"I'd like to feel a bit better/ I'd like to recover" Support Group Megathread

[Unbearable Mr. Bear]

Middle Eastern friend has brutally forced me to use my voice

You should have brutally forced him to stop doing that (By muting his ass off if necessary).

Anyway, hope you're doing better, friend.

 

[SailorBlue]

I would like to regain control of my life and no longer be tortured by my depression and social phobia.
I should go back to school to finally get a job and be independent, but it terrifies me.

It's a failure this year, but I'd like to try again next year. I don't know how to do it; I probably need friends and a good therapist.

 

[HighFlight]

HI @SailorBlue, I'm sorry you're in this situation; depression and social phobia are a difficult combination. Know that you are not alone. There are several on this site, myself included, who share your pain.

You are correct about finding a good therapist. I would highly recommend making this a priority.

Ironically, lots of people talk about being lonely and wanting friends. But IMHO, this is making the situation worse. Instead of focusing on finding a friend, focus on finding a hobby that you are interested in. That could be our job, or certain classes in school, or just something you do in your free time. Spend your energy there. But do it in real life, not over the internet. While you are doing it, you will naturally meet others with little social awkwardness, as everyone will be focused on the task. Jut my 2-cents.

However, I have dealt with this problem by helping my children navigate their way through it. I'm happy to report that both are making tremendous steps forward. If you need talk, feel free to dm me.

Hoping you can find some peace before the next school year begins.

 

[derekWest]

I don't really know why but I thought heavily about prepare ctb this week-end.
I thought about my tendency to always be anxious (never smile, ...). My difficulties to find my love partner.
I have also the thoughts to be angry to everyone around me. I don't know why.
So I had a urge to prepare a fake medical prescription to get some meds and be ready to an hypothetical 2nd ctb attempt....

But, curiously, I manage to get a hookup this morning with a guy. It was a deception (I don't manage to get an orgasme) but it allow me to thing about something else, I think...
Then, I go swimming to the sea.

Big mood changing....

 

[Adûnâi]

You should have brutally forced him to stop doing that (By muting his ass off if necessary).

Anyway, hope you're doing better, friend.

Oh, why would I reject actual help? I'm not an attention fisher with phantom issues, my issues are actually real, so I'm in no position to afford to scoff at any help, hahah. I can definitely imagine people who would.

Alright, to clarify what I mean - I'm not a girl who's complaining about being lonely and then closes off her DMs because of "creeps". I'm actually trying to overcome myself (once in a blue moon) to improve. And on this topic - I managed to make voice messages just fine to my fake gf just fine throughout 2024, it's the real-time aspect that throws me off (and of course the general lack of any similarities between me and the potential conversation partners - that's an issue I encounters on Slowly, too).

 

[Unbearable Mr. Bear]

Oh, why would I reject actual help? I'm not an attention fisher with phantom issues, my issues are actually real, so I'm in no position to afford to scoff at any help, hahah. I can definitely imagine people who would.

Alright, to clarify what I mean - I'm not a girl who's complaining about being lonely and then closes off her DMs because of "creeps". I'm actually trying to overcome myself (once in a blue moon) to improve. And on this topic - I managed to make voice messages just fine to my fake gf just fine throughout 2024, it's the real-time aspect that throws me off (and of course the general lack of any similarities between me and the potential conversation partners - that's an issue I encounters on Slowly, too).

I was not talking about rejecting help. I was talking about him forcing you to do live voice chat even though you probably told them you didn't want to.

 

[Adûnâi]

I was not talking about rejecting help. I was talking about him forcing you to do live voice chat even though you probably told them you didn't want to.

Well, the thing is that I've never faced any danger or hardship in my life. My poor mom still hasn't forced me to wash the dishes, and I'm almost 30. So "being forced" is somewhat of an unattainable fantasy for me. Apologies if I misunderstood you, after all, most people seem to be forced, and my situation has always been the opposite in my bizarre pseudo-life.

I'm actually trying to make a bigger deal out of it than it was. It happened 3 or 4 days ago, and since then I've discovered a channel Evildea who makes reviews on YouTube polyglots determining if they're fake or not. So while my life is admittedly dull, I constantly seem to find find something new. I have screenshotted like 500 comments under the videos of a Russian YouTuber Strateg, too - and I still have 2 hours to finish listening to! And I have been consuming dried bananas my mom bought me - which are ridiculously good AND not chocolate, so I've actually verifiably lost some kg over these weeks which I had never done before in my life (not in a controlled fashion anyway - 2020 had some cozy starvation, too).

AND I've been making 5000 rotations on the stationary bike machine per day, so that's some exercise (I used to read 2k and even 3k footsteps, both both of the stepping machines broke lmao).

 

[Unbearable Mr. Bear]

Well, the thing is that I've never faced any danger or hardship in my life. My poor mom still hasn't forced me to wash the dishes, and I'm almost 30. So "being forced" is somewhat of an unattainable fantasy for me. Apologies if I misunderstood you, after all, most people seem to be forced, and my situation has always been the opposite in my bizarre pseudo-life.

I'm actually trying to make a bigger deal out of it than it was. It happened 3 or 4 days ago, and since then I've discovered a channel Evildea who makes reviews on YouTube polyglots determining if they're fake or not. So while my life is admittedly dull, I constantly seem to find find something new. I have screenshotted like 500 comments under the videos of a Russian YouTuber Strateg, too - and I still have 2 hours to finish listening to! And I have been consuming dried bananas my mom bought me - which are ridiculously good AND not chocolate, so I've actually verifiably lost some kg over these weeks which I had never done before in my life (not in a controlled fashion anyway - 2020 had some cozy starvation, too).

AND I've been making 5000 rotations on the stationary bike machine per day, so that's some exercise (I used to read 2k and even 3k footsteps, both both of the stepping machines broke lmao).

Wow good job on that, you're really putting yourself into it! What I mean by forced is that he coerced you into doing what he wanted (Voice chat), as in, if you didn't do it, he wouldn't ever stop bothering you.