Do you have kids?

[Nobody'sHero]

Wondering if you have children. I do not but I wish I had my life together enough to be able to have a family. This will not happen judging by the way things are going. Plan is to enjoy my moms cooking a little more and then CTB. Fuck this planet

 

[Pluto]

 

[Nobody'sHero]

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I want an eagle

 

[Halfhourdays]

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[Nobody'sHero]

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Squak!!

 

[Halfhourdays]

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Squak!!

Bring it on.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

No, and I don't want kids. If something were to happen and I somehow found myself pregnant then that dumb ass parasite better watch out

 

[Pluto]

 

[Nobody'sHero]

Haters will say this is fake

 

[deadbidaylight]

I have a 6 year old daughter. If I didn't have her, I would've CTB long ago. She is the light of my life, my reason for living. She 100% makes it worth it.

If you have dreams of one day having children, I strongly urge you to hold onto that hope. Not everyone has the desire to have children (as you can see from the tasteless post above), but as a mother I can tell you it is the greatest joy you'll ever have, and the love you feel inside your heart is unlike anything anyone has ever experienced unless you've had one of your own.

I will also say, before I had my daughter, I had very little hope of ever having children as well. My life was a mess, I was divorced, living in a shitty basement apartment, working my ass off to barely scrape by and was a mental catastrophe. By some freak chance, I met my partner and things slowly turned around. I faced years of infertility which made me feel even worse about ever having a child of my own, but after 3 years of struggle I conceived her. Just because it doesn't feel like it could ever happen at this moment doesn't mean it's not around the corner for you. There is always time.

Also, an eagle is a badass choice for a pet!

 

[dust-in-the-wind]

55f childless by choice. There is too much suffering to bring another being into existence.

 

[ellipse]

No, and I don't plan on having any.

 

[RadiantNumber]

Having kids is bad, you bring them to this world full of evil

 

[CarrotEater]

Never wanted any of my own, but I would be find adopting one. Now I'm in a nearly unrecoverable state, so that won't happen. I have other things on my mind.

 

[deadbidaylight]

Having kids is bad, you bring them to this world full of evil

It's not evil for everyone.

 

[Goodfornothingbish]

I had a baby but I didn't keep her. I knew I wouldn't have been a good mom and I didn't want her to suffer in this world. Especially with my genetics. It was best that she rest happily but I wish I went with her that night still.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

It's not evil for everyone.

It is full of suffering and suffering is something that everyone inevitably goes through. Bringing a child into this world knowing this is incredibly selfish.

 

[deadbidaylight]

It is full of suffering and suffering is something that everyone inevitably goes through. Bringing a child into this world knowing this is incredibly selfish.

Yeah yeah I've heard your take on it already. Someday you'll learn that your opinion isn't the only one, and also that you're not always right.

A bit of kindness and compassion for others goes a long way, especially on a damn suicide forum for god sakes. If you wanna talk selfish, take a look at how you speak to people on here. It's atrocious.

I had a baby but I didn't keep her. I knew I wouldn't have been a good mom and I didn't want her to suffer in this world. Especially with my genetics. It was best that she rest happily but I wish I went with her that night still.

I'm sorry that you had to make that choice for your baby. But know that you were very brave in accepting the fact that you couldn't give it what it deserved. You did the right thing, and I think if a lot of people could find the compassion for their unborn children the way you did, there would be a lot less people like us on here.

Give yourself some grace.

 

[UninformedLover]

No but I have two cats and that's like having 5 small toddlers that are addicted to Red40

 

[Average Joe]

If I were of sane mind, I'd love to have children, but I don't think it would be fair on them to see me in the states I've been in.
I wouldn't say it's selfish to bring a child into the world, I mean creating new life is the beauty of our world.

I do like to entertain the thought of having a family, a loving wife with 2 or 3 kids and just enjoying life with them. It might be sexist or outdated of me but I would love to come home after a hard days work to see my wife cooking a nice roast while my kids are playing out on the grass.
I guess it's nice to dream once in a while.

I think with having kids, I more so just want someone to be proud of me and provide me with love.

Anyways, I've got a younger brother who looks up to me and that's enough.

 

[Namelesa]

No I don't have any kids and will probably not want any in the future. I don't want to have any biological children as I am antinatalist cus I don't want to create a new being that will suffer, especially cus of spreading mental problems to that child, such as my depression, autism, fear of abandonment, intense emotions and being trans. I would feel guilty and responsible for whatever pain they would experience. I have thought of adopting a child but I won't be a good enough parent as I can't even take care of myself and I don't want to have to feel anxiety over them doing things like education cus of my trauma in school. I do have a desire to take care of others so I fulfill that with taking care of my dog and in the past with being a caregiver to a friend when he age regresses. I feel like doing these things are best for me as its less responsibility and I don't have to deal with the stress of any of them going to education. Tho god I really miss that friend so much like I am an actual mother who has gotten separated from her child.

 

[horrorofBeing]

Thank you for sharing this, Nobody'sHero. I think I am of a similar mindset, minus the mom's cooking bit. I have some much younger family members and worry about how an older relative's suicide would affect them.

 

[SoulWhisperer]

No and I will never have any, having a young brother already traumatized me enough. I don't like kids.

 

[WhiteRabbit]

No, I don't have children. I do have a young nephew who I love. If life had gone a different way for me, I could see myself having kids.

 

[betternever2havbeen]

Yeah yeah I've heard your take on it already. Someday you'll learn that your opinion isn't the only one, and also that you're not always right.

