Does the gender of your suicide partner matter?

[2211264]

Was reading the thread about finding partners and they seem to talk a bit about male vs female partners. Got me a bit curious about why that is?

For Me I would like a female partner. Because I care about women, I don't really care about men and women statistically aren't as effective as men. I would see it as something caring to do and I just wouldn't want that person to go through the pain of what happens if it goes wrong.

Like if I can do one last good thing in my life before I go then that would really leave me happy.

An act of love really, not sappy personal romantic love, the love that puts others before yourself, a selfless love for others.

 

[Phro]

The gender doesn't matter to me. As long as our method works, male vs female is irrelevant to me.

I realize that some people have gender preferences and I respect them. To each their own.

 

[Ampsvx123]

Irrelevant to me even though I believe 90% of men in general are absolutely unbearable, hateful and so narcissistic.

I had the chance to meet one of those 0.1%, friendly, kind and 100% selfless back in college, I would love to say farewell to this ugly world with one of those rare being, it's just not happening nor am I worthy of such.

 

[DeletedUser4739]

generally, i think i'd prefer a male. they are less likely to be acting out in a cry for help. they choose more effective means and are more successful at it. i also think men are more comfortable making difficult emotional decisions...mainly due to culture being all fucked up and against women, bit nevertheless it exists. i wouldn't disregard a woman all together though. i would just have to get past some initial concerns that she is more crying out for help than made the decision to end her life here on Earth.

 

[Done]

I don't mind male or female, but as a 27 year old woman myself, I don't feel comfortable doing this with an older male (40+). Something about meeting an older man who is a stranger and doing such an intimate act (suicide) with him feels really odd for me. Maybe it's because I have daddy issues lol, but for the most part I don't trust or feel comfortable around older men in an intimate setting.

 

[DeletedUser4739]

I don't mind male or female, but as a 27 year old woman myself, I don't feel comfortable doing this with an older male (40+). Something about meeting an older man who is a stranger and doing such an intimate act (suicide) with him feels really odd for me. Maybe it's because I have daddy issues lol, but for the most part I don't trust or feel comfortable around older men in an intimate setting.

totally understandable. it's good to identify these things so if we chose a partner, hopefully it's a good choice. my dad is my best friend. he's dying now, and my Mom and I care for him in our home. once he's gone, i'm out. best wishes to you in finding a partner that is a good fit.

 

[Miss clefable]

I can relate

 

[wanttodie]

I don't mind male or female

 

[Ashton]

As a 39 year old guy I would like to meet another male around the same age 25 - 40.

 

[Morning Angel]

For a while I entertained the thought before realizing how much more work it is to organize a partnership and how unpredictable people can be. I generally feel more comfortable with other women though but I also think as a general tendency we are more wary of our safety.

 

[Ashpac]

I have seen the partners thread, i always get concerned when males say they want females.

Pervert alert

 

[Morning Angel]

I have seen the partners thread, i always get concerned when males say they want females. Pervert alert

Lmao

 

[Trashcan]

I'm a female and if I were to choose a partner it wouldn't really matter. As long as they know how to use a gun and could help me out with it, I'd be cool with it.

 

[Ashpac]

If i was to choose a partner, i wouldn't care, as long as they wanted to die.

But people be careful, you never know who you might meet.

Ladies, be careful in particular. Just saying.

 

[DeletedUser4739]

For a while I entertained the thought before realizing how much more work it is to organize a partnership and how unpredictable people can be. I generally feel more comfortable with other women though but I also think as a general tendency we are more wary of our safety.

initially, i was aiming for a partner. after more thought and research, i think i'm best going it alone. too many more things could go wrong

 

[DeletedUser4739]

I have seen the partners thread, i always get concerned when males say they want females.

