Unbearable Mr. Bear
Sometimes, all you need is a hug...
- May 9, 2025
- 742
You should have brutally forced him to stop doing that (By muting his ass off if necessary).
Anyway, hope you're doing better, friend.
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Anyway, hope you're doing better, friend.
SailorBlue
Anxious mess
- Jun 21, 2025
- 42
I would like to regain control of my life and no longer be tortured by my depression and social phobia.
I should go back to school to finally get a job and be independent, but it terrifies me.
It's a failure this year, but I'd like to try again next year. I don't know how to do it; I probably need friends and a good therapist.
I should go back to school to finally get a job and be independent, but it terrifies me.
It's a failure this year, but I'd like to try again next year. I don't know how to do it; I probably need friends and a good therapist.
HighFlight
Global mod
- Jun 28, 2023
- 711
HI @SailorBlue, I'm sorry you're in this situation; depression and social phobia are a difficult combination. Know that you are not alone. There are several on this site, myself included, who share your pain.
You are correct about finding a good therapist. I would highly recommend making this a priority.
Ironically, lots of people talk about being lonely and wanting friends. But IMHO, this is making the situation worse. Instead of focusing on finding a friend, focus on finding a hobby that you are interested in. That could be our job, or certain classes in school, or just something you do in your free time. Spend your energy there. But do it in real life, not over the internet. While you are doing it, you will naturally meet others with little social awkwardness, as everyone will be focused on the task. Jut my 2-cents.
However, I have dealt with this problem by helping my children navigate their way through it. I'm happy to report that both are making tremendous steps forward. If you need talk, feel free to dm me.
Hoping you can find some peace before the net school year begins.
You are correct about finding a good therapist. I would highly recommend making this a priority.
Ironically, lots of people talk about being lonely and wanting friends. But IMHO, this is making the situation worse. Instead of focusing on finding a friend, focus on finding a hobby that you are interested in. That could be our job, or certain classes in school, or just something you do in your free time. Spend your energy there. But do it in real life, not over the internet. While you are doing it, you will naturally meet others with little social awkwardness, as everyone will be focused on the task. Jut my 2-cents.
However, I have dealt with this problem by helping my children navigate their way through it. I'm happy to report that both are making tremendous steps forward. If you need talk, feel free to dm me.
Hoping you can find some peace before the net school year begins.