Bit ironic coming from someone who decided to force life on someone else. We can all have opinions but parents are the only ones forcing theirs onto others. I love this about parents, they get so offended when they're called selfish yet refuse to accept they've inflicted a lifetime of suffering onto their children.

 

[deadbidaylight]

Bit ironic coming from someone who decided to force life on someone else. We can all have opinions but parents are the only ones forcing theirs onto others. I love this about parents, they get so offended when they're called selfish yet refuse to accept they've inflicted a lifetime of suffering onto their children.

I'm truly sorry that your life has been shitty enough to project onto other people and assume that every single persons life is crap. It's truly a sad existence feeling the way you do.

I shower my child with love and affection, I provide all that she needs in her life and more. I do absolutely everything in my power to make sure she's got a positive upbringing, surrounded by people that love her and value her. If everyone thought the way you do, the human race would cease to exist, and I am thankful that your thought process is a minority. Although it's nonetheless asinine.

I refuse to let people like you make me feel guilty for having a child. It's honestly disgusting. I'm not sitting here calling you a piece of shit for choosing not to have children. Is it impossible for you to just keep your mouth shut and respect that I made a different decision than you? Or do you have an overwhelming need to put others down because you're so miserable? Why is it so hard for people to extend the same courtesy that is given to them? Have I sat here and trolled every post of people who choose not to have children? I'm pretty sure I commented on the fact that if you WANT to have children, it's a gift. That's MY PERSPECTIVE. I quite frankly don't give a fuck about yours but somehow need to be subjected to it anyway because you just can't help yourself.

It is literally free to be kind to others. You'd think being here would give you just a single ounce of humanity. I guess I was wrong.

 

[grapevoid]

No, and I don't want kids. If something were to happen and I somehow found myself pregnant then that dumb ass parasite better watch out

I love children but that made me LOL

I'm truly sorry that your life has been shitty enough to project onto other people and assume that every single persons life is crap. It's truly a sad existence feeling the way you do.

I shower my child with love and affection, I provide all that she needs in her life and more. I do absolutely everything in my power to make sure she's got a positive upbringing, surrounded by people that love her and value her. If everyone thought the way you do, the human race would cease to exist, and I am thankful that your thought process is a minority. Although it's nonetheless asinine.

I refuse to let people like you make me feel guilty for having a child. It's honestly disgusting. I'm not sitting here calling you a piece of shit for choosing not to have children. Is it impossible for you to just keep your mouth shut and respect that I made a different decision than you? Or do you have an overwhelming need to put others down because you're so miserable? Why is it so hard for people to extend the same courtesy that is given to them? Have I sat here and trolled every post of people who choose not to have children? I'm pretty sure I commented on the fact that if you WANT to have children, it's a gift. That's MY PERSPECTIVE. I quite frankly don't give a fuck about yours but somehow need to be subjected to it anyway because you just can't help yourself.

It is literally free to be kind to others. You'd think being here would give you just a single ounce of humanity. I guess I was wrong.

I'm not taking the time to read through all the comments here because I just don't care enough to hear what antinatalists say about this subject LOL but I just want to say to you that I think you're a great mother for LIVING for your child. The world isn't full of suffering and only has people who wish they were dead. I hope your daughter lives a long, happy and fulfilling life, she's lucky to have a mother that knows what suffering is to help protect and guide her

 

[Nobody'sHero]

If I were of sane mind, I'd love to have children, but I don't think it would be fair on them to see me in the states I've been in.
I wouldn't say it's selfish to bring a child into the world, I mean creating new life is the beauty of our world.

I do like to entertain the thought of having a family, a loving wife with 2 or 3 kids and just enjoying life with them. It might be sexist or outdated of me but I would love to come home after a hard days work to see my wife cooking a nice roast while my kids are playing out on the grass.
I guess it's nice to dream once in a while.

I think with having kids, I more so just want someone to be proud of me and provide me with love.

Anyways, I've got a younger brother who looks up to me and that's enough.

The dream...

 

[Silently Dying]

This is always a hard question for me to answer. I had a child who was murdered. When people ask if I have children I used to say no, but my child was here - she just isn't anymore

 

[grapevoid]

If I were of sane mind, I'd love to have children, but I don't think it would be fair on them to see me in the states I've been in.
I wouldn't say it's selfish to bring a child into the world, I mean creating new life is the beauty of our world.

I do like to entertain the thought of having a family, a loving wife with 2 or 3 kids and just enjoying life with them. It might be sexist or outdated of me but I would love to come home after a hard days work to see my wife cooking a nice roast while my kids are playing out on the grass.
I guess it's nice to dream once in a while.

I think with having kids, I more so just want someone to be proud of me and provide me with love.

Anyways, I've got a younger brother who looks up to me and that's enough.

That's very responsible of you. Had I realized the state of my mental health when I was younger I'd likely not have chosen to have children for this reason. My children are older now (literally almost adults) so luckily most of their childhood I was blissfully unaware of my trauma, before I experienced another traumatic event that basically opened the flood gates.

I think a lot of mental health problems (not all, but a lot) are environmental. There is a huge correlation between mental health and food, security, and stability. I think if someone is able to stabilize their own mental health and aren't diagnosed with something like bipolar or schizophrenia that is more of a genetic pass down, having children is great, because if you can provide the right environment your child will likely thrive and be happy for the life you've given them.

This is always a hard question for me to answer. I had a child who was murdered. When people ask if I have children I used to say no, but my child was here - she just isn't anymore

I am SO SORRY you went through this.