Pervert alert

i wonder about that as well. however, i'm a woman and think i would prefer a man. i'm a sexual at this point, have been for years now. so maybe not all are perverts. there are likely women seeking men on this site too. we're all looking for something i guess

 

[MortDeVivre]

I wasn't concerned with the gender when I made contact with my partner (who I found out is a woman), but then all kinds of stuff started coming back to me. The fact that everybody who failed me was a woman (tumblr user, social worker, psychiatrist, doctor, mother). All the misandry I saw on tumblr. And then on top of that, seeing women exclude (if not discriminate against) men in their partner search on here. All of it stings a little, but I have to look past that. The only thing that matters is that I die. And my partner is still my best shot.

 

[akosineenee]

I have no preference tbqh. My only concern is safety and the sincerity of their statements. I don't want my partner to back out on me at the last minute or worse to panic. There's the probability of them jeopardizing the plan if panic sets in. I was looking for a partner when I stumbled on this site. Now, I'm at peace with dying alone. I mean don't we all die alone anyway?

 

[MEoDP]

I have no preference tbqh. My only concern is safety and the sincerity of their statements. I don't want my partner to back out on me at the last minute or worse to panic. There's the probability of them jeopardizing the plan if panic sets in. I was looking for a partner when I stumbled on this site. Now, I'm at peace with dying alone. I mean don't we all die alone anyway?

The only appeal of a partner for me is if I can't get my hands on the necessary tools myself. But I can understand why people would want to die together with a friend.

 

[akosineenee]

The only appeal of a partner for me is if I can't get my hands on the necessary tools myself. But I can understand why people would want to die together with a friend.

Lol. You don't need a partner, you need a supplier. ;)

 

[Delia]

uh i think i'd prefer female, because I am one and that i'd feel like i could trust that the plan goes as I expect? Like, if they're female and that i get proofs of it, i'm getting a bit more sure that it's not a potential creeper and that...
Not that I'm saying women can't be creepers as well but it's... Least likely imo? Plus there's the catfishing and all.

It's a bit contradictory like. Making a suicide pact and hoping you don't find a creeper when your planning to die anyways, but like there's so many "what if it doesn't go as planned and this happens etc etc"

 

[DeletedUser4739]

I have no preference tbqh. My only concern is safety and the sincerity of their statements. I don't want my partner to back out on me at the last minute or worse to panic. There's the probability of them jeopardizing the plan if panic sets in. I was looking for a partner when I stumbled on this site. Now, I'm at peace with dying alone. I mean don't we all die alone anyway?

i hear you. the more time i spend on this site and others, the more i realize i need to do this alone. why on earth would i suddenly expect people to change? let alone under these intense circumstances? from my experience, it just doesn't happen.

 

[DeletedUser4739]

I wasn't concerned with the gender when I made contact with my partner (who I found out is a woman), but then all kinds of stuff started coming back to me. The fact that everybody who failed me was a woman (tumblr user, social worker, psychiatrist, doctor, mother). All the misandry I saw on tumblr. And then on top of that, seeing women exclude (if not discriminate against) men in their partner search on here. All of it stings a little, but I have to look past that. The only thing that matters is that I die. And my partner is still my best shot.

for what it's worth, i think it's good you recognized how you feel about women overall and why. maybe this is an opportunity to have a better experience. whatever the case, i wish you well.

 

[Caustic Cardinals]

I have seen the partners thread, i always get concerned when males say they want females.

Pervert alert

Total red flag

 

[Caustic Cardinals]

idk I just need to be on the same page and relate

 

[bigj75]

Doesn't matter since I'm doing this alone anyways. Girl or guy could be a serial killer and I'd end up tortured for a few weeks before they kill me. Not how I want to go.

 

[Caustic Cardinals]

I'm trans so should put more thought into this

 

[bigj75]

Some one to talk to is a different story though. I wouldnt care if they were girl or guy. But to actually ctb together face to face is too risky.

 

[bigj75]

I'm trans so should put more thought into this

 

[Caustic Cardinals]

ah am I your fetish ?