "I'm straight but penis's are disgusting. Boobs are nice though. Women are better to look at than men".

Bias once again. Straight women often just don't ADMIT these things, because it is frowned upon. Being fast, slutty, or boy-crazy are all traits seen time and time again as negative. Queer people, however, have already come to terms with being frowned upon. So they're more open because they will be hated either way!

Also penises ARE disgusting. So are vaginas. So are nasal passages. The human body is gross. But when you lack a body part, and then are taught that it is a fleshy appendage that fills up with blood, you may find it gross from general psychological shock-bias. Most women aren't taught that the clitoris does the same thing as the penis erection-wise anyway.

Add on the fact that many men don't properly wash their dicks due to either improper education, or internalized homophobia. Just as you had found a large sample size of queer women where you are, more women find massive sample sizes of men with gross penises.

If all women are queer, then all men have unwashed dicks, right?

There are also studies that show men who identify as straight are mainly aroused by women, men who identify as gay are mainly aroused by men, women who identify as lesbian are mainly aroused by women. However women who identify as straight are aroused by both men and women. One study showed that 28% of straight women were mostly aroused by their preferred sex, compared with 68% of gay women: https://www.bbc.com/news/health-34744903

Show the other studies, please. I'd like to compare context, funding, sample size, etc.

However lesbian porn is the most watched porn genre for women according to statistics. I've heard so many straight women say they watch lesbian porn but that they're still straight. They say "It's because straight porn is too violent and lesbian porn is more focused on women's pleasure". If that's the case why don't they watch straight porn that focuses on women's pleasure of which there are plenty? Lame excuse if you ask me.

Perhaps your attitude of seeing anything you don't understand as a "lame excuse" contributes to your issue bonding with women. Most of the porn "focused on women's pleasure" online is from the male gaze.

Often it includes men with very large penises, despite the fact that most pleasure nerves are closer to the vaginal entrance, and the longer the dick, the more likely the woman is to get hit directly in the cervix. Also, women can recognize a fake female orgasm.

What a man thinks is "female pleasure focused" is most of the time inaccurate, because he has never felt female pleasure.

Also some women who identify as straight say they kissed other women or had sex with other women and liked it. Many women who have experimented with other women say they enjoyed sex better with another women or that they had better orgasms. Lesbians who have had sex with men on the other hand say that they felt little to no attraction to the man, or that they were disgusted, or that they were traumatized.

Um. See my point above. And while you're at it, look up the history of how many men ignore consent boundaries due to how ingrained in society the idea of "you can't be raped by your husband/partner/boyfriend" is.

Many women like having sex with post-op transguys for these exact reasons. They may have a penis now, and may "look manly" now, but they are more likely to understand what a woman likes/does not like because... well, they've felt it themselves!